Mukhoza kusintha makhalidwe ena, ndipo nthawi zina mumafunika kutero. Koma kodi chikhumbo chathu chokhacho n'chokwanira? Asayansi ochokera ku yunivesite ya Arizona atsimikizira kuti njirayi ndi yothandiza kwambiri ngati simukuchita nokha, koma mothandizidwa ndi akatswiri kapena anthu amalingaliro ofanana.
Mosiyana ndi tsankho limene lilipo loti anthu sasintha, asayansi atsimikizira kuti timasinthadi m’moyo wathu wonse—malinga ndi zochitika, mikhalidwe, ndi zaka. Mwachitsanzo, kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti timakonda kukhala osamala kwambiri m’zaka zathu za ku koleji, kusakhala ndi mayanjano pambuyo pa m’banja, ndiponso kukhala omasuka tikafika msinkhu wopuma pantchito.
Inde, mikhalidwe ya moyo imatisintha. Koma kodi ife eni tingathe kusintha makhalidwe a khalidwe lathu ngati tikufuna? Erika Baransky, wofufuza pa yunivesite ya Arizona, anafunsa funsoli. Adapempha magulu awiri a anthu kuti achite nawo kafukufuku wapaintaneti: pafupifupi anthu 500 azaka zapakati pa 19 mpaka 82 komanso ophunzira aku koleji pafupifupi 360.
Anthu ambiri adanena kuti akufuna kuonjezera kuwonjezereka, kudzipereka, komanso kukhazikika maganizo
Kuyeseraku kudatengera lingaliro lodziwika mwasayansi la "makhalidwe akulu asanu", omwe akuphatikizapo:
- kuonjezera,
- ubwino (ubwenzi, luso logwirizana),
- chikumbumtima (consciousness),
- neuroticism (chosiyana ndi kukhazikika kwamalingaliro),
- kumasuka ku zochitika (luntha).
Choyamba, otenga nawo mbali onse adafunsidwa kuti alembe mafunso a 44 kuti ayese mikhalidwe isanu yayikulu ya umunthu wawo, ndikufunsidwa ngati akufuna kusintha china chake. Omwe adayankha bwino adalongosola zosintha zomwe zidafunidwa.
M'magulu onse awiriwa, anthu ambiri adanena kuti akufuna kuwonjezera kuwonjezereka, kudzipereka, ndi kukhazikika maganizo.
Kusintha… m'malo mwake
Ophunzira a ku koleji anafunsidwa kachiwiri miyezi isanu ndi umodzi pambuyo pake, ndipo gulu loyamba patatha chaka. Palibe gulu lomwe linakwaniritsa zolinga zawo. Komanso, ena adawonetsa kusintha kosiyana.
Malinga ndi kunena kwa Baranski, kwa anthu a m’gulu loyambalo, “zolinga zosintha umunthu wawo sizinasinthe kwenikweni. Zachiwiri, gulu la ophunzira, panali zotsatira zina, ngakhale sizinali zomwe munthu angayembekezere. Achinyamata mwina anasintha makhalidwe awo osankhidwa, koma mosiyana, kapena mbali zina za umunthu wawo.
Makamaka, ophunzira aku koleji omwe amalakalaka kukhala osamala kwambiri anali osachita chidwi kwambiri miyezi isanu ndi umodzi pambuyo pake. Izi mwina zidachitika chifukwa chidziwitso chawo chinali chocheperako kuyambira pachiyambi.
Ngakhale titadziwa phindu la nthawi yayitali la kusintha kosatha, zolinga zazing'ono zimawoneka zofunika kwambiri
Koma pakati pa ophunzira amene anasonyeza chikhumbo kuonjezera extraversion, kuyezetsa komaliza anasonyeza kuwonjezeka makhalidwe monga ubwenzi ndi kukhazikika maganizo. Mwina pofuna kukhala ochezeka kwambiri, wofufuzayo ananena kuti iwo ankangoganizira kwambiri za kukhala ochezeka komanso osakhala ndi nkhawa. Ndipo khalidweli limagwirizana kwambiri ndi kukoma mtima komanso kukhazikika maganizo.
Mwina gulu la ophunzira aku koleji adakumana ndi zosintha zambiri chifukwa akukumana ndi nthawi yosintha m'miyoyo yawo. Amalowa m'malo atsopano ndipo nthawi zambiri amamva chisoni. Mwina poyesera kusintha makhalidwe awo, amakhala osangalala pang'ono, akutero Baranski. "Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, akukakamizidwa ndi zofunikira zosiyanasiyana - ayenera kuchita bwino, kusankha ntchito yapadera, kuphunzira ntchito ... Izi ndi ntchito zomwe zili patsogolo pakalipano.
Ngakhale ophunzirawo akudziwa za phindu la nthawi yayitali la kusintha kokhazikika, zolinga zanthawi yochepa zimawoneka ngati zofunika kwambiri kwa iwo mumkhalidwewu. "
Chikhumbo chimodzi sichikwanira
Nthawi zambiri, zotsatira za kafukufukuyu zikusonyeza kuti n’kovuta kuti tisinthe makhalidwe athu chifukwa cha chikhumbo chokha. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti sitingathe kusintha khalidwe lathu. Titha kungofuna thandizo lakunja, adatero Baranski, kuchokera kwa katswiri, bwenzi, kapena pulogalamu yam'manja kuti itikumbutse zolinga zathu.
Erica Baranski mwadala sanagwirizane ndi omwe akugwira nawo ntchitoyi pakati pa gawo loyamba ndi lachiwiri la kusonkhanitsa deta. Izi ndizosiyana ndi njira ya wasayansi wina, Nathan Hudson wa Southern Methodist University, yemwe, pamodzi ndi anzake, adatsatira maphunziro kwa milungu 16 m'maphunziro ena angapo.
Pali umboni mu psychology yachipatala kuti kuphunzitsa kwachipatala kumabweretsa kusintha kwa umunthu ndi khalidwe.
Oyeserawo adawunika mikhalidwe ya omwe adatenga nawo gawo komanso kupita patsogolo kwawo kuti akwaniritse zolingazo pakatha milungu ingapo iliyonse. Pogwirizana kwambiri ndi asayansi, anthuwa adapita patsogolo kwambiri posintha khalidwe lawo.
"Pali umboni m'maganizo achipatala kuti kuphunzitsa kwachipatala kumabweretsa kusintha kwa umunthu ndi khalidwe," akufotokoza motero Baranski. - Palinso umboni waposachedwa wakuti ndi kuyanjana nthawi zonse pakati pa wophunzirayo ndi woyesera, kusintha kwa umunthu ndikothekadi. Koma tikasiyidwa ndi ntchito iyi imodzi ndi imodzi, mwayi wosintha siwopambana.
Katswiriyu akuyembekeza kuti kafukufuku wamtsogolo adzawonetsa kuchuluka kwa kulowererapo komwe kukufunika kutithandiza kukwaniritsa zolinga zathu, ndi njira ziti zomwe zili bwino kwambiri posintha ndikukulitsa mikhalidwe yosiyanasiyana.