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Anthu ambiri samayesa kuyambitsa ntchito zatsopano, kusintha ntchito yawo, kutsegula bizinesi yawo chifukwa alibe chidaliro pa luso lawo. Iwo amakhulupirira kuti zopinga zakunja ndi kudodometsa ndizo zimachititsa, koma kwenikweni amadziletsa, akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Beth Kerland.
Nthawi zambiri timadziuza tokha komanso kumva kuchokera kwa anzathu: "Palibe chomwe chingagwire ntchito." Mawuwa amachotsa chidaliro. Khoma lopanda kanthu limakwera kutsogolo kwathu, zomwe zimatikakamiza kubwerera m'mbuyo kapena kukhala m'malo mwake. Zimakhala zovuta kupita patsogolo pamene mawu atengedwa mopepuka.
"Kwambiri ya moyo wanga, ndasilira iwo omwe adachita bwino: adapeza ndikuthandizira anthu, adapanga bizinesi yaying'ono ndikumanga ufumu, adalemba zolemba zomwe zidapanga filimu yachipembedzo, samawopa kuyankhula pamaso pa gulu lachipembedzo. omvera zikwizikwi, ndikubwereza kwa ine ndekha kuti: "Sindingachite bwino". Koma tsiku lina ndinaganizira mawu amenewa ndipo ndinazindikira kuti amandilepheretsa kuchita zimene ndikufuna,” akukumbukira motero Beth Kerland.
Zimatengera chiyani kuti tikwaniritse zosatheka? Ndi chiyani chomwe chingakuthandizeni kuthana ndi vuto lodzikayikira ndikupitilira njira yopita ku zolinga zanu? Katswiri wa zamaganizo akusonyeza kuyambira ndi masitepe asanu omwe angasinthe moyo wanu ndikukuuzani momwe mungayambire kupita patsogolo.
1. Dziwani kuti kudziona kwanu si zoona, koma ndi chiweruzo cholakwika.
Timakonda kukhulupirira mwakhungu mawu a m'mutu mwathu omwe amatiuza kuti tidzataya. Timatsatira chitsogozo chake, chifukwa tadzitsimikizira tokha kuti sizingakhale mwanjira ina. Ndipotu ziweruzo zathu nthawi zambiri zimakhala zolakwika kapena zopotoka. M'malo mobwereza kuti simudzapambana, nenani, "Izi ndizowopsa komanso zovuta, koma ndiyesetsa."
Samalani zomwe zimachitika mthupi lanu mukamanena mawu awa. Yesani kuchita kusinkhasinkha mwanzeru, ndi njira yabwino yowonera malingaliro anu ndikuwona momwe akusinthira.
2. Zindikirani kuti palibe vuto kuopa zosadziwika.
Sikoyenera kuyembekezera mpaka kukayikira, mantha ndi nkhawa zitatha kuti mutengere chiopsezo ndikuchita zomwe mukulota. Nthawi zambiri zimawoneka kwa ife kuti malingaliro osasangalatsa adzatsagana ndi sitepe iliyonse panjira yopita ku cholingacho. Komabe, tikamayang'ana kwambiri zomwe zili zamtengo wapatali komanso zofunika kwambiri, zimakhala zosavuta kusiya kukhumudwa ndikuchitapo kanthu.
“Kulimba mtima sindiko kusakhalapo kwa mantha, koma kumvetsetsa kuti pali chinachake chofunika kwambiri kuposa mantha,” analemba motero wafilosofi wa ku Amereka Ambrose Redmoon.. Dzifunseni zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kwa inu kuposa mantha ndi kukayikira, chifukwa cha zomwe mwakonzeka kupirira zosasangalatsa.
3. Dulani njira yopita ku cholinga chachikulu kukhala masitepe achidule, otheka kukwaniritsa.
Ndizovuta kutenga chinthu chomwe simukutsimikiza. Koma ngati mutatenga njira zing’onozing’ono ndikudzitamandira pa chilichonse chimene mwachita, mudzakhala odzidalira. Mu psychotherapy, njira yowonetsera omaliza maphunziro imagwiritsidwa ntchito bwino, pamene kasitomala pang'onopang'ono, pang'onopang'ono, amaphunzira kuvomereza zochitika zomwe amapewa kapena kuziopa.
“Nthawi zambiri ndaona mavuto amene anthu amakumana nawo. Kugonjetsa gawo limodzi ndikupita kumalo ena, pang'onopang'ono amapeza mphamvu, zomwe zimathandiza kupirira zovuta zatsopano. Kuphatikiza apo, ndidakhutira ndi zomwe ndakumana nazo kuti zimagwira ntchito, "adatero Beth Kerland.
Ganizirani za gawo laling'ono lomwe mungatenge lero kapena sabata ino kuti mupite ku cholinga chachikulu komanso chofunikira.
4. Funsani ndi kupempha thandizo
Tsoka ilo, anthu ambiri amaphunzitsidwa kuyambira ali ana kuti anzeru ndi opupuluma sadalira thandizo la aliyense. Pazifukwa zina, anthu amaona kuti n’zochititsa manyazi kupempha thandizo. Ndipotu, zosiyana ndi zoona: anthu ochenjera kwambiri amadziwa momwe angapezere omwe angathandize, ndipo musazengereze kulumikizana nawo.
"Nthawi zonse ndikayamba ntchito yatsopano, ndimavomereza kuti panali akatswiri omwe amadziwa bwino mutuwo kuposa ine, amalumikizana nawo ndikudalira upangiri wawo, malangizo ndi chidziwitso kuti aphunzire zonse zomwe ayenera kudziwa," akutero Beth.
5. Konzekerani kulephera
Phunzirani, yesetsani, pita patsogolo tsiku lililonse ndipo ngati chinachake sichikuyenda bwino, yesaninso, yeretsani ndikusintha njira. Hiccups ndi zophonya ndizosapeweka, koma zitengereni ngati mwayi woganiziranso njira zomwe mwasankha, osati ngati chifukwa chosiya.
Kuyang'ana anthu ochita bwino, nthawi zambiri timadzipeza tikuganiza kuti anali ndi mwayi, mwayi wokha unagwera m'manja mwawo ndipo adadzuka otchuka. Zimachitika ndi zotere, koma ambiri a iwo anapita bwino kwa zaka. Ambiri a iwo anakumana ndi mavuto ndi zopinga, koma ngati akanalola kusiya, sakanakwaniritsa zolinga zawo.
Ganiziranitu za mmene mungachitire ndi zolephera zosapeweka. Pangani ndondomeko yolembera kuti mubwerere ngati mwalephera. Mwachitsanzo, lembani mawu amene akukumbutsani kuti zimenezi si zolephera, koma ndizochitika zofunika zimene zinakuphunzitsani chinachake.
Aliyense wa ife amatha kusintha dziko, aliyense wa ife akhoza kuchita chinachake chofunika, muyenera kungoyerekeza kutenga sitepe molimba mtima. Mudzadabwitsidwa mukazindikira kuti khoma lomwe lakula m'njira silosagonjetseka.
Za Wolemba: Beth Kerland ndi katswiri wazamisala komanso wolemba buku la Dancing on a Tightrope: Momwe Mungasinthire Makhalidwe Anu Azozolowereka ndi Kukhala Ndi Moyo Weniweni.