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Makolo oteteza kwambiri: zimakhudza bwanji ana?
“Mwana wanga wamkazi amakwiyira, koma ndimaona ngati ndikumupatsa chilichonse, sindikumvetsa. “Tamukonzera zinthu zambiri chaka chino, koma akuwoneka wokhumudwa, chifukwa chiyani? Timawerenga maumboni angapo amtunduwu pamabwalo azokambirana ndi malo ochezera. Makolo amene amasonyeza kuti akudera nkhawa ana awo zimene amaona kuti akukwaniritsa. Amayi oda nkhawa, otopa omwe atsala pang'ono kuphulika.
Kodi tikukhala mu nthawi zoseketsa ziti? Makolo masiku ano ali pansi pa chitsenderezo cha anthu chimene chimawakakamiza kuchita bwino m’mbali zonse. Amaona kuti ali ndi udindo wochita bwino kwambiri pantchito yawo ndipo amafuna kukhala makolo achitsanzo chabwino. Kuopa kuchita zoipa, kuweruzidwa ndi ena kumawafooketsa. Mosazindikira, amaika ziyembekezo zawo zonse za chipambano pa ana awo. Koma nthawi ikutha. Chotero, atadetsedwa ndi liwongo la kusawona mokwanira kwa ana awo, iwo amayesetsa kuyankha ndi kuyembekezera zikhumbo zawo zazing’ono ndi zofuna zawo. Kuwerengera molakwika…
Ana amene alibenso nthawi yopuma
Liliane Holstein wawona chodabwitsa ichi kwa zaka zambiri muzochita zake za psychoanalysis pomwe amalandila makolo ndi ana mosokonekera. “Makolo masiku ano ali ndi nkhawa. Amaganiza kuti akuchita bwino pokwaniritsa zosowa zonse za ana awo, koma kwenikweni akulakwitsa. Mwa kuteteza ana awo mopambanitsa, amawafooketsa kwambiri kuposa china chilichonse. “ Kwa psychoanalyst, ana alibenso nthawi yolota zomwe zingawasangalatse popeza zokhumba zawo zimakwaniritsidwa nthawi yomweyo ndipo nthawi zina zimayembekezeredwa. “Munthu wina akakuchitirani chilichonse, simuli wokonzeka kukumana ndi zolephera kapena zovuta zina,” akupitiriza motero katswiriyo. Ana sadziwa kuti n’zotheka kulephera n’kudzipeza otaika. Ayenera kukhala okonzeka kuyambira ali aang'ono. Mwana amene aponya chinthu pansi amayesa munthu wamkulu. Ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti chilichonse chimene angachite, khololo silidzakhalapo nthawi zonse kuti lizitolere. Tikamazoloŵera mwana kulimbana ndi zokhumudwitsa, m’pamenenso timamuthandiza kukhala wodziimira payekha. Simungaganizire chisangalalo chimene mwana wamng'ono amasangalala nacho akakwanitsa kuchita chinachake payekha. M’malo mwake, pomuthandiza, posonyeza zokhumba zake ndi zokhumba zake pa iye, timafika pomupondereza. Monga momwe kulili kopanda phindu kumfulumiza, kuyesetsa kuti akulitse luso lake mwa kumukakamiza kuchita zinthu mosalekeza.
Nkhawa, kukhumudwa, mkwiyo ... zizindikiro za kusapeza bwino
Liliane Holstein anati: “Ndimachita chidwi ndi mmene anawo alili otopa. Uthenga umene akupeza ndi wakuti sangaumvetsenso. Sakumvetsetsa kayimbidwe kameneka kamene kakambidwa kwa iwo ndipo kuyang’ana kwa makolo kumeneku kumangoyang’ana pa iwo kosatha. ” Vuto ndiloti nthawi zambiri makolo amaganiza kuti akuchita bwino akamawachitira chilichonse kapena kuti amakhala ndi mphindi iliyonse ya dongosolo lawo. Nthawi yofunsa mafunso Nthawi zambiri, ndi mwana yemwe amalira mabelu. "Kuti athetse kusasangalala kwake, amakakamizika kuchita zinthu monyanyira, akutsindika za psychoanalyst. Amayambitsa kulira kophiphiritsa kokhala tcheru mwa kukhumudwa, kukhumudwa kapena m'malo mwake mwankhanza ndi makolo ake. »Mwa njira ina, amatha kuwonetsa ululu wobwerezabwereza: kupweteka kwa m'mimba, mavuto a khungu, kupuma, kuvutika kugona.
Makolo ali ndi makiyi othetsa vutoli
M'mikhalidwe imeneyi, kumakhala kofulumira kuchitapo kanthu. Koma kodi mungapeze bwanji kulinganizika koyenera: kondani, tetezani mwana wanu popanda kum’pondereza, ndi kumuthandiza kukhala wodziimira payekha. “Makolo ali ndi mphamvu zothetsa unyinji wochuluka wa kusokonekera kwa maganizo kwa ana awo malinga ngati adziŵa kukhalapo kwa vuto,” akufotokoza motero katswiri wa zamaganizo. Akafunsana, nthawi zambiri amazindikira msanga nkhawa zomwe amabweretsa ku mabanja awo. ” Koposa zonse, mwana wamng’ono amafunikira chifundo, chomwe n’chofunika kwambiri kuti azichita zinthu moyenera.. Koma tiyeneranso kumupatsa malo ndi nthawi yofunikira kuti athe kulota ndikuwonetsa luso lake.