Kodi sizodabwitsa kuti kulibe sukulu ya chikondi? Paubwana wathu, timatenga chinenero, mbiri, luso kapena maphunziro oyendetsa galimoto, koma palibe chomwe sichili ndi chikondi. Kumverera kwapakati kumeneku m'moyo wathu, tiyenera pezani izo zokha ndikudikirira kuti zinthu zitichitikire kuti tiphunzire kukonda. Ndipo ngati mwambi umanena kuti " tikamakonda, timadziwa », Akatswiri sagwirizana kwenikweni…

Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zimene zingatithandize kuzindikira kuti tili ndi mphamvu? Kuthamanga kwa kugunda, kufiira, nkhawa, kukhumba, chisangalalo, chisangalalo chambiri, kusangalatsa kwathunthu… Kodi ndi chikondi chenicheni? Kodi izi sizizindikiro za chikhumbo? Chinthu chimodzi ndi chotsimikizika: chikondi nthawi zonse chimathawa kuganiza mozama. Ndi chinsinsi kwa iwo amene ali moyo komanso kwa amene ali mboni zake. 

Kuopa. Kukonda ndiko kuchita mantha. Kuopa kusakondanso wokondedwa wako, kulepheranso kumusamalira. Kwa Monique Schneider, psychoanalyst, " Chikondi chimaphatikizapo kuika moyo pachiswe. Zimadzutsa chodabwitsa cha chizungulire, nthawi zina ngakhale kukanidwa: tikhoza kuthetsa chikondi chifukwa timachiopa kwambiri, kuchiwononga pamene tikuyesera kufotokoza zakukhosi, kuchepetsa kufunika kwake poyang'ana ntchito yomwe chirichonse chimadalira pawekha. Zonse zimatengera kudziteteza ku mphamvu yopambana ya wina pa ife. »

Ndikufuna kusangalatsa. Mosiyana ndi chikhumbo, chikondi n’chopanda dyera. Chikondi, mosasamala kanthu za thupi, ndicho chikhumbo chofuna kukondweretsa ena, kuwapatsa chimwemwe ndi chisangalalo. “Pokankhira malingaliro awa mpaka kumapeto, akuwonjezera kachipatala Catherine Solano, Titha kunena kuti mwachikondi, ndife okondwa kuti winayo ndi wokondwa, ngakhale atakhala opanda ife ”. 

Amafunika ena. Chikondi nthawi zambiri chimachititsa kuti pakhale kusowa, makamaka kumayambiriro kwake, pamene winayo palibe. Mlingo wachabechabe uwu ukhoza kusonyeza chikondi chomwe muli nacho pa wina.

Khalani ndi ntchito zofanana. Mukakhala m'chikondi, mumaphatikizapo wokondedwa wanu muzosankha zanu, ntchito zanu, zosankha zanu. Nthawi zonse timachita zinthu molingana ndi zokonda zathu, zokonda za mnzathu komanso zokonda za banjali. Kukhala m’chikondi ndiko kufuna kuti winayo akhale wosangalala, zomwe zimatanthauzanso kulolerana. 

Tikakhala m’chikondi, tingathenso: 

• Khala nsanje, malinga ngati nsanje ikhalitsa;
• Kufuna omwe ali pafupi nafe kuti aziyamikira ena;
• Sinthani makhalidwe, maganizo, zokonda;
• Kukhala osangalala, kuseka, kusewera zinthu zofunika kwambiri.

Kodi ndi liti pamene muyenera kunena kuti “ndimakukondani” kwa nthawi yoyamba?

Ndisananene, ganizirani mofatsa za tanthauzo lake kwa inu. Timazitchula mobwezera, koma zikafika potenga mphindi zochepa kuti tifotokoze, palibe chomwe chimagwira ntchito. Ndi chithunzithunzi chomwe chimatipempha kuti tizikumbukira nthawi za chisangalalo, zomverera, zomverera, maonekedwe, fungo, phokoso, zilakolako ... Mwinanso, ndizosatheka kufotokozera chikondi kupatula nthawi zosakhalitsa izi… Yesani kupangitsa wokondedwa wanu kumvetsetsa zomwe izi mawu amatanthauza kwa inu, pambuyo kapena asananene, chifukwa si onse “ndimakukondani” ofanana. Zina zingamveke ngati pemphero, mgwirizano, ngongole. Iwo amafunsa funso: " Ndipo inu, mumandikonda ine? “. Mu izi, amachita makamaka ngati synchronizer: ngati mnzakeyo ayankha inde, amamukondanso, okonda awiriwo akadali mugawo. Amatha kugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati ndondomeko ya zolinga zonse, kuthandiza kusintha kusinthana, monga ndi placebo, amene amachita zabwino kwa iye amene amachitchula, ndipo palibe choipa kwa iye amene akuchilandira, kapena ngati kuzunza, pamene simukufuna kusiyidwa ku tsogolo lanu. 

Mulimonsemo, dziwani kuti si onse "ndimakukondani" omwe adalengedwa ofanana. Nthawi zambiri, samalekerera ma adverbs: sitikonda pang'ono, kapena zambiri, timangofuna. Choncho khalani mu classics. 

Kuti timvetse chomwe chikondi chenicheni chiri, tiyenera kudalira ntchito ya filosofi Denis Moreau, yemwe amasiyanitsa mitundu itatu ya "chikondi".

L'Eros ndi chikondi mu chikhalidwe chake cha chithupithupi. Nthawi zambiri amapezeka kumayambiriro kwa ubale "wachikondi" ndipo amafanana ndi chilakolako, chilakolako. 

Agape ndi chikondi chimene n’chovuta kumasulira chimene chimafanana ndi “mphatso ya iwe mwini” kwa mnzake, kudzipereka ndi kudzimana.

La philia ndi chothandizira, chikondi cha "m'banja", chomwe chimatanthawuza kukumbukira wamba, kuleza mtima, kupezeka, ulemu, ulemu, kukhulupirika, chidaliro, kuona mtima, kukhulupirika, chifundo, kuwolowa manja, kulekerera, nthawi imodzi ndi kubwezerana. Ndi a chikondi chomangidwa kwambiri. 

Chikondi chenicheni, choyera kwambiri, ndi msonkhano wa atatuwo,” wapamwamba kwambiri kuposa chilichonse cha zigawo zake '. ” Pamene nthawi ikupita, m'pamenenso ndimamvetsetsa kuti timakonda kuzindikira chikondi ndi moto wokhawokha, kapena wowonjezera, wa chiyambi chake, ndipo ndimayesedwa kwambiri kuti ndiyimbe za kukongola, ndi ubwino, wa chikondi chamtendere chomwe chikuchitika kwa nthawi yaitali. nthawi ya moyo wamba Iye akuwonjezera. Chifukwa chake, mukukhudzidwa ndi izi"chikondi chowona"?"

Osasokoneza chikondi ndi chilakolako, izi "Mkhalidwe wa chisangalalo chomwe nthawi zina zotengera za idyll zoyambira zimagwera “! Chikhumbo chimatha nthawi zonse. Koma kuphulika koyambirira kumeneku sikumatsatira chisoni ndi chiwonongeko: " chikondi chimasinthidwa, ndipo chitha kusinthidwa kukhala chinthu china osati chilakolako, chomwe umphawi wa lexical wa chilankhulo cha Chifalansa pa nkhani za chikondi umapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kufotokoza. ".

« Chikondi chimene chimasonyezedwa chimasanduka nthunzi. Kaŵirikaŵiri okonda kupsopsona pagulu azungu amakondana kwa nthawi yaitali ". Marcelle Auclair Chikondi.

« Kodi kumverera uku kodzikhulupirira nokha mu chikondi kumachokera kuti, pamene winayo ndi chithunzi chabe cha zomwe mungakonde kuzikonda? “. Mariya wochokera kumwamba Agnès Ledig

« Koma mukudziwa tikakhala pachikondi ndife opusa. »Chithovu cha masiku a Boris wanu

« Sitikondana wina ndi mnzake monga m'nkhani, maliseche komanso kosatha. Kudzikonda nthawi zonse kumenyana ndi zikwi zamphamvu zobisika zomwe zimachokera kwa inu kapena kudziko lapansi. "Jean Anouilh

« Pali anthu okhuta kwambiri moti akamakondana amapeza njira yodzisamalira osasamalidwa ndi munthu amene amamukonda. "La Rochefoucauld.