Kodi banja lachiŵiri limakhala losangalala nthaŵi zonse kuposa loyamba?

Aliyense amene anayesa kumanga ubale watsopano amathera nthawi yochuluka kuganizira ndi kukambirana za izo ndi okondedwa. Koma tsiku lina ndinakumana ndi mwamuna wina amene anandithandiza kuti ndiziona zinthu m’njira yatsopano. Ndidzanena nthawi yomweyo - ali ndi zaka zoposa makumi asanu ndi atatu, anali mphunzitsi ndi mphunzitsi, anthu ambiri adagawana naye zomwe adakumana nazo pamoyo wawo. Sindingathenso kumutcha kuti ndi wokhulupirira kwambiri, koma ndi pragmatist, wosakonda kukhudzidwa mtima.

Mwamuna ameneyu anandiuza kuti: “Mabanja osangalala kwambiri amene ndinakumanapo nawo anakwatirananso. Anthu awa adayandikira kusankha kwa theka lachiwiri, ndipo adawona zomwe zidachitika pamgwirizano woyamba ngati phunziro lofunikira lomwe limawalola kuti aganizirenso zinthu zambiri ndikuyenda njira yatsopano. "

Kupeza kumeneku kunandisangalatsa kwambiri moti ndinayamba kufunsa akazi ena amene anakwatiwanso ngati anali osangalala. Zomwe ndaona sizikunena kuti ndi kafukufuku wa sayansi, izi ndi malingaliro aumwini, koma chiyembekezo chomwe ndinali nacho chiyenera kugawana nawo.

Khalani ndi malamulo atsopano

Chinthu chachikulu chimene pafupifupi aliyense anazindikira chinali chakuti "malamulo a masewera" amasintha kwathunthu mu ubale watsopano. Ngati mumamva kuti mukudalira komanso kutsogoleredwa, ndiye kuti muli ndi mwayi woti muyambe ndi slate yoyera ndikukhala ngati munthu wodalirika, wodzikwaniritsa.

Mumasiya kusinthira ku mapulani a mnzanu ndikumanga zanu. Kupatula apo, ngati mkazi adakwatiwa zaka 10-20 kapena kuposerapo, zambiri zomwe amaika patsogolo ndi zokhumba zake, mapulani a moyo ndi malingaliro amkati asintha.

Ngati inu kapena mnzanuyo sakanatha kukula ndikukula limodzi, ndiye kuti maonekedwe a munthu watsopano akhoza kukumasulani ku mbali zachikale za "Ine" yanu.

Mu ubale watsopano ndi mphamvu zatsopano

Azimayi ambiri analankhula za kudzimva kwa chiwonongeko ndi kusoŵa mphamvu zosinthira chirichonse chimene chinali kulimbana m’banja lawo loyamba. Zoonadi, n’kovuta kupita patsogolo muunansi wowononga maganizo umene timamva kukhala omvetsa chisoni.

Mumgwirizano watsopanowu, tikukumana ndi zovuta zosiyanasiyana komanso zosagwirizana. Koma ngati tinatha kukonza chokumana nacho cha ukwati woyamba, ndiye kuti timalowa chachiwiri ndi malingaliro omangirira ku zovuta zosapeŵeka zomwe tidzakumana nazo.

Dziwani kusintha kwakukulu kwaumwini

Timamvetsetsa mwadzidzidzi: zonse ndizotheka. Kusintha kulikonse kuli m'manja mwathu. Mogwirizana ndi zimene ndinakumana nazo, mwanthabwala ndinabwereza mwambi wakuti: “Galu wokhala pakati pa moyo angaphunzitsidwe machenjerero atsopano!

Ndinaphunzira nkhani zambiri zosangalatsa za amayi omwe, mu maubwenzi atsopano pambuyo pa makumi anayi, adapeza zogonana komanso kugonana mwa iwo okha. Iwo anavomereza kuti pomalizira pake analandira thupi lawo, limene poyamba linkawoneka kukhala lopanda ungwiro kwa iwo. Poganiziranso zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu, adapita ku ubale womwe adayamikiridwa ndikuvomerezedwa momwe alili.

Lekani kudikira ndikuyamba kukhala ndi moyo

Azimayi omwe anafunsidwawo anavomereza kuti kukhala ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi watsopano kunawathandiza kuona bwino kwambiri zopinga zamkati zomwe adadzipangira okha. Zikuwoneka kwa ife kuti ngati zinthu zomwe timalota zikuchitika - kuchepetsa thupi, kupeza ntchito yatsopano, kuyandikira pafupi ndi makolo omwe angathandize ndi ana - ndipo tidzakhala ndi mphamvu zosintha moyo wathu wonse. Zoyembekeza izi sizolondola.

Mu mgwirizano watsopano, anthu nthawi zambiri amasiya kudikira ndikuyamba kukhala ndi moyo. Khala moyo wa lero ndi kusangalala nawo mokwanira. Pokhapokha pozindikira zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri komanso zofunika kwa ife munthawi ino ya moyo, timapeza zomwe tikufuna.

Za Wolemba: Pamela Sitrinbaum ndi mtolankhani komanso blogger.