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Kusamuka, ntchito yatsopano, kapena kukwezedwa—Kodi zosintha zomwe zikubwerazi zimabweretsa malingaliro otani? Chisangalalo chosangalatsa kapena mantha akulu? Zimadalira kwambiri njira. Nawa malangizo othandiza kuti muthe kudutsa bwino.
Kwa ambiri, kusintha komwe kukubwera kumabweretsa mantha ndi nkhawa. Njira yodziwira kulekerera kupsinjika, yopangidwa ndi akatswiri amisala Thomas Holmes ndi Richard Rage, ikuwonetsa kuti ngakhale kusintha kwakung'ono m'moyo wachizolowezi kumatha kukhudza thanzi.
Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, popewa kusintha kofunikira, tikhoza kuphonya mwayi wa kukula, chitukuko, kupeza zatsopano ndi zochitika. Gwiritsani ntchito malangizowa kuti muthane ndi nkhawa zanu.
1. Dziuzeni moona mtima momwe muliri omasuka ndi kusintha.
Anthu ena amachita bwino mosakayikira, ena sakonda kusintha. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa momwe kusintha kwa moyo kumapiririra kwa inu. Dzifunseni nokha: kodi nthawi zambiri mumawayembekezera mopanda chipiriro kapena ndi mantha? Kodi muyenera kuzolowera nthawi yayitali bwanji? Pozindikira zosowa zanu, mutha kudzisamalira nokha panthawiyi.
2. Pangani zomwe zikukudetsani nkhawa, zomwe mumaopa
Dzipatseni nthawi kuti muthetse nkhawa zanu pakusintha komwe kukubwera. Mwina inu muli nawo okondwa nawo, ndipo mwina mantha. Mukasankha pamalingaliro, mumvetsetsa momwe mungakonzekerere.
Dzifunseni kuti: Kodi mumatani mukaganizira zosintha moyo wanu? Kodi pali mkangano wamkati? Kodi mukumva ngati mwakonzeka, kapena muyenera kudziwa zomwe mukuwopa poyamba?
3. Pendani mfundo zake
Kusanthula mfundo ndiyo njira yayikulu yachidziwitso-khalidwe labwino la psychotherapy. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti mantha ena amayamba chifukwa cha malingaliro olakwika (malingaliro olakwika). Inde, nawonso sayenera kunyalanyazidwa ndipo ayenera kuchitidwa, ndikofunikanso kufufuza kuti ndi mantha ati omwe ali oyenerera komanso omwe alibe.
Mwachitsanzo, simulinso wachinyamata ndipo mukuwopa kupita ku yunivesite, mukuwopa kuti simungathe kupirira ntchito ndi kuphunzira nthawi imodzi. Mutapenda mfundozo, mumakumbukira mmene munasangalalira kuphunzira pamene munalandira maphunziro anu oyamba. Muli kale ndi chidziwitso m'gawo losankhidwa, ndipo lingapereke mwayi wofunikira. Nthawi zambiri, ndinu munthu wodziletsa, wosakonda kuzengereza ndipo musaphonye nthawi yomaliza. Mfundo zonse zimanena kuti mudzatha kupirira, ngakhale mutakhala ndi mantha.
4. Yambani kusintha pang'onopang'ono, pang'onopang'ono.
Mukazindikira kuti mwakonzeka kusintha moyo wanu, pangani ndondomeko ya zochita. Zosintha zina zitha kuchitika nthawi yomweyo (mwachitsanzo, yambani kusinkhasinkha kwa mphindi 10 tsiku lililonse, pangani nthawi yokumana ndi psychotherapist). Zofunika kwambiri (kusuntha, kuyenda komwe mwasungirako kwa nthawi yayitali, kusudzulana) kudzafunika kukonzekera. Nthaŵi zambiri, choyamba muyenera kulimbana ndi mantha ndi malingaliro ena osasangalatsa.
Dzifunseni nokha ngati mukufuna ndondomeko yatsatanetsatane kuti mugwiritse ntchito kusinthaku. Kodi ndiyenera kukonzekera mwamalingaliro kusintha? Kodi sitepe yoyamba idzakhala yotani?
Kukhala ndi zolinga, kudzimvetsetsa bwino, kudzimvera chisoni komanso kuleza mtima ndizofunikira kwa iwo omwe amalota kusintha njira yokhazikitsidwa ya moyo. Inde, kusintha kumakhala kovuta, koma kungathe kuyendetsedwa. Osawopa kusintha komwe kumatsegula mwayi wambiri watsopano!
Chitsime: blogs.psychcentral.com