Zamkatimu
M'nkhaniyi tiona zimene njira za chitetezo maganizo a munthu, ndipo ambiri, zimene iwo. Ndipotu, iwo alipo mwa aliyense wa ife, ndipo, kwenikweni, amachita ntchito yofunika kwambiri - amateteza psyche ku zotsatira zoipa za chilengedwe.
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Lingaliro lokhalo linayambitsidwa mu 1894 ndi Sigmund Freud. Ndi iye amene adawona kuti mwachibadwa kuti munthu asokoneze zenizeni kuti achepetse nkhawa komanso kusatetezeka. Choncho, kuwonjezera pa ntchito yaikulu, chitetezo chamaganizo chimathandizanso kuwongolera khalidwe. Sangalalani ndi mikhalidwe yatsopano, limbanani ndi kupsinjika ndi kuchepetsa, ndipo mwina muthetse kusamvana kwapakati panu.
Iwo sanabadwa. Ngakhale ali mwana, khanda limatengera masitayelo ena oyankha ku zokopa zosiyanasiyana za makolo ndi anthu odziwika. Amakulitsanso masitayelo akeake, mogwirizana ndi mkhalidwe wabanja, kuti apeze chinachake kapena ngakhale kupulumuka, adzipulumutse yekha. Nthawi zina, amagwiradi ntchito yoteteza. Koma ngati munthu ayamba "kupachika" pamtundu umodzi wa zamoyo, ndiye kuti, moyo wake udzagwa pang'onopang'ono.
Izi zili choncho chifukwa kuyankha kwa mbali imodzi pazochitika zosiyanasiyana ndikochepetsa kwambiri ndipo kumapangitsa kuti zikhale zosatheka kukwaniritsa zosowa. Ndipo kugwiritsa ntchito angapo nthawi imodzi kumangosokoneza njira yomvetsetsa ndikupeza njira zina zopezera zomwe mukufuna.
Mitundu yachitetezo chamalingaliro
kukhamukira kunja
Ndiko kuti, njira imene zidziwitso zonse zosafunika, kaya maganizo, malingaliro kapena zochita, zonse zaumwini ndi za anthu ena, zimangoiwalika. Ngati ndizomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zambiri, ndiye kuti izi zikuwonetsa gawo laling'ono la umunthu. M’malo mokumana maso ndi maso ndi chinthu chosasangalatsa, amasankha kuchichotsa m’chikumbukiro chake.
Pazochitika zowawa, pofuna kutsimikizira chitetezo cha munthu, kuponderezedwa ndi moyo wotere. Apo ayi, popanda izo, munthu sangathe kulimbana ndi kukula kwa malingaliro. Bwanji, osachepera, adzapeza matenda amisala, ndipo ngati pazipita - adzatenga moyo wake. Choncho, tsatanetsatane wa zochitika zina zomwe sizili zachilendo kwa psyche yaumunthu, titero, zimachoka ku chidziwitso kupita ku chidziwitso.
M'kupita kwa nthawi, pokhala ndi mphamvu ndikuyamba kugwira ntchito payekha, munthuyo ali ndi mwayi "wotulutsa" zidutswa za zowonongeka kuti agwire ntchito ndikuzisiya. Kupanda kutero, imadzimva yokha pa mpata uliwonse. Kupyola mu maloto, kumvetsera mothandizidwa ndi matenda, mantha atsopano komanso kutsagana ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse.
Nthawi zambiri anthu amagwiritsa ntchito njirayi nthawi zina akamachita zinthu zomwe amachita manyazi, amakhala ndi malingaliro omwe amawachititsa manyazi ndi zina zotero. Chochititsa chidwi kwambiri ndi chakuti munthu moona mtima samakumbukira zomwe zinachitika.
Dana
Munthuyo amakana kukhulupirira chinthu chomwe chimayambitsa nkhawa kapena zowawa zambiri, ndi zina zotero, kapena amayesa kusintha zomwe zilipo, motero amasokoneza zenizeni. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mayi auzidwa za imfa yomvetsa chisoni ya khanda lake losayembekezeka, iye, ngakhale ali ndi umboni wa imfa yake m’manja mwake, angakane kukhulupirira kuti zimenezi zingachitike. Adzakakamira mwayi uliwonse wotsutsa mfundo imeneyi.
Izi zili choncho chifukwa chuma cha m’thupi sichokwanira kuti tigwirizane ndi mfundo imeneyi. Pofuna kuchepetsa chiopsezo cha moyo wake, mpata uyenera kuperekedwa kuti azindikire pang'onopang'ono zomwe zinachitika. Choncho kawirikawiri akazi kapena amuna sakhulupirira kusakhulupirika kwa theka lachiwiri. Amayesetsa mosamalitsa kunyalanyaza nthawi zonse zoonekeratu komanso zoikira kumbuyo zachiwembu.
Kusokoneza zenizeni, kukana mfundo imeneyi, n'kosavuta kwa iwo kulimbana ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana omwe abuka. Koma pamlingo wa subconscious, amamvetsetsa bwino zonse, koma amawopa kuvomereza. Mwa njira, makinawa amathandiza kwambiri pakukula kwa mwanayo. Ngati, mwachitsanzo, makolo akusudzulana ndipo amayi akunena zoipa ponena za atate, ndiye kuti kukana ndi njira yabwino yosungira ubale ndi iye, ngakhale mayiyo akunena zoona.
kuchotsa
Munthu amayesa kunyalanyaza malingaliro osokoneza ndi malingaliro osasangalatsa, kusintha maganizo ku zokopa zina. Pankhaniyi, nkhawa ndi maziko, munthuyo akuwoneka kuti ali ndi chidwi ndi chinthu chimodzi, koma amamva kuti chinachake sichili cholakwika.
Nthawi zina chitetezo chamaganizo choterocho chimawoneka chifukwa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti savomereza kufotokozedwa kwa malingaliro aliwonse, chifukwa chake ayenera "kukankhidwa" mozama mwa iwo eni. Mwachitsanzo, mwana wakhanda saloledwa kusonyeza mkwiyo. Pajatu, “zimene anthu anganene,” “nzochititsa manyazi,” ndi zina zotero. Koma ngati akumana nacho, ndipo nthaŵi zambiri moyenerera, nchiyani chimene chitsalira kwa iye? Ndiko kulondola, kupondereza.
Izi sizikutanthauza kuti zasowa, patangopita nthawi, akhoza "mwangozi" kuthyola mkono wake. Kapena kuvulaza mphaka, kapena mwadzidzidzi kunena zoipa kwa amayi ndikumenyana ndi wina pabwalo.
Kukonzekera
Munthu amatengera kwa munthu wina maganizo, maganizo ndi zilakolako kuti amakana mwa iye yekha, kukhulupirira kuti zoipa, anthu otsutsidwa, etc. More noticeable mwa anthu amene sadziwa kuzindikira zosowa zawo. Amasamalira ena, monga ngati akubwezera kusowa kwa chisamaliro chawo.
Tinene kuti mayi wanjala amakakamiza mwanayo kuti adye chakudya chamasana, osakayikira ngati akufuna kudya panthawiyo. Mwa njira, mawonetseredwe akuwonetsa nthawi zina amatsutsana. Anthu amene amaona zinthu monyanyira pa moyo amaona kuti anthu amene amakhala nawo amakhala otanganidwa. Ndipo m'malo mwake, sangavomereze kuti awonjezera zofuna za kugonana ...
Kuyerekeza sikungakhale mphindi zoyipa zokha komanso mawonekedwe, komanso zabwino. Chotero anthu odziona ngati otsika amasilira ena, kukhulupirira kuti iwo eniwo sangakwanitse kuchita zimenezi ndi mawonetseredwe. Koma ngati nditha kuzindikira china chake, ndiye kuti ndili nachonso.
Ndiye, ngati aliyense wozungulira ndi woipa, ndi bwino kuganizira, kodi ndili mumkhalidwe wotani pakali pano? Ngati wantchito ali wachikazi kwambiri komanso wokongola ndi kaduka, mwina muyenera kudziyang'anira nokha kuti mupeze zabwino zanu?
Kusintha kapena kupatuka
Mawonekedwe a flexion ndi kuti munthu, chifukwa cha zochitika zosiyanasiyana ndi zochitika zamkati, sangathe kufotokoza mwachindunji chosowa chake, kuchikwaniritsa, ndi zina zotero. Chifukwa chiyani amapeza njira yodziwira m'njira zosiyanasiyana, nthawi zina zosokoneza.
Mkhalidwe womwe umawonedwa kaŵirikaŵiri ndi pamene palibe mpata wosonyeza mkwiyo kwa abwana amene anadzudzula mopanda chilungamo ntchitoyo kapena kulanda bonasi. Chifukwa chiyani chinthu chochepa choopsa chimasankhidwa, mwachitsanzo, mkazi kapena ana. Kenaka, atawachitira nkhanza, adzalandira mpumulo pang'ono, koma kukhutira kudzakhala kongoganizira komanso kwanthawi yochepa, chifukwa, kwenikweni, wotsutsayo wasinthidwa.
Kapena mkazi yemwe wasiyidwa ndi mwamuna wake amayamba kulabadira kwambiri ana, nthawi zina "kukakamira" ndi chikondi chake ... kumverera kapena kupita ndi wina, "zowopsa" zochepa ...
Amagwiritsidwa ntchito moyenera ngati pakufunika kudziteteza. Ndikofunikira kuyang'anira ndikuzindikira njira iyi kuti musankhe njira zosavutikira kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, ngati wogwira ntchito akwiyira bwanayo, akhoza kuchotsedwa ntchito, koma mkazi amene ali ndi ana sangathenso kuchitapo kanthu, ndi bwino kuchotsa chipongwe ndi nkhonya. Inde, kungothamanga pamalowa madzulo kuti muchepetse nkhawa.
Kulingalira
Nthawi zambiri amagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi anthu omwe sanaphunzitsidwe ali ana kuti azindikire malingaliro awo. Kapena mwinamwake iwo ali amphamvu ndi opweteka kwambiri kotero kuti njira yokha yopulumukira ndiyo kusamvera ndi kufotokoza mwaluntha za zilakolako ndi zochita zina.
Mwachitsanzo, kuti angodzilola kuti ayambe kukondana, kuyandikira kwa wina, kumutsegulira, kukumana ndi zochitika zenizeni, zamoyo, munthu "amasiya" mu kulingalira. Ndiye njira yonse yogwera m'chikondi, titero, imatsika. Ndipotu, kutsatira maganizo ake, nthawi maswiti-maluwa kumatenga pafupifupi milungu iwiri, ndiye anthu kudziwana bwino ndi wotsimikiza kukhumudwa. Kenako zovuta zosiyanasiyana zimatsata, ndipo izi zimatsogolera ku zowawa ndi chiwonongeko ...
Kugonjetsa
Mothandizidwa ndi kuyambiranso, munthuyo amapeza mwayi wopewa kukhala ndi malingaliro odzaza kwambiri, kubwerera ku magawo akale akukula kwake. Mukudziwa kuti m'moyo wathu timakula, mophiphiritsa tikupita patsogolo ndikupeza zatsopano.
Koma nthawi zina pamakhala zovuta kukhala pamalo omwewo, ndipo m'pofunika kubwereranso pang'ono kuti mupite patsogolo kwambiri. Chitsanzo cha kubwezeredwa koyenera, kwabwino ndi pamene mkazi amene wachitidwapo nkhanza amafunafuna malo oti amve ngati ali m’mimba. Kumene kunali kotetezeka kukhazika mtima pansi, kotero amabisala mu chipinda kapena kupindika ndikukhala masiku, masabata mu malo awa mpaka atapeza mphamvu.
Kuchokera kunja, zikuwoneka kuti chitetezo chamaganizo choterocho ndi khalidwe losazolowereka, koma kuti asawonongeke, ndikofunikira kuti psyche ibwerere ku nthawi yobereka. Popeza alibe mphamvu zochitira zinthu mwachizolowezi. Mwana yemwe ali ndi mbale kapena mlongo wabadwa, akuyang'ana momwe makolo amasamalirira mwana wakhanda, amayamba kuchita zinthu ngati khanda. Ndipo ngakhale ngati kunyozeka koteroko kumakwiyitsa makolo, panthawiyi ndikofunika kuti azidzimva kuti amakondedwa ndi ofunika.
Choncho, m'pofunika kumugwedeza pazigwiriro, ndiye kuti adzamaliza ndondomeko yofunika kwa iye yekha ndi kunena "zokwanira, ndine wamkulu", kupitiriza chitukuko, chomwe chikugwirizana ndi msinkhu wake. Koma nthawi zina anthu amakakamira ku regression. Chifukwa chiyani timawona amayi ndi abambo azaka makumi asanu omwe sangathe kutenga udindo, "anyamata" a zaka makumi atatu omwe akupitiriza kusewera masewera a nkhondo ndi zina zotero.
Maphunziro achangu
Amatulutsa, titero, khalidwe lodabwitsa, limatchedwanso kuti zotsutsana. Izi zikutanthauza kuti munthuyo amakwiya kwambiri, koma amachita motsindika mwaulemu, ngakhale shuga. Kapena amawopa zilakolako zake zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndichifukwa chake amakhala wolimbana ndi zibwenzi zogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Nthawi zambiri, amapangidwa motsutsana ndi maziko olakwa, makamaka ngati akuyesera kuwongolera. Wotchedwa "wozunzidwa" amakwiyitsidwa ndi woyendetsa, koma samazindikira chifukwa chake, akuganiza kuti ali ndi mkwiyo wosadziwika bwino, ndipo ndi wonyansa ndi zina zotero, choncho "amatsogoleredwa" ndikuyesera "kukondweretsa" iye.
mawu oyamba
Chosiyana kwambiri ndi chiwonetserocho, ndipo zikutanthauza kuti munthuyo amakhala, titero, ndi chifaniziro cha munthu wofunika "wophatikizidwa" mkati mwake, kapena oposa mmodzi. Ana amaphunzira mmene angakhalire ndi moyo, poyambirira amaika maganizo awo pa makolo awo. Zimenezi zimawathandiza kusiyanitsa chabwino ndi choipa ndiponso mmene angachitire zinthu pazochitika zinazake.
Pokhapokha fano akhoza kukhala "anakhala" kuti, kale munthu wamkulu, munthu wotero nthawi zina kupitiriza «kumva» Mwachitsanzo, mawu a mayi ake, ndi kupanga zosankha m'moyo mogwirizana ndi izo. Kapena, mosiyana, mosiyana ndi izo, ngati fanolo liri ndi zochitika zoipa.
Mwa njira, zizindikiro, mawu ndi zina zotero sizili kanthu koma kufotokozera. Mwachidule, ichi ndi chimene ife «kumeza» kuchokera kunja, ndipo si ntchito mothandizidwa ndi zathu zinachitikira. Ndili mwana, agogo anga ankakonda kunena kuti munthu wamtali yekha ndi amene amaoneka kuti ndi wokongola. Ngati iye anakhala munthu wofunika kwambiri pa moyo wa mdzukulu wake, ndiye, chirichonse chimene wina anganene, iye amasankha okha aatali. Ngakhale kuti ena angakonde.
Zofooka zambiri zimakhala mwa aliyense wa ife, chikhalidwe cha aliyense chikhoza kudziwika ngati mutadzifunsa nokha za chiyambi cha izi kapena mawuwo, komanso, chifukwa chiyani ife sitikugawana.
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