Zamkatimu
Ambiri aife tidakula timakhulupirira kuti amuna ndi mitala ndipo akazi amakhala ndi mitala. Komabe, malingaliro awa okhudza kugonana salinso ofunika, akatswiri athu okhudzana ndi kugonana amati. Koma chofala kwambiri masiku ano nchiyani—mitala ya amuna ndi akazi kapena kukhulupirika kwawo?
"Amuna ndi akazi ali ndi mitala mwachibadwa"
Alain Eril, psychoanalyst, sexologist:
Chiphunzitso cha psychoanalysis chimatiphunzitsa kuti tonsefe, amuna ndi akazi, mwachibadwa timakhala ndi mitala, ndiko kuti, panthawi imodzimodziyo timatha kukhala ndi zilakolako zambiri. Ngakhale timakonda ndikulakalaka mnzathu kapena mnzathu, libido yathu imafunikira zinthu zambiri.
Kusiyana kokha ndiko kuti tipitirire kuchita zoyenera kapena ngati tipanga chisankho ndikupeza mphamvu mwa ife tokha kuti tipewe. Poyamba, mwa chikhalidwe chathu, mwamuna anali ndi ufulu wotero, koma mkazi alibe.
Masiku ano, okwatirana achichepere kaŵirikaŵiri amafuna kukhulupirika kotheratu.
Kumbali ina, tinganene kuti kukhulupirika kumatichititsa kukhumudwa kwinakwake, kumene nthaŵi zina kumakhala kovuta kupirira, koma kumbali ina, kukhumudwa ndi nthaŵi yokumbukira kuti sitili wamphamvuyonse ndipo sitiyenera kuganiza kuti dziko. tiyenera kumvera zokhumba zathu.
Kwenikweni, nkhani ya kukhulupirika imathetsedwa mwa banja lirilonse m’njira zosiyanasiyana, malingana ndi zochitika za munthu payekha ndi zaka za okwatiranawo.
“Poyamba, amuna anali ndi mitala kwambiri”
Mireille Bonierbal, psychiatrist, sexologist
Ngati tiwona nyama, tiwona kuti nthawi zambiri mwamuna amabereka akazi angapo, kenako satenga nawo mbali, tinene, kukulitsa mazira kapena kulera ana. Chifukwa chake, mitala ya amuna ikuwoneka kuti imatsimikiziridwa ndi zamoyo, makamaka pa nyama.
Koma nyama ndi anthu amalekanitsidwa ndi njira yaitali yochezerana. Tinganene kuti poyamba amuna anali ndi mitala m’chilengedwe.
Pokulitsa luso la kudzipereka, iwo anasintha pang’onopang’ono khalidwe limeneli la kugonana.
Panthawi imodzimodziyo, odwala anga omwe amapita ku malo ena "kugula zogonana" amatsimikizira kuti pali kusiyana pakati pa khalidwe la amuna ndi akazi pazochitika zoterezi.
Mwamuna, monga lamulo, amayang'ana ubale weniweni wa tsiku limodzi, wosamangirira. M'malo mwake, kufunsira kugonana kuchokera kwa mkazi nthawi zambiri kumangokhala chifukwa chokha, kwenikweni, akuyembekeza kuti pambuyo pake amange ubale weniweni ndi mnzake.