Ndi mwambo kuti tizichitira manyazi amayi. Zachiyani? Inde, pa chirichonse. Kusangalatsa aliyense ndi ntchito yosatheka. Mumamuveka mwana wanu mwansangala kapena mopepuka, mwana wanu amakhala chete mokayikira kapena mokweza kwambiri, wonenepa kwambiri kapena akuwoneka kuti alibe chakudya chokwanira. Kodi, ali kale chaka ndi theka, ndipo simumutengabe ku maphunziro a Montessori? Sindiwe mayi ayi! Kuku!
Ukuganiza kuti ndiwe mayi wonyansa? Kulondola, mukulondola!
Ndipo si chifukwa chakuti chinachake chalakwika ndi inu. Nthawi zonse padzakhala anthu omwe sangakonde njira zanu zolerera ana. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, kukulira kwawo (pepani chifukwa cha tautology yachisoni) kudzawalola kuti afotokoze zomwe akunena pamaso panu.
“Mkhalidwe wa nyenyezi” sichiri chithumwa chotsutsa kutsutsidwa. Ndipo ngakhale mosiyana: iye ali ngati chiguduli chofiira cha ng'ombe. Zitsanzo zaposachedwa ndi Anfisa Chekhova, omwe olembetsa ake adachita mantha kuti mwana wake akudya pasitala ndi manja ake. Ndipo ngakhale ndi zojambula! Kuchita, simungakhululukire. Kapena Maxim Vitorgan, yemwe anali pafupi "kudyedwa wamoyo" chifukwa cholimba mtima kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi "oopsa" ndi mwana wake. Ndipo Ksenia Sobchak? Kodi angayerekeze bwanji kupopera makina osindikizira pamtundu wina wa kulimba, pamene akuyenera kukhala kunyumba ndikugwedeza mwana wake. "Ndi dzina lopusa bwanji," otsatirawo amalembera Anna Sedokova atamva kuti adatcha mwana wake Hector.
Kodi mukuganiza kuti khalidwe ili ndi mbali ya maganizo Russian? Tiyeni tikhumudwitse. Amayi padziko lonse lapansi amavutika ndi "ofunira zabwino". Chodabwitsa ichi ku West chinabweranso ndi dzina lakuti "mumshaming" (kuchokera ku liwu lakuti manyazi - manyazi).
Zomwe amayi adzimvera okha kwa nthawi yayitali tsopano zikutsimikiziridwa ndi ziwerengero. Kafukufukuyu adachitika ku United States motsogozedwa ndi a Charles Stuart Mott Children's Hospital. Azimayi omwe ali ndi ana osakwana zaka zisanu adafunsidwa - izi, monga momwe zinakhalira, ndi omvera "osatetezeka" kwambiri. Ndipo apa pali mfundo zitatu zazikulu:
1. Pazonse, amayi awiri mwa atatu mwa amayi (ndipo pafupifupi makumi asanu a iwo adatenga nawo mbali mu kafukufukuyu) amatsutsidwa pokhudzana ndi ana awo.
2. Nthawi zambiri amayi amadzudzulidwa ndi achibale awo.
3. Zotsutsa zitatu zofala kwambiri ndi izi: chilango, zakudya, kugona.
Tsopano zatsatanetsatane. Nthawi zambiri (61% ya omwe adayankha) amayi achichepere amadzudzulidwa ndi achibale: mwamuna, apongozi, ngakhale amayi awo. Poyerekeza ndi chiwerengerochi, kutsutsidwa kwa atsikana ndi abwenzi, ngakhale kuti kumatenga malo achiwiri, kumawoneka ngati kopanda pake - 14% yokha. Pamalo achitatu pali “amayi” ochokera m’mabwalo amasewera. Anthu amene amadziwa kulera mwana ndi abwino kwambiri ndipo sazengereza kulankhula kwa mlendo. Komanso, pazinthu zazing'ono - ndemanga pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi madokotala m'zipatala.
Ndipo ndi theka lavuto ngati ma comrades onsewa ataukira mmodzimmodzi. Komabe, mayi wachinayi aliyense amene adafunsidwa adavomereza kuti adaukiridwa ndi oimira magulu atatu kapena kuposerapo otsutsa.
Ndi chiyani chomwe adani sakonda? Choyamba, ndithudi, khalidwe la mwanayo. Izi zidadziwika ndi 70 peresenti ya omwe adafunsidwa. Mokweza kwambiri, mophokoso kwambiri, wamwano, nayenso ... Zolakwika za mwana wanu ndizokonzeka kuwona chilichonse.
Pamalo achiwiri ndi achitatu ndikutsutsa zakudya komanso njira zogona. Tikulumbira, agogo aakazi akudziimba okha pano. Ndiye pali "nkhondo" za othandizira ndi otsutsa kuyamwitsa.
Amayi amatani akadzudzulidwa? Ndikufuna kutiuza kuti mawu achipongwe amanyalanyazidwa. Koma ayi. Mawu awo amamveka. Ambiri amayamba kufunafuna zambiri pamutu pawokha kapena kufunsa dokotala funso kuti atsimikizire kuti akulondola kapena otsutsa. Pafupifupi gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu aliwonse a amayi adanena kuti kudzudzulidwa kunawakakamiza kusintha maganizo awo pa kulera kapena khalidwe la mwanayo.
Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, 42 peresenti ya amayi omwe anafunsidwa anavomereza kuti: anayamba kudzimva kukhala opanda chisungiko pambuyo pa chitsutso, ngakhale kuti chinali chopanda maziko. 56 peresenti anasiya kudzudzula akazi ena atakumana ndi mmene zinalili. Ndipo chiwerengero chotsiriza - theka la amayi anasiya kulankhulana ndi "ofuna zabwino" ndikuyesera kuwapewa. Kotero, ngati ndinu odziwa zonse, ganizirani zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kwa inu: kufotokoza maganizo kapena kusunga bwenzi lapamtima.