Mwana wanga amalankhula

Kulankhula kosatha

Mwana wanu nthawi zonse amakonda kulankhula, ngakhale wamng'ono. Koma kuyambira ali ndi zaka zinayi, khalidweli ladzilimbitsa ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala ndi zonena kapena kufunsa. Ali m'njira yopita kunyumba, amalingalira za tsiku lake la sukulu, amakamba za magalimoto, galu wa mnansi, nsapato za atsikana, njinga yake, mphaka pakhoma, akubuula mlongo wake wogonjetsa. nkhani yake… Kunyumba ndi kusukulu, chip chanu sichiyima! Mpaka kuti, atatopa ndi macheza ambiri, mumatha kusamumvera, ndipo mlongo wake amalephera kufotokoza maganizo ake. Dokotala wina woona za maganizo, dzina lake Stephan Valentin, * ananena kuti: “Mwana ameneyu amafunika kumuuza zimene zikumuchitikira masana, ndipo m’pofunika kumumvetsera. Koma n’kofunikanso kumusonyeza kuti sayenera kulamulira chisamaliro cha makolo ake. Ndiko kuphunzitsa mwana wanu malamulo a kulankhulana ndi moyo wa anthu: kulemekeza nthawi yolankhula ya aliyense. “

Zindikirani chosowa chanu

Kuti mumvetse zifukwa za izi, muyenera kumvetsera zomwe mwanayo akunena ndi momwe amachitira. Munthu wocheza naye akhoza kubisa nkhawa. “Akamalankhula amanjenjemera? Zosamasuka ? Amagwiritsa ntchito mawu otani? Ndi malingaliro otani omwe amatsagana ndi zokamba zake? Zizindikirozi ndizofunikira kuti muwone ngati ndi chikhumbo chofuna kudziwonetsera nokha, kukhumba moyo wanu, kapena nkhawa yobisika, "atero katswiri wa zamaganizo. Ndipo ngati tiona kuti ali ndi nkhawa kudzera m’mawu ake, timayesetsa kumvetsa zimene zikumupweteka mtima ndipo timamulimbikitsa.

Kufuna chidwi?

Kucheza kungathenso kukhala chifukwa chofuna chidwi. “Makhalidwe omwe amasokoneza ena amatha kukhala njira yodziwonera nokha. Ngakhale mwanayo atadzudzulidwa, adakwanitsa kuchita chidwi ndi munthu wamkulu, "adatero Stephan Valentin. Kenako timayesetsa kumupatsa nthawi yambiri payekhapayekha. Mosasamala kanthu za chifukwa cha machezacho, chingavulaze mwanayo. Sakhazikika m'kalasi, anzake a m'kalasi amatha kumuyika pambali, aphunzitsi amamulanga ... Chifukwa chake kufunikira kumuthandiza kuti azitha kulankhula bwino pokhazikitsa malire olimbikitsa. Akadzatero adzadziwa pamene waloledwa kulankhula ndi mmene angakhalire ndi phande m’kukambitsirana.

Kutanthauzira mawu ake

Zili kwa ife kumphunzitsa kulankhula popanda kudodometsa ena, kumvetsera. Chifukwa chake, titha kumupatsa masewera omwe amamulimbikitsa kuti aziganizira aliyense, ndikudikirira nthawi yake. Masewera a masewera kapena zisudzo zingathandizenso kuti azichita khama komanso kufotokoza maganizo ake. Samalani kuti musachilimbikitse kwambiri. “Kunyong’onyeka kungakhale kwabwino chifukwa mwanayo amadzipeza ali wodekha pamaso pake. Sadzakhala wokondwa, zomwe zitha kukhala ndi chikoka pakufuna kuyankhula kosalekeza, "akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo.

Potsirizira pake, timakhazikitsa nthaŵi yapadera imene mwanayo angalankhule nafe ndi pamene tidzakhalapo kuti tizimumvetsera. Kukambitsiranaku kudzakhala kopanda mikangano.

Wolemba: Dorothee Blancheton

* Stephan Valentin ndiye wolemba ntchito zambiri, kuphatikiza "Tidzakhala nanu nthawi zonse", Pfefferkorn ed.