Zamkatimu
- Mumati kholo langwiro ndi nthano chabe. Chifukwa chiyani?
- Kodi n’chiyani chimalepheretsa makolo kuchita zimene akufuna?
- Kodi pali makhalidwe enieni kwa abambo ndi ena kwa amayi?
- Kodi udindo wa kholo ndi wovuta kwambiri kuutengera kuposa kale?
- Kodi mukuganiza, monga mwambi umanenera, kuti "zonse zimasankhidwa zaka 6 zisanakwane"?
- Ndiye mungawapatse malangizo otani makolo kuti awathandize kulamulira khalidwe lawo?
Mumati kholo langwiro ndi nthano chabe. Chifukwa chiyani?
Mwa munthu aliyense, mulibe ungwiro. Ndiyeno si nthano chabe, komanso ndi zoopsa. Pamene tidzifunsa funso lakuti "kodi ndine kholo labwino?" », Timadzisanthula tokha, pomwe tiyenera kudzifunsa tokha zomwe mwana wathu amafunikira komanso momwe tingachitire. M’malo mopeza vuto lenileni, mumadziona kuti ndinu wolakwa ndipo pamapeto pake mumakhumudwa kuti simungathe kupereka zimene mukufuna.
Kodi n’chiyani chimalepheretsa makolo kuchita zimene akufuna?
Yankho loyamba ndi kutopa, makamaka pamene mwanayo ali wamng’ono, chifukwa amayi nthawi zambiri amakhala okha kuti azimusamalira. Kuonjezera apo, makolo amapatsidwa malangizo a momwe angaphunzitsire mwana wawo, kuiwala kuti ndi ubale wa chilengedwe. Pomaliza, muyenera kudziwa kuti ubongo wathu umagwira ntchito modzidzimutsa popanganso zinthu zomwe zidachitika kale. Ngati makolo anu akukukalirani mutagogoda galasi lanu patebulo, mumakonda kubwereza khalidweli ndi mwana wanu chifukwa cha automatism.
Kodi pali makhalidwe enieni kwa abambo ndi ena kwa amayi?
Kwa nthawi yaitali ankakhulupirira kuti akazi ankadera nkhawa kwambiri za ana awo kuposa amuna. Komabe, kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti amuna amene ankangokhala panyumba nawonso ankada nkhawa kuti azisamalira ana awo. Kumbali ina, amuna amakhala ndi zitsanzo zochepa chabe ndi oimira abambo awo chifukwa chakuti atate awo kaŵirikaŵiri sanali kuchita nawo maphunziro awo. Abambo ena amadzifunsa mafunso ambiri okhudza mmene angalerere mwana wawo, mosiyana ndi amayi amene AMAYENERA kudziwa mmene angawasamalire choncho amadziimba mlandu. Mofananamo, timaona kuti amayi kaŵirikaŵiri salandira mabonasi poyerekezera ndi atate, amene amalemekezedwa kwambiri atangosamalira mwana wawo nkomwe.
Kodi udindo wa kholo ndi wovuta kwambiri kuutengera kuposa kale?
Kale, mwana ankaleredwa ndi gulu lonse. Masiku ano, makolo ali okha ndi mwana wawo. Ngakhale agogo nthawi zambiri sakhalapo chifukwa amakhala kutali, ndipo kudzipatula kumakulitsa vutolo. France idakhalabe imodzi mwamayiko opondereza kwambiri: makolo opitilira 80% amavomereza kumenya ana awo. Komabe, pamene mwayi wofufuza anthuwo ukukula, amalipira powagulira maswiti, soda, zomwe zimawalola kuti azitha kuwonera kanema wawayilesi, zomwe zimalimbitsanso kulakwa kwawo.
Kodi mukuganiza, monga mwambi umanenera, kuti "zonse zimasankhidwa zaka 6 zisanakwane"?
Zinthu zambiri zimachitika asanabadwe. Inde, lero tikudziwa kuti zinthu zodabwitsa zikuchitika pa msinkhu wa fetal, ndipo kuyambira masiku oyambirira, makolo amatha kuona kuti mwana wawo ali ndi khalidwe lake. Komabe, tikamanena kuti “chilichonse chikuseweredwa”, sizikutanthauza kuti zonse zimaseweredwa. Nthawi zonse pamakhala nthawi yokonza zolakwa zanu poyang'anizana ndi nkhani yanu ndikuvomereza gawo lanu laudindo. Ubale wa makolo ndi mwana suyenera kuyima. Samalani kuti musaike chizindikiro pa mwana wanu monga "wodekha", "wamanyazi" ... chifukwa ana amakonda kugwirizana ndi matanthauzo omwe timawapatsa.
Ndiye mungawapatse malangizo otani makolo kuti awathandize kulamulira khalidwe lawo?
Ayenera kuphunzira kupuma ndikuyerekeza kuganiza mozama asanachitepo kanthu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mumakalipira mwana wanu chifukwa chotaya galasi lake, mumangodziimba mlandu kwambiri. Kumbali ina, ngati mukumbukira kuti cholinga chanu ndi kumuphunzitsa kusamala kuti asayambenso, mudzatha kukhala chete ndikumupempha kuti apite kukatenga siponji kuti apukute tebulo. Kudziwa mbiri yanu kumapangitsanso kuti tisaberekenso nkhanza zachilankhulidwe, kutsika mtengo ndi zinthu zina zopanda chilungamo zomwe takumana nazo, ndi ana athu omwe.