"Palibe amene amandikonda, chavuta ndi chiyani?" Yankho la Psychologist kwa wachinyamata

Tiyeni tiyambe ndi kufunsa: mumadziwa bwanji? Kodi mwafufuzadi ndi kufunsa anzanu onse, ndipo anayankha kuti sakukondani kwenikweni? Ngakhale mutangolingalira mkhalidwe wankhanza wotero, simungakhale otsimikiza kuti aliyense anayankha moona mtima.

Chifukwa chake, mwachiwonekere, tikulankhula za kuwunika kwanu kokhazikika. Ndikudabwa komwe idachokera komanso kumbuyo kwake kuli chiyani?

Ndimakumbukira kuti ndili ndi zaka 11-13, mawu akuti “Palibe amene amandikonda” amatanthauza kuti “Sindimakonda munthu winawake wofunika kwambiri kwa ine.” Ili ndi vuto mu miliyoni! Munthu amatengera chidwi chanu chonse, malingaliro anu onse, kotero mumafuna kuti akuyamikireni ndikuzindikirani, koma sasamala za inu konse! Amayenda mozungulira ngati kuti palibe chomwe chachitika, ndipo samakuwonani.

Zoyenera kuchita? Choyamba, apa pali mfundo zina zosavuta za choonadi.

1. Palibe anthu ofunika kwambiri kapena ocheperapo - aliyense wa ife ndi wofunikadi

Ngakhale mu kalasi yanu N imatengedwa kuti ndiulamuliro waukulu, aliyense amaukonda ndipo ndi wopambana ndi aliyense, simuyenera kulandira kuzindikira kwake konse. Makhalidwe anu, kutchuka kwanu, ulamuliro si kanthu koma masewera ochezera.

Ndipo ngati M, ngakhale mlendo wodziwikiratu, amakuonani kuti ndinu munthu woyenera, amalankhulana ndi inu mosangalala ndikuzindikira malingaliro anu ngati ofunika - sangalalani. Izi zikutanthauza kuti pali munthu m'modzi padziko lapansi, kupatula amayi ndi abambo, omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi inu.

2. Sitidziwa motsimikiza mmene anthu amationera.

Zomwe timaganiza komanso kumva sizifanana ndi zomwe timalankhula komanso momwe timakhalira. Zikuwoneka kwa inu kuti amakudani, koma kwenikweni mumangodzipeza nokha pa nthawi yolakwika komanso pamalo olakwika. Mukuganiza kuti sakuzindikirani, koma kwenikweni amangochita manyazi kulankhula, kapena chilakolako chanu sichingathe kuzindikira malingaliro awo mwanjira iliyonse.

3. Ndizovuta kwambiri kuchitira chifundo munthu amene samadzikonda.

Tiyeni tikhale oona mtima: mukanakhala N, mungadziwonetsere nokha? Kodi mungaganize chiyani za inu, ngati muyang'ana kunja? Mphamvu zanu ndi zotani? Ndi nthawi ziti zomwe zimakhala zosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa kukhala nanu, ndipo ndi nthawi ziti zomwe mukufuna kuthawa kwa inu kupita ku malekezero adziko lapansi? Ngati N sakuzindikirani, mwina muyenera kudzilengeza mokweza pang'ono?

4. Mwina simungapeze kampani yanu panobe.

Tangoganizani: Mnyamata wachete, wolota amapezeka ali paphwando la anthu openga openga. Amayamikira mikhalidwe yosiyana kotheratu ya anthu.

Ndipo potsiriza, mwinamwake mukulondola ndipo mulidi ndi zifukwa zonse zoganizira kuti palibe amene amakukondani. Palibe amene amakuitanani kuti muvine. Palibe amene amakhala nawe pansi m'chipinda chodyera. Palibe amene amabwera kuphwando lobadwa. Tinene choncho.

Koma, choyamba, pali mwayi waukulu woti mukuzunguliridwa ndi anthu olakwika (ndipo izi zikhoza kuthetsedwa: ndikwanira kupeza kampani ina, malo ena omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi inu). Ndipo chachiwiri, mutha kudziwa momwe mungasinthire zinthu. Sakani pa intaneti kwa anzanu akale omwe mudapita nawo ku sukulu ya mkaka, kudaya tsitsi lanu, khalani olimba mtima ndikufunsani kudya ndi anyamata omwe mumakonda.

Chabwino, ngati mungopeza kusagwirizana ndi zoyesayesa zanu zonse, ngati aliyense amakukanani, auzeni amayi anu kapena munthu wina wamkulu yemwe mumamukhulupirira za izi. Kapena imbani imodzi mwamawu othandizira (mwachitsanzo, nambala yothandizira yaulere: +7 (495) 988-44-34 (yaulere ku Moscow) +7 (800) 333-44-34 (yaulere ku Russia).

Mwina mavuto anu ali ndi chifukwa chachikulu chomwe katswiri wa zamaganizo angakuthandizireni.

Zolimbitsa thupi zothandiza

1. "Mayamiko"

Kwa masiku khumi, dziperekezeni kuti muzipereka mayamiko awiri kapena atatu nthawi iliyonse:

• dziyang’ane pagalasi;

• kupita kunja kwa nyumba;

• kubwerera kunyumba.

Only, chur, moona mtima komanso makamaka, mwachitsanzo:

“Ukuwoneka bwino kwambiri lero! Tsitsi lanu likuwoneka bwino ndipo sweti imayenda bwino ndi jekete. "

«Ndizosangalatsa kulankhula nanu! Mwapeza mawu olondola pankhaniyi. ”

"Ndiwe wabwino. Muli ndi nthabwala zoseketsa - zoseketsa komanso zosakhumudwitsa.

2. "Resume"

Zikuwonekeratu kuti simugwira ntchito posachedwa, koma tiyeni tiyese. Dziwonetseni nokha: sankhani zithunzi, lembani mndandanda wa luso lanu ndi luso lanu, nenani mwatsatanetsatane chifukwa chake anthu angafune kuchita bizinesi nanu. Kenako werenganinso ulalikiwo: chabwino, zingatheke bwanji kuti munthu ngati inu asakondedwe ndi aliyense?

3. "Kufufuza za ubale wa anthu"

Tangoganizani kuti si inu amene mukuvutika, koma mnyamata wina Vasya. Vasya ali ndi vuto lalikulu: palibe amene amamuwona, amachitidwa zoipa, samayamikiridwa. Ndipo inu munkhaniyi ndiwe wowerengera wamkulu wa ubale wa anthu. Kenako Vasya amabwera kwa inu ndikukufunsani kuti: "Chavuta ndi chiyani ndi ine? Chifukwa chiyani palibe amene amandikonda?"

Kodi sakonda nthabwala zoipa, zoipa? Kodi amadziwa kutenga mbali ya munthu wina, kuteteza, kusonyeza chisamaliro?

Ndipo komabe - momwe zonse zidayambira. Mwinamwake panali chochitika china, chochita, mawu oipa, pambuyo pake anayamba kuyang'ana Vasya mosiyana? Kapena kodi panali zokhumudwitsa kwambiri pa moyo wa Vasya? Mutha kudabwa chifukwa chake zidachitika komanso momwe mungakonzere.

Kapena mwina Vasya amangodandaula kuti ndi wonenepa. Chabwino, izi ndi zamkhutu! Dziko lapansi ladzaza ndi anthu omwe ali ndi zolemetsa zosiyana kotheratu, omwe amakondedwa, amawonedwa, omwe amamanga nawo maubwenzi ndikuyamba banja. Vuto la Vasya, mwina, ndikuti ngakhale samadzikonda. Muyenera kumudziwa bwino, kumuganizira bwino komanso kumvetsetsa mphamvu zake.

Victoria Shimanskaya amakamba za momwe achinyamata angadziwire bwino, kuphunzira kulankhulana ndi ena, kuthetsa manyazi, kunyong'onyeka kapena mikangano ndi abwenzi m'buku lakuti 33 Important Whys (MIF, 2022), lolembedwa ndi Alexandra Chkanikova. Werenganinso nkhani yakuti “N’chifukwa chiyani sindimakonda aliyense?”: Zimene achinyamata ayenera kudziwa zokhudza chikondi.