Oedipus: mwana wanga wamkazi ali ndi abambo ake okha!

Ubale wa mwana wamkazi ndi abambo

Adadi, adadi, adadi… Lucie, wazaka zinayi, alibe kalikonse koma kwa abambo ake. Kwa miyezi ingapo tsopano, wakhala akusonyeza kusalabadira kwakukulu kwa amayi ake. Bambo ake okha ndi amene amamukomera mtima. Iye amachita zambiri: kuyang'ana, kumwetulira mokopana ... Amafuna kudya pokhapokha ngati ndi iye amene amamukhazika patebulo ndikumanga chopukutira chake. Ndipo alalikira mokweza ndi momveka: ali ndi iye kuti adzakwatiwa. Ndipo pamene Jade, 4, akufunsa abambo ake kuvala m'mawa ndi usiku kuti agone, Emma, ​​​​3, kumbali yake, amayesa usiku uliwonse kuti azikhala pakati pa makolo ake pabedi laukwati. Ndipo Laïs, wazaka 5, akubwereza kubwereza “Nenani atate, kodi mumandikonda kuposa amayi?” “

Oedipus kapena Electra complex amatanthauza chiyani? Mumati bwanji mtsikana wokondana ndi bambo ake?

Koma vuto ndi chiyani ndi iwo? Palibe koma banal kwambiri: amadutsa nthawi ya zovuta za Oedipus. Mouziridwa ndi munthu wa mu nthano zachigiriki amene anapha atate wake ndi kukwatira amayi ake, lingaliro limeneli la m’nthano yakale likunena za nthawi yomwe mwana amakhala ndi chikondi chopanda malire kwa kholo la amuna kapena akazi anzawo, komanso kuchitira nsanje kholo la amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.. Pankhani yomwe Oedipus complex ili mu ubale wa abambo / mwana wamkazi, imatchedwanso Electra complex.

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Tanthauzo: N’chifukwa chiyani atsikana ang’onoang’ono amakonda abambo awo?

Palibe chifukwa chochitira sewero. Pakati pa zaka za 2 ndi 6, Electra complex ndi gawo labwino kwambiri lachitukuko ndi khalidwe la psychic. “Kumayambiriro kwa moyo wake, kamtsikanako kamakhala paubwenzi wolimba ndi amayi ake. Koma pang'ono ndi pang'ono, adzatsegula kudziko lapansi ndikumvetsetsa kuti pali, ngati abambo ake, kugonana kwina kumene iye adzakhala ndi chidwi chenicheni ", Akufotokoza zamaganizo Michèle Gaubert, wolemba" Mwana wamkazi wa abambo ake ", ed. wa Munthu.

Kuyambira ali ndi zaka 3, mtsikanayo amasonyeza kuti ali ndi kugonana. Chitsanzo chake ndi mayi ake. Amadzizindikiritsa naye mpaka atafuna kutenga malo ake. Choncho anyengerera bambo ake. Kenako amaona amayi ake ngati opikisana naye ndipo amayesa kuwakankhira pambali, nthawi zina mwachiwawa. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, amamukondabe kwambiri ndipo amadziimba mlandu chifukwa cha mkwiyo wake. Ana onse azaka zapakati pa 3 mpaka 6 amadutsa m’gawo la namondweli. Anyamata ang'onoang'ono amasewera ndewu ndi abambo awo ndikukumbatira amayi awo. Atsikana aang'ono amachulukitsa njira zokopana ndi abambo awo. Kuchokera ku kusamvetsetsana kwa malingaliro awo kumatuluka chisokonezo, chisokonezo chimene makolo okha, ndi malingaliro awo okhwima koma omvetsetsa, angakhoze kuchichotsa.

Mavuto a Oedipus mwa msungwana wamng'ono: udindo wa abambo ndi wotsimikiza

Alain Braconnier, katswiri wamisala komanso wazamisala ku Center Philippe Paumelle, ku Paris, anati: Koma ngati sakuikira malire, mtsikana wake wamng’ono angakhulupirire kuti zimene akufunazo n’zotheka, n’kupitirizabe kuyesa kukopana naye. ” Chifukwa chake kufunikira koyiyika m'malo mwake ndi kumuwonetsa kuti banjali lili kunja kwake. Sitizengereza kuyikonzanso, popanda kuidzudzula kapena kuipangitsa kumva kuti ndi yolakwa. “Mwa kum’kankhira kutali kwambiri, mumam’pangitsa kukhala wosasangalala ndi kumletsa, monga wachikulire, kuyandikira wachimuna,” akuchenjeza motero katswiri wa zamaganizo. Chithunzi chomwe iye adzakhala nacho cha iyemwini, cha ukazi wake ndi mphamvu zake zamtsogolo zokopa zimadalira kuyang'ana kosilira ndi kuyamika kwa abambo ake. Koma koposa zonse, sitimasewera masewera ake, sitimulola kuti akhulupirire ndi malingaliro athu kuti titha kunyengedwa pa kaundula wosungidwa kwa akulu.

Momwe mungasamalire ubale wa oedpal: ubale wa mpikisano pakati pa amayi ndi mwana wamkazi

Mwana wathu wamkazi akutinyalanyaza mwachifumu? Zovuta kuti mayi avomereze. "Mu Electra complex, amayi nthawi zambiri amasamalira, panthawiyi, kumva kuti sakusalidwa », Ndemanga za Alain Braconnier. Palibe funso kutifufuta. "Kuti akule bwino, mwanayo ayenera kusinthika mu ubale wa katatu", akutsindika dokotala wamaganizo. Kuti tibwererenso, timaganiza zodzisungira nthawi zapadera, tokha ndi iye. Zidzamuthandiza kuti azidziona ngati mmene alili ifeyo m’mbali zina. Timakumbukiranso kuti “mdani” wathu wamng’onoyo ndi mwana chabe, wathu, amene amatikonda ndipo amadalira ife kuti timutsogolere. Choncho sitimunyoza, sitimuseka chifukwa cha khama lake lofuna kusangalatsa bambo ake. Koma tikumulimbikitsa, pamene anakhalabe wolimba: “Inenso, pamene ndinali usinkhu wanu, ndinkalakalaka kukwatiwa ndi abambo anga. Koma zimenezo sizingatheke. Nditakhala mkazi ndinakumana ndi abambo ako, tinayamba kukondana ndimomwe munabadwira. “

Amayi mbali

Kuyang'ana kwake kwa abambo ake kumatikwiyitsa? Koposa zonse, timapewa kuloŵa m’mipikisano. Amakumbutsidwa mokoma mtima kuti atate ake si ake. Koma tikupitiriza kukhala achikondi… ndi oleza mtima. Oedipus posachedwapa adzakhala chikumbukiro chakutali.

Oedipus complex: komanso panthawi yachisudzulo

Panthaŵi yovuta imeneyi, “pakakhala kupatukana kwa makolo, m’pofunika kupeŵa chilichonse chimene bambo kapena mayi amene ali ndi udindo wolera amakhalira ndi mwana yekhayo n’kupanga “ banja laling’ono” limodzi naye. Ndi bwino kuti kamnyamata kakang'ono ndi kamsungwana kakang'ono amakumana pafupipafupi ndi munthu wina - bwenzi, amalume - kuswa ubale wa fusional. Apo ayi, zimakhala pachiwopsezo kupanga kusowa kwa kudziyimira pawokha mbali zonse. "Akumaliza katswiri wa zamaganizo Michèle Gaubert.