Mosiyana ndi kunyada, munthu ndi chinthu chomwe chili pa chiyambi cha kunyada ndizosiyana. Mkhalidwe wabwino wopezedwa ndi kunyada ukhoza kubwerezedwanso malinga ndi momwe dziko lino likugwirizanirana ndi zochitika zinazake. Choncho kunyada kumalimbikitsa kuchitapo kanthu. Mwachitsanzo, munthu akhoza kunyadira kupanga zojambulajambula, choncho amafuna kunyadiranso kupanga kwina.

Mwa kunyada, chidwi chili pa munthu yense: munthu amene amamva choncho amaganizira za kupambana kwake konse. Izi nthawi zambiri zimatsagana ndi chipongwe komanso kunyoza ena. Ndichifukwa chake anthu onyada amakumana ndi zovuta zambiri mu ubale wawo. Pali mavuto atatu okhudzana ndi kunyada:

1) Kutengeka mtima ndikwanthawi kochepa, koma anthu amakopeka nazo.

2) Sichimangirizidwa ku chinthu china chake choncho munthuyo ayenera kusintha zolinga zawo kapena kuwunika kwawo zomwe zimapanga kupambana.

3) Umakhala ndi zotsatirapo pa maubwenzi apakati pa anthu chifukwa cha kunyozeka ndi mwano.

Kunyada sikumasindikizidwa bwino masiku ano. Komabe, sikuli kupanda pake kapena kunyada koma zosangalatsa zogwirizanitsidwa ndi kuzindikira kuti munthu ndi wofunika kapena woona zimene akuchita, ntchito yake, ntchito yake. Sikoyenera kuzindikiridwa kuti ndi wonyada. Aliyense akhoza kunyadira zomwe adachita mumithunzi, mwanzeru kwambiri.

Anthu ochulukirachulukira akusintha ntchito, ngakhale zitatanthauza kupeza ndalama zochepa, kuti apeze ntchito yomwe imawapangitsa kukhala onyada ndi osangalala: kunyada kumeneku kuyandikira kwambiri mmisiri kuposa malingaliro opanga okhazikika pazotulutsa ndi zokolola zopenga, zopanda tanthauzo lenileni kwa munthu. .

Katswiri wa zachikhalidwe cha anthu Bénédicte Vidaillet akudzudzula njira yogwirira ntchito imeneyi yomwe sipangitsanso antchito kunyadira: “ zotsatira zomwe ziyenera kukwaniritsidwa zikufotokozedwa mowonjezereka kuchokera pamwamba, zokhazikika ndi kuyang'aniridwa, zomwe zimatsogolera omwe ali m'munda kuti amve kuti sangathe kuchita ntchito zawo bwino. Pomaliza, kuwunika payekhapayekha kumabweretsa mpikisano wokhazikika womwe umasokoneza ubale pakati pa ogwirizana, kuswa magulu, chidaliro ndi momwe amagwirira ntchito. Pa nthawi imene kutopa, komwe kumadziwikanso kuti kutopa kuntchito, sikunayambe kuopseza kwambiri, ambiri angakonde kusankha kuti agwire ntchito bwino, osati kugwira ntchito zambiri.

Wolemba mabuku wina dzina lake Hugues Hotier akuchenjeza antchito za “kudzimva kukhala wofunika” kumeneku kolimbikitsidwa ndi makampani ndipo, malinga ndi iye, kuyenera kusiyana ndi kunyada. Kwa iye, " Ndikoyenera kukumbukira kuti kukhala m'bungwe ndi gawo la njira, ngati si mathero, a kayendetsedwe ka sayansi kamakampani monga momwe Taylor adalimbikitsira. “. Mwachiwonekere, njira yoyang'anira yomwe cholinga chake ndi kubwezeretsanso kunyada uku. 

« Ndife zidole za nkhani zathu. Kudzimva kwamanyazi kapena kunyada komwe kumakwiyitsa matupi athu kapena kupeputsa miyoyo yathu kumachokera ku kudziyimira kwathu. ". Boris Cyrulnik Ifa kuti: manyazi.