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Mwana wanu sangathe kupirira kulakwitsa? Kapena nthawi zonse amafunikira kusamuka? Pokhapokha ngati amathera nthawi yake kuthandiza ena? Za kumvetsa chifukwa chimene ana amachitira ndikuwathandiza kuti azitha kuchita bwino, Valérie Fobe Coruzzi, mphunzitsi wothandizira komanso wolemba buku lothandizira pa enneagram (1), amalimbikitsa chidachi kwa makolo. Mafunso.
Makolo: Kodi mungatifotokozere enneagram?
Izi ndi chida chitukuko munthu zakale kwambiri anatsitsimutsidwa mu 70s. Zimalola kuphunzira za zosankha zathu zamakhalidwe malinga ndi zochitika. Ikufotokoza mbiri zosiyanasiyana zisanu ndi zinayi. Munthu aliyense malinga ndi mbiri yake, kawonedwe kake ka zinthu zenizeni, mantha ake, maphunziro ake, amakulitsa umunthu wake, amavala "zovala" kuti azichita momwe akukhulupirira kuti ndi zomwe timayembekezera. iye. Enneagram imapereka mwayi kuzindikira njira izi chitetezo ndi makhalidwe omwe amabwera chifukwa cha izo, ndi kuyandikira kwambiri "umunthu" weniweni.
N'chifukwa chiyani ichi chili chida chothandiza kwa makolo?
Makolo onse kuchitira ana awo mosazindikira zenizeni zawo (mantha, zisoni, zokhumudwitsa…). Ndipo onjezerani kwa iwo, nthawi zonse mosadziwa, kukonza zolakwika zawo. Ndiye enneagram akhoza thandizani kumasula mwanayo za malangizo amenewa, kuti timlandire iye pafupi kwambiri ndi chimene iye ali, popanda kumulemetsa ndi zolakwa zathu. Inde, mwanayo ali kukhala mukuyenda, umunthu wake ukhoza kusinthika, palibe "chosankhidwa". Pazochitika zilizonse, kholo lingathandize mwana wawo kusintha khalidwe lake kuti amve bwino.
Mwachidule, mitundu isanu ndi inayi ya mbiri ya ana yomwe mumafotokoza m'bukuli ndi iti?
Nawa mbiri zamunthu zisanu ndi zinayi zomwe zitha kufotokozedwa ndi enneagram:
- Woyamba amafuna nthawi zonse kukhala wosaneneka. Pakulakwitsa pang'ono, amawopa kusakondedwa.
- Yachiwiri ikufunikabe kaya kupanga phindu, akuwopa kusiyidwa.
- Chachitatu nthawi zonse amaonekera pa zochita zake, sadziwa kukhalapo mwanjira ina.
- Chachinayi chimamangiriridwa ku umodzi wake, icho ludzu lofuna kuzindikirika.
- Wachisanu akufuna kumvetsa zonse za dziko zomwe zimamuzungulira chifukwa satha kuzimvetsa.
- Mbiri yachisanu ndi chimodzi imawopa kuperekedwa kuposa chilichonse, akumva kusatetezeka m'maganizo.
- Wachisanu ndi chiwiri amafuna kusangalala kosatha kuti athawe malingaliro aliwonse ovutika.
- Wachisanu ndi chitatu, pofunafuna mphamvu, imayesa pachabe kudziteteza ku kufooka kwake.
- Zokhumba zachisanu ndi chinayi pewani kusamvana kulikonse naiwala zofuna zake.
Momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito enneagram tsiku lililonse?
Pozindikira mwa mwana wake machitidwe omwe amalepheretsa kukula kwake ndi kumuthandiza. Inde, mwana sagwirizana ndendende ndi mbiri. Malinga ndi zaka ndi mikhalidwe, makolo angathe kuzindikira makhalidwe zafotokozedwa m'buku kudzera mu mbiri zisanu ndi zinayi ndikumvetsetsa chifukwa chake. Iwo amatha, poyang'anitsitsa mwana wawo, kumuthandiza kuti azichita zinthu "zowona", mwachibadwa. Mwachitsanzo, msungwana yemwe ali wokonda kwambiri ungwiro, amalephera kusangalala pa phwando la kubadwa, amabwerera, safuna kudzidetsa. Zili kwa makolo ake tsegulani munda kuti musinthe kaimidwe pomufotokozera kuti akhoza kusangalala, kusiya, komanso mwa kumusonyeza mwa chitsanzo! Mlandu wina: kamnyamata kakang'ono kaluza machesi a tennis. M'malo momulimbikitsa kuti "adzapambana wina", kholo likhoza kumupangitsa kuti amvetse kuti chofunika kwambiri ndi momwe adasewera, munthu wake, komanso kuti ndi wodabwitsa, chirichonse. zotsatira zake zamasewera!
Mafunso ndi Katrin Acou-Bouaziz
(1) "Kumvetsetsa mwana wanga bwino chifukwa cha enneagram", Valérie Fobe Coruzzi ndi Stéphanie Honoré, Editions Leduc.s., Marichi 2018, 17 mayuro.