Zachisoni ndimunthu wamunthu. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosakhalitsa, zabwino komanso zopanda chiopsezo. Koma ngati kumverera kumeneku kumakhala kwanthawi yayitali kapena kukukulirakulira, ndikofunikira kuti muuze ndi / kapena kufunsa akatswiri azaumoyo.

Chisoni ndikumverera, komwe kumawonetsa kupweteka kwam'maganizo komwe kumakhudzana kapena kudziwika ndi kusowa chiyembekezo, chisoni, kusowa chochita ndi kukhumudwitsidwa. Zitha kuwonetsedwa ndikulira, kusowa kwa njala kapena kuchepa kwamphamvu. Nthawi zovuta kwambiri, chisoni chimatha kubweretsa kuzolowera pang'ono, komanso kudzipatula pagulu.

Zomwe zimayambitsa kukhumudwa ndizambiri ndipo zimatha kusiyanasiyana pakati pawo. Magawo ena ofunikira m'moyo, mwachitsanzo, amaphatikizidwa ndi izi. Izi zikuphatikiza:

• Kumwalira kwa wokondedwa ndi njira ya maliro zomwe zikutsatira, zimaphatikizidwa ndi kumverera kwachisoni chachikulu chomwe chimasowa ndi nthawi ndikuvomereza kutha. Koma kumverera uku kumatha kuonekeranso nthawi ndi nthawi tikakumbukira zokumbukira;
• kusintha kwa moyo ndi zisokonezo zazikulu, monga kusuntha kapena kutha kwamaphunziro komwe kumatha kutsatiridwa ndi chisoni pamaso pa chisangalalo cha nthawi zabwino zomwe zapita;
• kubadwa kwa mwana komanso kusokonezeka kwa mahomoni komwe kumabweretsa kumatha kukhumudwitsa amayi ambiri. Nthawi zambiri, "mwana wachisoni" uyu samakhalitsa ndipo amatha m'masabata atangobereka kumene. Ngati akhazikika kwambiri komanso pakapita nthawi, izi zimatchedwa kukhumudwa pambuyo pobereka;
• kapena kulekana mwachikondi kapena mwaubwenzi, komwe kumachitika ngati kulira ndipo nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa chisangalalo.

Dziwani kuti kukhumudwa ndimtundu wachisoni womwe umakhala limodzi ndi malingaliro olakwika, kuperewera chiyembekezo ndi zizindikilo zambiri, monga kusowa tulo, njala, kapena malingaliro amantha. Matendawa amakhazikika mosalekeza ndipo amayenera kusiyanitsidwa bwino ndi "kukhumudwa kwachisoni" kwakanthawi kochepa kapena chisoni chomwe chimakhalapo pakumwalira kwa wokondedwa, mwachitsanzo.

Kumverera kwachisoni, ngakhale osagwirizana ndi kukhumudwa, kumatha kubweretsa machitidwe owopsa kwa munthu wokhudzidwayo, monga:

• kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa;
• kudzipatula pagulu komanso kusungulumwa;
• kusachita kapena kuzengereza;
• kapena kuchepa kwa njala.

Aliyense atha kukumana ndi tsiku limodzi kapena wina, pamoyo wawo, ndi zokumana nazo kapena nthawi zovuta zomwe zimadzetsa chisoni. Nthawi zambiri, kumverera kumeneku kumakhala koyenera ndipo kumatha pakapita nthawi ndikuvomerezedwa. Komabe, ngakhale kukhumudwa ndikumverera komwe tonsefe timakumana nako, pali zinthu zina zomwe munthu angachite m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku zomwe zingathandize kuchepetsa kumverera uku. Mwachitsanzo :

• idyani chakudya chopatsa thanzi komanso choyenera;
• samalani ndi kuchuluka kwa kugona kwawo kwatsiku ndi tsiku;
• kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi tsiku lililonse;
• khalani ndi nthawi yopuma komanso kupumula kudzera pakusangalala;
• khalani ndi nthawi yokwaniritsa zinthu zabwino m'moyo ndi zipambano zazing'ono zomwe zimapereka;
• kukulitsa moyo wawo pagulu komanso kulumikizana ndi anthu;
• fotokozerani zakukhosi kwawo ndi munthu amene amasamala - monga wachibale kapena bwenzi lapamtima. Kulankhula ndi katswiri, monga dokotala kapena mlangizi kungathandizenso kupenda magwero akumva chisoni uku;
• kapena kulumikizana ndi Chilengedwe poyenda m'nkhalango, paki kapena pakuyenda. Makhalidwe osavuta awa amadziwika kuti ndi othandiza paumoyo wamaganizidwe ndi thupi (achi Japan amalankhula za Shinrin-Yoku, kutanthauza "kusamba m'nkhalango").