Sadomasochism (kapena SM) ndi mchitidwe wogonana womwe umatsatiridwa ndi maubwenzi akuluakulu / olamulidwa. Kodi mukufuna kuphunzira ukapolo, kuphatikiza maunyolo kapena kukwapula muzochita zanu zogonana? Nawa kalozera wopezera njira za SM zomwe zimadziwika kuti zofewa komanso za ulamuliro wogonana.

Sadomasochism ndi mchitidwe wogonana wokhazikika, pomwe m'modzi ndiye amatsogola pomwe wina amakhala wolamulira. Palibe maudindo omwe amafotokozedwatu kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi, ndipo munthu wogonjera akhoza kukhala mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndipo mosiyana ndi wolamulira. Motero, kulimbirana mphamvu kumachitika m’kugonana kwa anthu aŵiriwo, ndipo ndi sewero limeneli lomwe limadzutsa chilakolako cha kugonana. Wolamulira amatenga mphamvu pa olamuliridwa, ndipo amamukakamiza kugonana komwe ali ndi mphamvu pa iye.

Choncho pali lingaliro la chiwawa ndi zowawa (zochepa komanso zovomerezeka, ndithudi). Zowonadi, chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri pazochita za MS ndi chilolezo. Tiyenera kupanga kusiyana pakati pa masewera ndi zachiwawa zenizeni zomwe zingakhale zosayenera. Choncho ndikofunikira kukhazikitsa malire pakati pa okondedwa, osadutsana. Chilichonse chimakhazikika pakukhulupirirana: ngati m'modzi mwa okondedwawo akunena kuti siyani kapena sakumva bwino, masewerawa ayenera kusiya. 

Sadomasochism imakhazikika pa dongosolo la kugonjera ndi kulamulira. Ndi maudindo awa ndi zizindikiro zomwe zimabweretsa chisangalalo chogonana kwa okondedwa. Kumbali ya munthu wogonjera, kugonjera kovomerezeka kumeneku ndikofanana ndi kuponderezana ndi ukapolo. Ndi kudzichepetsa uku kumakupatsani mwayi wololera ndikudzipereka ku ulamuliro wa mnzanu.

Kumbali yaikulu, kulamulira mwankhanza kumapereka kumverera kwa mphamvu ndi mphamvu. Monga kugonjera, palibe cholakwika pa ulamuliro umenewu: ndi funso chabe, nthawi ya chiyanjano chogonana, kulowa mu khungu la wina. Ngati mwachibadwa ndinu munthu wamanyazi kapena wodziona kuti ndinu wodekha, uwu ungakhale mwayi woyesera khalidwe latsopano. 

Chimodzi mwazochita zodziwika bwino mu SM mwina ndichofulumira. Wothamanga ndi mtundu wa chikwapu chopangidwa ndi zingwe za suede kapena zikopa. Pali zitsanzo zingapo zokhala ndi zingwe zochulukirapo kapena zochepa, komanso zomwe zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Kuti muyambe, mutha kungosinya magawo a erogenous a thupi (mabere, matako, etc.). Ndiye mukhoza kuwonjezera mphamvu mwa kupereka zikwapu zing'onozing'ono, zopepuka pamtunda, monga matako kapena ntchafu, kumene kupweteka kudzakhala kochepa.

Ngati wokondedwa wanu amasangalala nazo, onjezerani kuchuluka kwa kumenyedwako ndikusinthasintha madera a thupi. Mukhoza kupita patsogolo mwa kusintha kukula kwa nkhonya, nthawi zonse malinga ndi momwe mnzanuyo amachitira. Pomaliza, pa mtundu wocheperako, mutha kusinthana liwiro ndi dzanja lanu, ndikuwona kukwapula kwachikale, kopanda chidwi ngati ndinu watsopano ku SM. 

Ukapolo ndi mchitidwe wina wodziwika bwino wa sadomasochism. Zimaphatikizapo kumangirira wokondedwa wanu kwa iye yekha pogwiritsa ntchito chingwe, unyolo, ndi zina zotero. Ziphuphuzi zikhoza kupangidwa m'manja kapena m'mapazi, osamangika kwambiri kuti musavulale. Amapangidwa ndi cholinga choletsa kusuntha kwa munthu womangidwa, yemwe ndiye akuvutitsidwa ndi kuyanjana kwa mnzake.

Momwemonso, ma handcuffs amakulolani kuti muphatikize mnzanu pabedi kapena mpando, mwachitsanzo. Chifukwa chake mumatha kupeza thupi lake lonse, lomwe limakhala malo aulere kwa ma caress anu. Palinso tatifupi kuti Ufumuyo mawere, amene kulimbikitsa nsonga zamabele, amene ndi erogenous zone mwa amuna ndi akazi.

SM imakulolani kuti mulowe mu khungu la munthu. Choncho, zobisala nthawi zambiri zimagwiritsidwa ntchito. Izi zitha kukhala masuti achikopa kapena latex, masks, gags kapena balaclavas. Zida zomwe zimabwera kwambiri nthawi zambiri zimakhala zozizira, monga zitsulo kapena zikopa zakuda.

Mphuno (minofu pakamwa) imapangitsa kuti zikhale zotheka kutsindika udindo wa wolamulira: ndi izo, kulira kwanu kumakhalabe kosasunthika ndipo mungathe kulankhulana ndi mnzanu ndi zizindikiro. Chotero, wotsirizirayo amatenga ulamuliro wolamuliridwa mwa kumlanda umodzi wa luso lake. Mutha kulingaliranso za zochitika pomwe m'modzi mwa otchulidwawo ali ndi ntchito yaulamuliro pachiwiri. Izi zidzalimbitsa malingaliro a mphamvu ndi ulamuliro.