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Kusamala pakugonana: momwe mungasangalalire ndi ubale
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Ndikofunika kulabadira nthawi yomwe tikukhala, kaya tikudya, timasewera, kapena tili ndi bwenzi lathu.
Posachedwapa mwamvapo za "kulingalira": njira yomwe imatilimbikitsa kuti "tikhale" pakalipano, tcherani khutu ku zomwe zimatizungulira ndikuyang'ana zomwe timachita nthawi zonse. Tingagwiritse ntchito izi pa ndege zonse za moyo wathu. Motero, n’kofunika kulabadira zimene timadya, mmene timachitira; osaganizira china chilichonse tikamapita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi, koma kuganizira kwambiri zolimbitsa thupi, pa thupi lathu; komanso, ndithudi, mu ubale wathu. Tikakhala ndi mnzathu, ndikofunikira kuyang'ana pa iye, pa zomverera za thupi lathu, pazomwe timamva panthawiyo.
Chotsatira ndi chimene timachitcha "Mindful sex", lingaliro lachilendo la kugonana. Katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi zachiwerewere Silvia Sanz akufotokoza kuti: «Timadziŵa kale kuti ubongo wathu uli ndi mphamvu zambiri zakugonana kuposa mbali iliyonse ya thupi. Ngati tinyamula chidwi chathu pakuyenda kulikonse kapena kusisita, kutonthola maganizo ndi kusiya ziyembekezo mmbuyo, tikhoza kukhala ndi kugonana kosangalatsa ndi kusangalala nazo mokwanira. Uku ndi mindfulsex.
Koma sitikunena za kugonana kokha, chifukwa monga Ana Sierra, katswiri wa zamaganizo, katswiri wa zachiwerewere ndi mpainiya pogwiritsira ntchito mawu akuti "Kugonana mwachidwi" ku Spain, akufotokozera, kugonana kuli mu ubongo. "Pali adani a kugonana, omwe amayamba chifukwa cha umunthu wathu woganiza bwino osati wamalingaliro: ziyenera, kupsinjika maganizo, kupita ku zakale kapena zamakono," akufotokoza motero Sierra, yemwe akugogomezera lingaliro lakuti. "Okha" akumva "pakali pano". Kumbali ina, Antonio Gallego, katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso wothandizira wa Petit BamBou, akunena modabwitsa kuti: "Ndizodabwitsa kuti pazochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku chidwi chimapita kangapo pa kugonana koma tikapitirizabe kugonana tikhoza kudzitaya. nkhani zina: zimachitika chifukwa ife kulibe.
Ndipo kodi tiyenera kuchita chiyani “Kugonana Mwanzeru” ndi kuletsa maganizo athu kukhala aufulu? Silvia Sanz amatipatsa makiyi: “Tikhoza choyamba kuyeseza tokha, kudziwa thupi lathu, kusangalala nalo, kuti tivomereze bwino kugonana kwathu. Kumbali ina, akuganiza kuti asakhale "ofulumira" pamasewera ogonana, ndikuti azitengedwa ngati cholinga chokha amasangalala, popanda kuyembekezera. "Ngati lingaliro likutidodometsa, tiyenera kuyesetsa kulitulutsa, kuyang'ananso malingaliro athu pazomwe tikumva, popanda kukana, koma osasiya kukulitsa zomverera zathu," akutero.
Kodi ntchito nokha?
- Yambirani m'malingaliro: kuyang'ana kwambiri nthawi yomwe ilipo komanso momwe thupi limakhudzira.
- Kudzidziwa nokha mu ndege yogonana kuyang'ana tsankho, malire, zilakolako, ndi zina zotero.
- Gwirani mphamvu muzochita za tsiku ndi tsiku, mwachitsanzo, ndi chakudya.
- Gwiritsani ntchito chidziwitso cha thupi pa nthawi zapamtima ndi inu nokha.
Silvia Sanz amatipatsanso malangizo amomwe tingagwiritsire ntchito njira imeneyi tokha. "Mutha kudziphunzitsa nokha ndi caress, kuyesera kubweretsa chisamaliro ku ziwalo zonse za thupi lathu, kusangalala ndi kutengeka m’mbali zake zonse “, akufotokoza ndi kupitiriza kuti: “Tiyenera kuphunzitsa kudzivomereza tokha, ndi kulondolera malingaliro athu ku mphindi yamakono, kulola kutengeka ndi zomverera. Pambuyo pake zidzakhala zosavuta kugawana ndi mnzathu".
Kumbali ina, mchitidwewu ukhoza kukhala wopindulitsa pa thanzi la maubwenzi apabanja. Chitha kukonza ubale, popeza kuti kugonana n’kofunika kwambiri, ndipo, monga momwe Silvia Sanz akulongosolera, “kugonana sikuli chinthu chofunika koposa m’maukwati, koma ndiko kugwirizana kwa okwatiranawo.”
Choncho, kuchita «Mindfull kugonana», timalumikizana kwambiri ndi mnzathu, timakulitsa chisangalalo, timasiya kuda nkhawa ndipo timakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kumverera. "Timasangalala ndi zomverera, timakhala ndi mwayi womasuka m'maganizo ndi m'thupi, timagwirizanitsa ndi nthawi yamakono, tikudziwa za kugonana kwanu ndi za winayo," akumaliza motero katswiriyo.
Kodi mungagwire bwanji ngati banja?
- Lumikizanani ndi kuyang'ana: ndi njira yowona kwambiri yolumikizirana.
- Yambitsani zokhuza zina zonse: kubweretsa chidwi pa kukhudza, kuwona, kulawa, kununkhiza ndi kumveka kumathandiza kuti mumve zambiri.
- Kusunga chidwi pakali pano: ngati malingaliro amasuntha ndipo timazindikira, zitha kubwezeretsedwanso kunthawi yathu ino posamalira mpweya.
- Lolani liwu lamkati lilankhule: ngati pali malire omwe simukufuna kuwoloka, kapena chikhumbo, muyenera kufotokoza moona mtima.
- Kutulutsa zoyembekeza: sitiyenera kukwaniritsa zoyembekeza, zathu ndi ena. Muyenera kusangalala basi.
- Kuseka: kugonana ndi nthabwala zimagwirizanitsa bwino, zimalimbikitsa mpumulo komanso kutulutsa kwa mahomoni abwino.