Mukachira pachimake chowawa komanso mutathetsa ubale woopsa, ndikofunikira kuti muchepetse kulumikizana ndi munthu yemwe anali pafupi nanu kuti mudziteteze. Kusiya kulankhulana kwathunthu kumapangitsa kuti zitheke kuchiritsa mabala auzimu, kupulumuka kuwawa kwa kutayika ndikuthetsa kudalira munthu uyu.
“Kudzipatula kumakupatsani mpata waukulu wosiya kuganizira za munthu winayo ndi kumangoganizira za inu nokha ndi moyo wanu,” akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Shari Stines. Malangizo oti "siyani kuyankhula" amamveka nthawi zambiri pankhani ya maubwenzi ndi anthu osalankhula kapena anthu ena ankhanza.
Panthawi ina, mumazindikira kuti nthawi yakwana. Mukangobwerera kuchokera kumisala yonse yokhudzana ndi kuyankhulana ndi munthu wosagwira ntchito uyu, maganizo anu amayamba kumveka bwino ndipo pang'onopang'ono mudzamva bwino.
Mu ubale wapoizoni, nthawi zambiri timakhala ndi mabala amalingaliro. Munthu ameneyu amadziwa zofooka zathu, amadziwa mmene timasamalirira komanso mmene tingakwiyire. Sizingatheke kuti muzilumikizana ndi munthu wakale yemwe amakudziwani bwino popanda kuvutika ndi poizoni.
Kuthetsa kulumikizana nthawi zambiri ndi njira yomaliza. Anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi maubwenzi osayenera safuna kutero, ndipo pazifukwa zingapo. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti maubwenzi oterowo nthawi zambiri amayambitsa chizolowezi chenicheni - wozunzidwayo akuyembekeza kuti tsiku lina adzakonza chirichonse. Amasungidwa muubwenzi ndi kumverera kwaudindo ndi kudziimba mlandu, chiyembekezo, zosowa zosiyanasiyana ndi zofunikira, komanso kusamvetsetsa zenizeni zenizeni.
Kodi "kuchotsa kukhudzana konse" kumatanthauza chiyani?
Khazikitsani Malire Amkati
Musalole kuti maganizo a mnzanu amene sagwira ntchito bwino atengere maganizo anu. Lekani kuganiza za iye, kuyankhulana naye, malingaliro anu pa iye, musaganize za momwe mungakonzere chirichonse. Ngati mumadziona kuti mukungoganizira za momwe mungafune kuti ubale wanu ukhale, imani ndikusintha zina. Pa chilichonse. Kutha kwa kulankhula kumachitika osati pa thupi, komanso pamlingo wamaganizo.
Mulembeni pamasamba onse ochezera, mafoni, mabox
Osamulola kuti alumikizane nanu.
Pewani anthu amene akupitiriza kulankhula naye
Achitatu nthawi zambiri amaphatikizidwa mu maubwenzi osayenera. Ngati mumacheza ndi anzanu a wakale, chidwi chingakulepheretseni. Sili kutali ndi pano kuti ayambenso kulankhulana, ndipo mfundo yosokoneza kukhudzana ndi kupanga zosatheka.
Zidzakhala zosavuta kutsatira lamuloli ngati musiya kulankhula za izo ndi aliyense.
Pogwira ntchito mokwanira m'makumbukiro onse, achimwemwe komanso ovuta, mutha kumuchotsa munthuyo m'moyo wanu.
Imvani chisoni ndi zowawa zimene ubwenzi umenewu wabweretsa kwa inu.
Mu ubale wapoizoni, zibwenzi zopweteka zimachitika nthawi zambiri, makamaka ngati mnzanu, nthawi zina mosadziwiratu, wakuwonetsani chikondi, chisamaliro, ndi chifundo. Mutakumana ndi chisoni chonse ndikumva chisoni chanu, mudzaswa chiyanjano ichi. Zingakhale zothandiza kulemba zochitika za ubale wanu, zabwino ndi zoipa..
Lembani m’maganizo mwanu zonse zimene munam’konda chifukwa cha zimenezi, zimene munamuda nazo, ndi zonse zimene mukusowa tsopano. Popeza mwagwira ntchito mozama m'makumbukiro onse, osangalatsa komanso ovuta, mutha kumusiya munthuyu m'moyo wanu, sadzakhalanso ndi mphamvu pa inu. Izi zikuthandizani kuti musiye zakale ndikupita patsogolo.
Yang'aniraninso moyo wanu
Anthu omwe ali ndi poizoni nthawi zambiri amayesa kusokoneza ena. Amawoneka kuti akumva mwachidwi momwe angagonjetsere kukana kwa wozunzidwayo. Ngati muzindikira kuti mwagwa pang'ono pansi paulamuliro wa munthu woteroyo, m'pofunika kupanga chisankho kuti muyambenso kulamulira moyo wanu.
Musalole kuti izi zizilamulira moyo wanu, zikupangitseni kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa kapena kuti ndinu wokakamizika, kapena kukhudza zisankho zomwe mumapanga mwanjira iliyonse.
Kuswa kukhudzana ndi «poizoni» munthu tingayerekeze ndi kukana kwathunthu mowa kapena mankhwala. Ndi ntchito yovuta
Musalole kutengeka maganizo ndi munthu ameneyu.
Muyenera kudzipatula kwa iye mwamalingaliro ndikuwongolera malingaliro okhudzana ndi ubalewo. Ngati malingaliro okhudza iye ayambitsa mkwiyo, chisoni, chiyembekezo, zowawa, dziuzeni kuti: "Ikani." Yesetsani kuzindikira nthawi zomwe izi zimachitika ndikudzikumbutsani kuti sikoyenera kuwononga mphamvu zamalingaliro paubwenziwu. Yakwana nthawi yochoka kwa iye, kwenikweni ndi mophiphiritsira.
Dulani maubwenzi ndi iye
Tangoganizani m'maganizo momwe mungaswe ubwenzi wanu ndi iye. Tangoganizani kuti mukuchoka pa "bwalo lamasewera" komwe munthuyu amakhala, kupita kwina, ndi "masewera" ena ndi anthu ena. Yerekezerani kuti mukutsegula manja anu pamene mukusiya munthu amene munali kumukonda. Tsopano nonse muli omasuka kwa wina ndi mzake.
Yambani kuyang’ana m’tsogolo
Yesetsani kupeŵa kukumbukira ngakhale zosangalatsa za maubwenzi akale. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi ndi mphamvu kuti muthetse mavuto omwe akufunika, pangani maubwenzi abwino omwe amakupatsani chisangalalo. Lekani kuyesa kukonza zomwe zasweka mopanda chiyembekezo!
“Kupewa kukhudzana ndi munthu “woopsa” kungayerekezedwe ndi kukana mowa kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Iyi ndi ntchito yolimbika. Muyenera kudutsa mtundu wa "withdrawal syndrome" kapena kusiya. Koma pakangotha mwezi umodzi, zizindikirozi zimayamba kuchepa. Dzipatseni nthawi ndikukumbukira kuti kukana kuyankhulana ndi "poizoni" bwenzi ndi chiwonetsero cha kudzikonda," akufotokoza Shari Stines.