Nthawi zambiri zimatiseketsa kuti tipeze kufanana kwa agalu ndi eni ake - mwachitsanzo, onse ali ndi miyendo yayitali, kapena malaya agalu ndi opiringizika ngati tsitsi la munthu.
Kafukufuku waposachedwapa wasonyeza kuti agalu amatha kufanana ndi eni ake m'njira yosiyana kwambiri: Ndipotu, umunthu wawo umakhala wofanana.
William J. Chopik, katswiri wa zamaganizo a Michigan State University ndi wolemba wamkulu wa phunziroli, amaphunzira momwe maubwenzi a anthu amasinthira pakapita nthawi. Pochita chidwi ndi kugwirizana kumene kumayamba pakati pa anthu ndi mabwenzi awo aubweya, iye anayamba kufufuza maunansi onse aŵiri ameneŵa ndi mphamvu zawo.
Mu kafukufuku wake, eni agalu a 1 adawunika umunthu wawo ndi ziweto zawo pogwiritsa ntchito mafunso ovomerezeka. Chopik adapeza kuti agalu ndi eni ake amakonda kukhala ndi umunthu wofanana. Munthu wochezeka kwambiri amakhala ndi mwayi wowirikiza kawiri kukhala ndi galu wokangalika komanso wamphamvu, komanso wosakwiya kwambiri kuposa munthu waukali. Kafukufukuyu adapezanso kuti eni ake osamala amalongosola agalu awo kuti ndi ophunzitsidwa bwino, pomwe anthu amantha amawafotokozera agalu awo kuti ndi oopsa kwambiri.
Chopik akuwonetsa msampha wodziwikiratu mu phunziroli: mutha kufunsa anthu mafunso okhudza iwo, koma kwa agalu, muyenera kudalira zomwe eni ake amawonera pa zomwe ziweto zawo zimachita. Koma zikuwoneka kuti eni ake amakonda kufotokozera ziweto zawo moyenera, chifukwa, monga momwe kafukufuku wofananira wasonyezera, anthu akunja amafotokoza za agalu mofanana ndi eni ake.
N’chifukwa chiyani pali kufanana koteroko m’makhalidwe a anthu ndi ziweto zawo? Phunziroli silikunena zomwe zimayambitsa, koma Chopik ali ndi lingaliro. “Mbali mwa inu mumasankha dala galu ameneyu, ndipo mbali ina ya galuyo imakhala ndi makhalidwe enaake chifukwa cha inu,” iye akutero.
Chopik akunena kuti pamene anthu atenga galu, amakonda kusankha imodzi yomwe imagwirizana mwachibadwa ndi moyo wawo. "Kodi mukufuna galu wokangalika yemwe amafunikira kuyanjana ndi anthu nthawi zonse, kapena wabata yemwe ayenera kukhala moyo wongokhala? Timakonda kusankha agalu amene amafanana nafe.”
Kenako, kudzera mu kuphunzira mozindikira kapena kuyanjana kwa tsiku ndi tsiku, timapanga machitidwe a ziweto zathu - ndipo tikasintha, zimasintha nafe.
Katswiri wa za khalidwe Zazie Todd akuti n’kofunika kuzindikira kuti mikhalidwe isanu ikuluikulu yomwe imagwiritsidwa ntchito pounika umunthu wa anthu (extroversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, neuroticism, and open- mindedness) sizili zofanana ndi zinthu zisanu zomwe zimagwira ntchito pofotokoza makhalidwe a agalu. mantha, nkhanza kwa anthu, nkhanza kwa nyama, ntchito / chisangalalo ndi luso lophunzira). Koma malinga ndi Todd, pali kulumikizana kosangalatsa kwenikweni pakati pa anthu ndi agalu, ndipo mikhalidweyo imakhala yolumikizana.
Mwachitsanzo, ngakhale kuti "extraversion" si khalidwe lomwe limasonyeza bwino umunthu wa nyama, anthu okondana amakonda kukhala ochezeka komanso amphamvu, choncho chiweto chawo chimakhala chotakasuka komanso chosangalatsa.
Kafukufuku wamtsogolo atha kuwunikira zambiri pa nkhani ya kukhala woyamba komanso wachiwiri pankhaniyi. Mwachitsanzo, kodi anthu ochezeka, ochezeka poyamba amakonda kusankha galu wamanyazi kukhala bwenzi lawo? Kapena kodi moyo wawo umaperekedwa kwa ziweto zawo pakapita nthawi? Todd anati: “Anthu okangalika amangotenga agalu awo kulikonse kumene angapite, zomwe zimathandiza kuti chiweto chawo chizicheza komanso kuzolowera zinthu zosiyanasiyana. "Mwina anthu amaumba umunthu wa agalu awo - koma ndi chiphunzitso chosangalatsa chomwe sitinatsimikizirebe."