"Iye adanena kale 'mayi'! “
"Ndili nazo m'maganizo, zikubwereranso sabata yatha! Ndinali ndikuyembekezera kwa mwezi umodzi kapena iwiri. Mpaka nthawi imeneyo, iye anali kuchita vocalizations pang'ono, koma kumeneko, ndi wotsimikiza kuti "papa", ndipo analankhula kwa ine! Sindimaganiza kuti ndingamve kukhudzika, koma zowona kuti zidandigwira mtima pomwe adandikoka buluku ndikuti "papa". Chabwino ayi, sananene amayi poyamba! Ndizopusa, koma zimandipangitsa kuseka: pali mpikisano pang'ono pakati pa mnzanga ndi ine, ndipo ndine wokondwa kuti ndapambana! Ziyenera kunenedwa kuti ndimasamalira kwambiri mwana wanga. ”
Bruno, abambo a Aurélien, miyezi 16.
“Ndizolimbikitsa kwambiri. “
"Abambo" ake oyamba, ndimakumbukira bwino. Tinkasewera ndi a Duplos ake. Jean anali ndi miyezi 9 kapena 10 yokha: adati "Abambo". Ndinachita chidwi kwambiri nditamumva akulankhula mosachedwa ndipo mawu ake oyamba anali kwa ine. Mkazi wanga ali ndi ntchito yotanganidwa kwambiri, choncho ndimathera nthaŵi yochuluka ndi ana anga. Nthawi yomweyo ndinamuimbira kuti ndimuuze za nkhaniyi. Tinali okondwa ndikudabwa pang'ono ndi kusakhazikika kwake. Kenako mlongo wake anachitanso chimodzimodzi. Ndipo zikuwoneka (sindikukumbukira!) Kuti inenso ndinayankhula molawirira kwambiri. Tiyenera kukhulupirira kuti zili m'banja! ”
Yannick, ana awiri wazaka 6 ndi 3.
"Timasintha ubale. “
Ndikukumbukira bwino lomwe nthawi yoyamba yomwe awiriwa adanena adadi. Kwa ine, ndi chizindikiro choyamba ndi pambuyo pake. Kale, ndi mwana, tili mu chiyanjano chowonjezereka: timamunyamula m'manja, tikamalira, timakumbatira, kupsompsona. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, ndimayang'ana "tatata, papa" yoyamba, koma "papa" yoyamba ikatuluka, imakhala yamphamvu kwambiri. Pali cholinga, pali mawonekedwe omwe amayenda ndi mawu amenewo. Nthawi iliyonse, ndi zatsopano. Kwa ine, palibenso "mwana", pali mwana, wamkulu wamtsogolo pakupanga, yemwe ndikupita naye mu ubale wina, waluntha. ”
JULES, bambo ake a Sara, 7, ndi Nathan, 2.
Lingaliro la katswiri:
"Ndi nthawi yofunikira kwambiri komanso yoyambira pa ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mwana wake. Inde, mwamuna akhoza kumva ngati atate kuyambira pamene akukonzekera kukhala ndi mwana, koma mphindi ino pamene mwamuna amasankhidwa ndi mwana "abambo" ndi mphindi yodziwika. M'mawu awa, tikutanthauza "kubadwa", chifukwa ndi chiyambi cha chiyanjano chatsopano, "chidziwitso", chifukwa mwanayo ndi atate adzaphunzira kudziwana wina ndi mzake kupyolera mu mawu, "kuzindikira", chifukwa mwanayo akunena kudziwana ndi msonkhano: ndinu abambo anga, ndimakudziwani ndipo ndimakuyikani kukhala wotero. Ndi mawu awa, mwanayo amakhazikitsa malo a abambo. Ubale watsopano ukhoza kubadwa, monga momwe adanenera abambo awiriwa. Mu maumboni awa, amuna amalankhula za kukhudzidwa kwawo atamva mawu awa. Ndikofunikira. Mpaka nthawiyo, gawo lamalingaliro linali losungidwa kwa amayi, pomwe ndi gawo lopangidwa ndi anthu. Akamalankhula zakukhosi kwawo, amuna sadzitetezanso kwa iwo. Zabwino kwambiri, chifukwa zikomo kwa iwo, sadziyikanso patali ndi mwanayo. ”
Daniel Coum, katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi psychoanalyst, wolemba "Paternité", ed. wa EHESP.