Banja lomwe likuyang'anizana ndi chithandizo cha kubereka

Chifukwa chiyani zimakhala zovuta kuti banja lipite ku MAP kosi?

Mathilde Bouychou: « Kulephera kuchita zinthu zachilengedwe - kupanga chikondi kukhala ndi mwana - kumayambitsa bala lakuya la narcissistic. Kupweteka kumeneku sikuvomerezedwa kwenikweni ndi maanja. Zimakhala zowawa kwambiri ngati palibe chifukwa chachipatala chofotokozera matenda osabereka.

M'malo mwake, zifukwa zachipatala zili ndi mphamvu zochepetsera kupalamula popereka tanthauzo ku mkhalidwewo.

Pomaliza, kudikira pakati pa mayeso, pakati pa kuyesa, kumakhalanso kovuta chifukwa kumasiya mpata woganiza ... Mabanja akangoyamba, zimakhala zosavuta, ngakhale nkhawa, mantha akulephera amakhala ponseponse.

Palinso kusamvana komwe kumafooketsa okwatirana mwakuya. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna kapena mkazi amene samatsagana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake m’mayeso, amene satsatira kwenikweni zimene zikuchitika. Mwamunayo sakhala moyo WFP m’thupi mwake, ndipo mkaziyo akhoza kumamuimba mlandu chifukwa cha kusowa kwakeko. Mwana ndi awiri. “

Ubale ndi thupi komanso ubwenzi wapamtima umasokonekera ...

MB : “Inde, chithandizo chothandizira kubereka chimafooketsanso thupi. Zimatopa, zimapereka zotsatira zoyipa, zimasokoneza bungwe la moyo waumisiri ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, makamaka kwa amayi omwe amapatsidwa chithandizo chonse, ngakhale kusabereka kuli ndi vuto. mwamuna chifukwa. Machiritso Achilengedwe (kujambula mphini, sophrology, hypnosis, homeopathy ...) ikhoza kubweretsa ubwino wambiri kwa amayi omwe ali ndi vutoli.

Ponena za maubwenzi apamtima, amatsatiridwa ndi kalendala yolondola, kukhala nthawi ya kukakamizidwa ndi udindo. Kusweka kumatha kuchitika, kupangitsa kuti zinthu zikhale zovuta. Nkhani yodziseweretsa maliseche, yomwe nthawi zina imakhala yofunikira, imapangitsanso maanja ena kukhala osamasuka. “

Kodi mumalangiza maanja kuti aulule zakukhosi kwawo?

MB : “Kukamba za vuto lanu lokhala ndi mwana ndiko kunena za vuto lanu Kugonana. Okwatirana ena adzapambana ndi achibale, ena mocheperapo. Mulimonse mmene zingakhalire, n’njosakhwima chifukwa zonena za gululo nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta. Anzanu sadziwa tsatanetsatane wa matenda, zovuta zonse za njirayi, ndipo sadziwa kuti banjali likukumana ndi zowawa zotani. “Lekani kuziganizira, zibwera zokha, zonse zili m’mutu!”… Ngakhale kuti n’zosatheka chifukwa PMA imalowa m’moyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Osatchulanso zolengeza za pregnancy ndi kubadwa mvula mozungulira banjali ndikulimbitsa malingaliro a kupanda chilungamo: "Chifukwa chiyani ena angachite osati ife?" “

Kodi ndi ndani paulendo wolera angathandize banjali kuthana ndi mavuto?

MB : “Kaya ali m’chipatala kapena mwamseri, thandizo la a katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena sing'anga samaperekedwa mwachisawawa. Komabe, zimathandiza maanja kukhala ndi munthu wowafotokozera za ulendo wawo, ziyembekezo zawo, kukayikira kwawo, zolephera zawo. PMA imapangitsa kuti " kamangidwepang'ono “. Maanja amafunikira thandizo panjira iliyonse. Iwo anakwera kwenikweni maganizo elevator. Ndipo ayenera kudzifunsa mafunso omwe maanja ena samakambirana nawo ali ndi pakati. Amadzipangira okha, ndikudziyika okha kwa nthawi yayitali. Mwachitsanzo, chochita ngati 4 kuyesa lidzawagwiritsenso (yomaliza kubwezeredwa ndi Social Security ku France) imalephera, mungamange bwanji tsogolo lanu popanda kukhala ndi ana? Ndikulimbikitsidwa kuti mufunsane ndi katswiri yemwe ali ndi vuto la kusabereka. Magawo ochepa angakhale okwanira. “

Kodi chithandizo cha kulera chimachititsa maanja ena kupatukana?

MB : “Mwatsoka izi zimachitika. Chilichonse chimadalira kulimba kwa maziko a banjali pachiyambi. Koma komanso malo a kubadwa mkati mwa banjali. Kodi ndi projekiti ya anthu awiri, kapena ntchito yapayekha? Koma ena amagonjetsa chopingacho, amatha kulimbana ndi zowawa, kuyambiranso. Chotsimikizika ndi chakuti sichimatheka mwa "kuyika zowawa zonse pansi pa kapeti".

Ndipo mosiyana ndi zomwe munthu angaganize, kuopsa kwa kupatukana kumakhalapo pambuyo pa kubadwa wa mwana. Mavuto ena amabuka (omwe makolo onse ayenera kugonjetsa), bala la narcissistic likupitirirabe, maanja ena amafooka m'mabanja awo. moyo wakugonana. Mwana sakonza chilichonse. Njira yabwino yopewera chiopsezo cha kusamvetsetsana kwa nthawi yaitali: kulankhulana wina ndi mzake, kudutsa magawo pamodzi, musakhale paokha mu ululu. “