Mbali yamdima ya kudziletsa

Kwa onse omwe ali osavuta komanso omasuka kulipira ndi kirediti kadi, katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso wolemba mabuku Dan Ariely wabwera ndi chinyengo m'modzi mwa mabuku ake: amalimbikitsa kuyika khadi mu kapu yamadzi ndikuyiyika mufiriji. .

Musanagonjetsedwe ndi "ludzu la ogula", muyenera kudikirira kuti madzi asungunuke. Pamene tikuwona ayezi akusungunuka, chilakolako chogula chimatha. Zikuoneka kuti tazimitsa mayesero athu mothandizidwa ndi chinyengo. Ndipo tinatha kukana.

Kumasuliridwa m'chinenero chamaganizo, izi zikutanthauza: tikhoza kudziletsa. Ndizovuta kwambiri kukhala popanda izo. Maphunziro ambiri amachitira umboni izi.

Sitingathe kukana chitumbuwa chachikulu, ngakhale tili ndi cholinga choonda, ndipo izi zimakankhira kutali kwambiri ndi ife. Timakhala pachiwopsezo chosakhala opambana pamafunso chifukwa timawonera mndandanda usiku watha.

Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, ngati tipitirizabe kulamulira zilakolako zathu, tidzapitiriza kukhala ndi moyo waphindu. Kudziletsa kumaonedwa ngati mfungulo ya chipambano cha akatswiri, thanzi, ndi mayanjano achimwemwe. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, kukayikira kunabuka pakati pa ofufuza ngati luso la kudzilanga limadzaza moyo wathu.

Katswiri wina wa zamaganizo wa ku Austria, dzina lake Michael Kokkoris, atachita kafukufuku watsopano, ananena kuti anthu ena nthawi zambiri sasangalala akakhala kuti amangokhalira kulamulira zotsatira za zochita zawo. Ngakhale kuti pansi pamtima amamvetsetsa kuti m’kupita kwa nthaŵi adzapindula ndi chosankha chosagonja ku ziyeso.

Atangosiya chikhumbo chodzidzimutsa, amanong'oneza bondo. Kokkoris anati: “Kudziletsa n’kofunikadi. Koma mwina timaziona kukhala zofunika kwambiri.

Kokkoris ndi anzake, mwa zina, anapempha anthu kuti alembe zolemba zawo za momwe amakhalira kulimbana ndi mayesero a tsiku ndi tsiku. Analinganizidwa kuti azindikire m'nkhani iliyonse yomwe yatchulidwa chigamulo chomwe chinapangidwa ndi momwe woyankhayo anali wokhutira nacho. Zotsatira sizinali zomveka bwino.

Zowonadi, ena omwe adatenga nawo mbali adanena monyadira kuti adakwanitsa kutsatira njira yoyenera. Koma panali ambiri amene ananong’oneza bondo kuti sanagonje pa chiyeso chosangalatsacho. Kodi kusiyana kumeneku kumachokera kuti?

Mwachiwonekere, zifukwa za kusiyana ndi momwe omverawo amadziwonera okha - monga munthu woganiza bwino kapena wamalingaliro. Ochirikiza dongosolo la Dr. Spock amayang'ana kwambiri pa kudziletsa kosasunthika. Ndikosavuta kwa iwo kunyalanyaza chikhumbo chofuna kudya keke yotchuka ya chokoleti ya Sacher.

Amene amatsogozedwa kwambiri ndi malingaliro amakwiya, akuyang'ana mmbuyo, kuti anakana kusangalala. Kuonjezera apo, chisankho chawo mu phunziroli sichikugwirizana ndi chikhalidwe chawo: okhudzidwawo adamva kuti sanali iwowo panthawi yotere.

Choncho, kudziletsa mwina si chinthu choyenera anthu onse, wofufuzayo ndi wotsimikiza.

“Lingaliro la kudziletsa siliri lolimbikitsa mosakayikira monga momwe anthu ambiri amakhulupirira. Lilinso ndi mthunzi mbali, - akutsindika Mikhail Kokkoris. "Komabe, lingaliro ili likuyamba kugwira ntchito pa kafukufuku." Chifukwa chiyani?

Katswiri wa zachuma wa ku America George Loewenstein akukayikira kuti mfundoyi ndi chikhalidwe cha puritanical cha maphunziro, chomwe chidakali chofala ngakhale ku Ulaya omasuka. Posachedwapa, nayenso wakayikira mawu awa: pali kuzindikira kokulirapo kwakuti kufunitsitsa kumaphatikizapo “zoperewera zazikulu za umunthu.”

Zaka zoposa XNUMX zapitazo, asayansi a ku America, Ran Kivets ndi Anat Keinan, anasonyeza kuti nthawi zambiri anthu amanong’oneza bondo posankha zinthu mogwirizana ndi zolinga za nthawi yaitali. Iwo amaona ngati anaphonya chinachake ndipo sanasangalale ndi moyo mokwanira, akumalingalira za mmene tsiku lina adzakhala bwino.

Chisangalalo cha nthawiyi chimazimiririka kumbuyo, ndipo akatswiri a zamaganizo amawona zoopsa mu izi. Iwo amakhulupirira kuti n’zotheka kupeza kulinganizika koyenera pakati pa kusiya zopindula zanthaŵi yaitali ndi zosangalatsa za kanthaŵi.