Choyamba, chifukwa cha ufulu. Kusiya mantha m’mbuyomu kumatanthauza kukhala omasuka, kuchotsa mtolo umene umakulepheretsani kukhala mosangalala. Aliyense ali ndi maloto, njira yomwe ili yotsekedwa ndi mantha. Kusiya mantha kumatanthauza kumasula manja panjira yopitako. Womasulidwa, mudzapeza mwayi wochita zomwe munkaopa kale!
Kachiwiri, chifukwa cha thanzi. Kusiya kuchita mantha kumatanthauza kuchepetsa nkhawa. Ngati nthawi zambiri mumakhala ndi mantha, ndiye kuti dongosolo lanu la mitsempha ndi psyche zimagwedezeka - izi zingayambitse matenda. Pamene psyche imadzazidwa ndi mantha, mumakhala mukuyang'ana zoopsa, ndipo ngati izi zikubwerezedwa kawirikawiri, zingayambitse mantha kapena kusokonezeka kwa mitsempha. Ndikokwanira kusiya kuchita mantha, ndipo dongosolo lamanjenje lidzasiya kuwononga mphamvu zamatsenga, ndiye mphamvu yomwe idagwiritsidwa ntchito pa mantha idzakhalapo pa chinthu chothandiza.
Chachitatu, chifukwa chodzidalira. Mukagonjetsa mantha, malingaliro abwino amapangidwa mu chidziwitso: "Ndine wamphamvu", "Ndine wopambana", ndipo chidziwitso chimalandira chidziwitso cha kugonjetsa, chomwe chimayambitsa chikhulupiriro chakuti mungathe kulimbana ndi maganizo oipa amkati. .
Pomaliza, chifukwa cha khalidwe lamphamvu. Kugonjetsa mantha kumamanga khalidwe. Ngati mutha kugonjetsa mantha amodzi, ndiye kuti mutha kugonjetsa ena onse. N’zosavuta kuti mupirire mayesero.
Ndipo tsopano tiyeni tiwone njira ndi njira zothetsera mantha.
1. Pezani zifukwa zina zothanirana ndi mantha. Zifukwa izi zidzakupatsani mphamvu pankhondoyo ndikukhala maziko a chigonjetso chanu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mumakonda kuyenda koma mukuwopa kuwuluka, chikhumbo chopita kumalo akutali chidzakhala chifukwa chanu choyamba. Yachiwiri idzakhala yokhoza kuyendayenda padziko lonse momasuka ndikusunga nthawi yoyenda.
2. Fotokozani mantha. Kuyambira kalekale, munthu wakhala akuopa kwambiri zosadziwika. Choncho, phunzirani za mantha anu onse. Fotokozani mantha anu momveka bwino. Lembani mwatsatanetsatane papepala, jambulani ndi kunena mokweza - sinthani momwe mungathere mu mawonekedwe otetezeka. Ndiyeno kupeza zonse zokhudza izo. Mu theka la milandu, izi zimakulolani kuti muchotse kwathunthu, kapena kuchepetsa.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukuwopa akangaude akuluakulu, muyenera kudziwa kuti amapezeka m'nkhalango ya Amazon yokha, ndipo mudzamvetsetsa kuti mwayi wokumana nawo ku Moscow ndi wochepa kwambiri. Ndipo mukamva kuti akangaude amakonda kuthawa munthu akamayandikira, khalani bata kwambiri.
3. Pezani chifukwa cha mantha. Njira yosavuta yothanirana ndi mantha, chifukwa chomwe mukudziwa. Ndiye ndikwanira kuthetsa izo, ndipo mantha akhoza kufooketsa kapena kutha kwathunthu. Ngati chifukwa chake sichipezeka, ndiye kuti mantha ndi osadziwika, ndipo iyi ndi nthawi yodzifufuza mozama kwambiri kapena kutembenukira kwa katswiri wogwira ntchito ndi phobias.
Chitsanzo cha mantha ozindikira ndi nkhani yotsatirayi: ali mwana, mnyamata adakankhidwira m'madzi, ndipo kwa mphindi imodzi adatsamwitsidwa mpaka atapulumutsidwa. Kuyambira pamenepo, amawopa kukhala m'madzi ngati sakumva pansi.
Ndikovuta kwambiri kugwira ntchito ndi mantha osazindikira; nthawi zambiri munthu sangathe kukumbukira zifukwa zawo. Mwachitsanzo, nkhani yotere: mtsikanayo ankawopa kwambiri mipope yothirira m'munda. Zikuoneka kuti ali mwana ankakonda kuthirira maluwa ndi payipi. Kamodzi, mu udzu, monga iye ankaganiza, anagona payipi. Iye anaitenga, ndipo inapezeka kuti inali njoka, imene inamutsonya ndipo inachititsa mantha kwambiri mtsikanayo. Koma sanakumbukire nkhaniyi mpaka atatembenukira kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo, yemwe adamuika m'malo a hypnosis ndikubwezeretsanso nkhaniyi kukumbukira kwake.
4. Onaninso mantha anu. Gwiritsani ntchito sikelo ya 0 mpaka 10 pomwe 3 ali otetezeka ndipo 4 ali pachiwopsezo. Mwachitsanzo, mukuwopa tizilombo ndipo mudavotera mantha awa pa XNUMX-XNUMX point. Zikuoneka kuti iye safika pachiwopsezo cha imfa. Kodi ndi bwino kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zambiri pa izo ndiye? Kapena kodi n’zotheka kutenga mantha amenewa modekha?
5. Tengani chitsanzo kwa amene alibe mantha, mukhoza kuphunzira kwa iwo kuthetsa mantha. Lankhulani ndi munthu amene alibe mantha anu, ndipo ngakhale bwino ndi munthu amene wagonjetsa mantha amenewa. Amene mudzatsogolere, kuchokera pamenepo mudzalemba - mwambi wotchuka umati. Palinso kulungamitsidwa kwa sayansi kwa izi: katswiri wa zamaganizo Albert Bandura anaika patsogolo ndikutsimikizira chiphunzitso cha maphunziro a chikhalidwe cha anthu, chomwe chimati munthu, mwa kuyang'anitsitsa, akhoza kuphunzira zinthu zatsopano kapena kusintha khalidwe lakale. Ngakhale pongoyang'ana momwe wina akulimbana ndi mantha ndikuzigonjetsa, mudzakhulupirira kuti mukhoza kugonjetsanso.
6. Pambuyo pa chigonjetso chilichonse pa mantha, dzipangeni nokha, mwachitsanzo, kugula kwamtengo wapatali, ola lakuyenda m'chilengedwe, kupita ku zisudzo kapena ku cinema, kapena kubwera ndi zanu. Mphotho iyenera kukhala yofunika kwa inu!
7. Dulani mantha. Kotero mudzapeza chidziwitso chenicheni cha kumenyana ndi kugonjetsa mantha ndipo chifukwa chake mudzapeza mphamvu pa izo. Nthawi ina mukadzakumana ndi chinthu chowopsa, mudzadziwa kuti mutha kuthana ndi malingaliro anu. Ngati zimakuvutani kukhala ndi mantha nokha, pemphani thandizo kwa mnzanu amene alibe mantha ndi inu. Mloleni iye akhale wothandizira wanu. Kotero, ngati mukuwopa utali, funsani mnzanu kuti akwere padenga la nyumba ndi inu ndikuyima pafupi ndi inu, akugwira dzanja lanu. Kwa bwenzi kudzakhala ulendo wawung'ono, koma kwa inu kudzakhala chidziwitso chakugonjetsa.
Kusiya kuchita mantha kumatanthauza kudzipanga kukhala womasuka, wamphamvu ndi wotseguka ku chinthu chatsopano. Kunja kwa malo otonthoza (m'dera la mantha) ndi mwayi watsopano, mphamvu, ndi mphotho. Moyo wopanda mantha udzakupatsani mphamvu zatsopano, mudzakhala osangalala. Mwawerenga nkhaniyi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mukumva kuti mantha okha amakulekanitsani ndi kukwaniritsidwa kwa zilakolako zanu zamkati, ndipo mukufuna kusiya kuchita mantha. Gonjetsani mantha - simudzanong'oneza bondo!