Zamkatimu
Kusiyanitsa pakati pa kukhala achifundo ndi kumvera ena chisoni
Psychology
Wogulitsa bizinesi komanso mphunzitsi wazakudya Meritxell Garcia Roig amapanga chitsogozo pa "Luso lakumvera chisoni" kwa anthu onse omwe amatha kumva momwe ena akumvera
Lero mwadzuka muli osangalala, mukumva bwino. Kenako mumayamba kugwira ntchito ndipo china chake chimalowa mkati mwanu, zachisoni zomwe simungathe kufotokoza. Tsiku lanu limayamba kuyenda molakwika ndipo simukumvetsa chifukwa chake. Ndi, pomwe mnzanu wakuwuzani kanthu kena kowawa kwambiri, ndipo mukuwona kuti akumva choncho, mukamvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe mwadandaula. Kodi zinachitikapo kwa inu? Ngati ndi choncho, ndi chifukwa chakuti ndinu amodzi munthu wachifundo, kapena kani, mutha kumva chisoni mkati.
Izi ndi zomwe Meritxell Garcia Roig, wolemba "Art of Empathy," amatcha "mphamvu yakuzindikira," chinthu chomwe anthu omvera komanso omvera kwambiri amakhala nacho. “Tonsefe tili mirror neurons, zomwe zimatithandiza kumvetsetsa ena. Anthu omwe ali tcheru kwambiri, amakhala ndi magaloni amtunduwu otukuka kwambiri, motero amakhala achifundo osati pamaganizidwe, komanso pamalingaliro momwe amatha kukhala momwe munthu wina akumvera », akufotokoza Garcia Roig.
«Sikungolankhula ndi munthu, kudziwa momwe alili ndikumvetsetsa. Ndikumva m'thupi lanu, kukhala momwe munthuyo akukhalira, pamlingo wakumverera kwakuthupi, zamalingaliro, "akupitiliza.
Wolembayo akuwonetsa zabwino zakukhala munthu womvera chisoni: «Kulumikizana ndi ena pamlingo wakuyawu ndikwabwino, pamapeto pake kumakudzazani, mukumva pafupi ndi anthu ena, ndiwe wokhoza kudziyika wekha mkhalidwe wawo ».
Komabe, Meritxell Garcia amalankhulanso za zovuta zakukhala ndi "khalidweli", chifukwa ngati wina ali ndi nthawi yoyipa, ndipo "ikazipitilira, zimatha kuyambitsa mavuto", ngakhale akufotokoza kuti "bukuli limayesa kusintha ndi izi, athandizani kugwiritsa ntchito luso ili".
"Zili ngati mawonekedwe amunthu wina aliyense, kutengedwa mpaka kumapeto, zitha kukhala zabwino kapena zoyipa kwambiri", akutero wolemba ndikupitiliza kuti: "Anthu achifundo amakhala ndi khungu, titero kunena kwake, amakhala olusa. Chilichonse zomwe zili pafupi zimatipyozaZimapita mkatikati ndipo zimakhala zovuta kuti tithe kusiyanitsa pakati pa zomwe tikumva ndi za ena, chifukwa timakhala ngati kuti ndi zathu ndipo zitha kuwoneka ngati kusakhazikika kwamalingaliro ».
Ndi chifukwa cha zachilendozi zomwe wolemba amafotokoza zomwe zikuwonetsa kufunikira kodzidziwitsa nokha kwa anthu achifundo, ndi cholinga cha «kuzindikira zomwe zimatigwera ndi chifukwa chake zimatichitikira ”, kudziwa kusiyanitsa ngati zotengeka" ndi zathu kapena za wina "ndipo, titazindikira kale, kuphunzira" kuyisamalira modekha komanso momasuka ".
Wamalonda akutsimikizira kufunikira kwa izi, polankhula za kuopsa kofunikira kusangalatsa komwe anthu achifundo awa ali nako. «Mutha kusangalatsa zosowa za ena, koma pali nthawi zina nthawi imeneyo mumayiwala zomwe mukufunaChifukwa mukuyesera kuti wina asangalale, ndipo mwina mumazichita ngati mukumva kuwawa, "akutero.
Pewani "amisili okhumudwa"
Ikuwunikira kufunikira kodziwa zomwe zikuyenda bwino kwa ife ndi zomwe sizili, mbali zonse za moyo wathu: zomwe timadya, kavalidwe kathu komanso ubale womwe tili nawo. Ikugogomezera maubwenzi, ndege yofunikira m'moyo wathu ndipo imakhudza gawo lina lofunikira: simumuyamikira munthuyo, koma mwina mukufuna chibwenzi china ndipo izi ziyenera kuyankhula mwachibadwa »
Kenako amalankhula za zomwe amachitcha kuti "zoyipa zamisala" komanso "amisili", "anthu omwe amafuna chidwi cha anthu ena, chifukwa kusadziwa wekhaSadziwa momwe angadziperekere okha thandizo lomwe angafunike. Pofuna kupewa mavuto omwe anthu amtunduwu angachite "kumvera," Meritxell amalimbikitsa kuti tidziwitse anthu awa m'miyoyo yathu. "Popeza timawona munthu tsiku lililonse, sizitanthauza kuti tiyenera kukhala pachibwenzi chakuya," akutero. Akuwonjezera kuti ngati tapezeka kuti tazunguliridwa ndi anthu onga awa, njira zosiyanasiyana zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito, monga "kuyankha ndi monosyllable ndikuyanjana pang'ono momwe tingathere kuti tisatope" kapena "kucheza ndi munthuyo ndi ena owazungulira, motero kufalitsa nkhawa. ”
Wolemba akumaliza polankhula za momwe Chisoni ndichinthu chomwe taphunzitsidwa kukhala nacho kwa ena, koma osati kwa ife eni. "Kulumikizana kwambiri ndi akunja uyenera kuchita zolimbitsa thupi ndi iwe wekha kuti umvetsetse zomwe ukusowa", akutero ndikumaliza kuti: "Ndiwe bwenzi lapadziko lonse lapansi komanso mdani woipitsitsa kwa iwe wekha."