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Kukhwima kwa kugonana kwa anyamata - katswiri wa zamaganizo, Larisa Surkova
Kugonana paubwana ndi nkhani yoterera. Makolo sachita manyazi kulankhula za izi ndi ana awo, amapewa ngakhale kutchula zinthu ndi mayina awo. Inde, tikukamba za mawu owopsa "mbolo" ndi "nyini".
Pofika nthawi yomwe mwana wanga wamwamuna adazindikira kuti amasiyana ndi amuna kapena akazi, ndinali nditawerenga mabuku osiyanasiyana okhudza mutuwo ndipo ndidachita modekha pazomwe adafufuza. Pofika zaka zitatu, zinthu zinayamba kutentha: mwanayo sanatulutse manja ake mu thalauza lake. Malongosoledwe onse oti sikunali kofunikira kuchita izi pamaso pa anthu adaphwanyidwa ngati nandolo ku khoma. Zinalinso zopanda pake kuti atulutse manja ake m'matumba - mwanayo anali akukankhira kale manja ake mmbuyo mosasamala kanthu.
Kodi zimenezi zidzatha liti? Ndinafunsa mmaganizo. - Ndipo chotani nacho?
“Taonani mmene ayang’anila manja ake! O, ndipo tsopano akuyesera kuti adzigwire yekha ndi mwendo, "- makolo ndi ena onse achinsinsi amasunthidwa.
Chakumapeto kwa chaka, ana amapeza zinthu zina zosangalatsa za matupi awo. Ndipo pofika atatu amayamba kuwafufuza bwinobwino. Apa ndipamene makolo amakangana. Inde, tikukamba za maliseche.
Kale pa miyezi 7-9, pokhala wopanda thewera, mwanayo amakhudza thupi lake, amapeza ziwalo zina, ndipo izi ndi zachilendo, makolo anzeru sayenera kukhala ndi nkhawa.
Monga momwe katswiri wa zamaganizo anatifotokozera, patapita chaka, amayi ambiri ndi abambo amachita mosiyana kwambiri, ngati, kunena kuti, mnyamata, akhudza mbolo yake. Ndizofala pano kulakwitsa: kufuula, kudzudzula, kuopseza: "Lekani, kapena mudzang'amba," ndikuchita zonse kuti mulimbitse chilakolako chimenechi. Kupatula apo, ana nthawi zonse amadikirira zomwe akuchita, ndipo zomwe zidzakhale sizofunikira.
Zimenezo ziyenera kukhala bata kwambiri. Lankhulani ndi mwana wanu, fotokozani, ngakhale mukuwoneka kuti sakumvetsa chilichonse. "Inde, ndiwe mnyamata, anyamata onse ali ndi mbolo." Ngati mawuwa akukhumudwitsa psyche yanu (ngakhale ndikukhulupirira kuti palibe cholakwika ndi mayina a ziwalo zoberekera), mungagwiritse ntchito matanthauzo anu. Komabe, ndikukulimbikitsani kuti muphatikizepo nzeru zamayina awo: bomba, kuthirira madzi ndi tambala sizigwirizana kwambiri ndi chinthu chomwe chikufunsidwa.
Inde, mayi ndi mwana ndi ogwirizana kwambiri kuposa abambo. Iyi ndi physiology, palibe chomwe mungachite. Koma panthawi yomwe mwanayo akuyamba kusonyeza kuti ali ndi pakati, ndikofunika kwambiri kuti abambo agwirizane ndi amayi ndi mwanayo. Atate ndi amene ayenera kufotokoza ndi kusonyeza mwana zimene mwamuna ayenera kukhala.
“Ndine wokondwa kuti ndiwe mnyamata, ndipo ndi bwino kuti nawenso wasangalala nazo. Koma m’gulu la anthu sikuloledwa kusonyeza umuna wawo motere. Chikondi ndi ulemu zimapezedwa mosiyana, ndi ntchito zabwino, ndi zochita zoyenera, "- zokambirana zamtunduwu zithandizira kuthana ndi vutoli.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza kuti aphatikize mnyamatayo muzochitika za amuna, ngati kuti akusuntha kutsindika kuchokera ku msinkhu wa anatomical kupita ku chophiphiritsira: nsomba, mwachitsanzo, kusewera masewera.
Ngati palibe bambo m'banja, lolani woimira wina wamwamuna - mchimwene wake wamkulu, amalume, agogo - alankhule ndi mwanayo. Mwanayo ayenera kuphunzira kuti amakondedwa mmene iye amakondera, koma kuti mwamuna ndi mkazi wake amamupatsa udindo winawake.
Anyamata posakhalitsa akusangalala ndi kukondoweza kwa makina kwa mbolo. Ngakhale kuti sikunachedwe kulankhula za kuseweretsa maliseche, makolo amayamba kuchita mantha.
Pali nthawi zina pamene mnyamata akugwira mbolo panthawi ya nkhawa. Mwachitsanzo, akamakalipiridwa kapena chinthu china choletsedwa. Ngati izi zikuchitika mwadongosolo, ndi bwino kuganizira, chifukwa mwanayo amafunafuna ndikupeza chitonthozo, mtundu wa chitonthozo. Ndi bwino kumupatsa njira ina yothanirana ndi nkhawa zake - kuchita masewera amtundu wina, yoga, komanso kupota sipinapi.
Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, perekani mwana wanu malo awoawo. Ngodya yake, kumene palibe amene adzapite, kumene mwanayo adzasiyidwa yekha. Adzaphunzirabe thupi lake ndikumulola kuti azichita bwino popanda kumverera kowononga kwambiri komwe kholo lingayambitse mwana - kumva manyazi.
Masewera a Atsikana sali owopsa
Akukula, anyamata ambiri amayesa udindo wa atsikana: amavala masiketi, malaya amutu, ngakhale zodzikongoletsera. Ndipo kachiwiri, palibe cholakwika ndi zimenezo.
Katerina Suratova yemwe ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo anati: “Anyamata akamaseŵera ndi zidole ndipo atsikana amaseŵera ndi magalimoto, zimenezi n’zachibadwa. Kungakhale kulakwa kugogomezera molakwa zimenezi, kuchititsa manyazi mnyamatayo. Makamaka ngati abambo amachita. Ndiye kwa mwana udindo wa atate wamkulu ndi wamphamvu wotero ukhoza kukhala woposa mphamvu zake, ndipo n'zotheka kuti iye adzatengeka ndi udindo wa amayi ofewa ndi okoma mtima. “
Ndipo tsiku lina mnyamatayo adzazindikira kuti ndi mnyamata. Ndipo pamenepo adzagwa m’chikondi: ndi mphunzitsi, ndi mnansi, bwenzi la amake. Ndipo izo ziri bwino.