Makolo a Narcissistic nthawi zina amalera ana awo pofuna kuwalera kuti akhale "abwino" umunthu. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Gerald Schonewulf akufotokoza imodzi mwa nkhani za kulera koteroko.
Ndikuuzani nkhani ya mnyamata yemwe amayi ake adayesa kulera "katswiri wamng'ono." Anadzionanso kuti anali katswiri wosaululika ndipo anali wotsimikiza kuti banja lake lalepheretsa luntha lake kukula mokwanira.
Anabala mwana wamwamuna, Filipo, mochedwa ndipo kuyambira pachiyambi adawona mwanayo ngati njira yopezera zosowa zake. Anafunikira kuwongolera kusungulumwa kwake ndi kutsimikizira kuti banja lake linali lolakwa ponena za iye. Ankafuna kuti mnyamatayo amupembedze iye, mayi wodabwitsa, koma chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti amakula ngati katswiri, kupitiriza "namatetule" wake.
Kuyambira kubadwa, adalimbikitsa Filipo kuti anali wabwino kuposa anzake - wanzeru, wokongola komanso "wapamwamba". Sanamulole kuti azisewera ndi ana oyandikana nawo, poopa kuti "angamuwononge" ndi "zokonda" zawo. Ngakhale pamene anali ndi pakati, ankamuwerengera mokweza ndipo anachita zonse kuti alere mwana wake kuti akhale wanzeru, mwana wosabadwayo yemwe akanakhala chizindikiro cha kupambana kwake. Pofika zaka zitatu, anali atayamba kale kuŵerenga ndi kulemba.
Kusukulu ya pulayimale, anali patsogolo kwambiri pa ana ena pankhani ya chitukuko. Iye «analumpha» mwa kalasi ndipo anakhala ankakonda aphunzitsi. Philip anaposa anzake a m'kalasi pa maphunziro ndipo ankawoneka kuti amavomereza chiyembekezo cha amayi ake. Komabe, ana a m’kalasimo anayamba kumupezerera. Poyankha madandaulo, mayiyo anayankha kuti: “Akukuchitirani nsanje basi. Osawalabadira. Amadana nanu chifukwa ndi oyipa kuposa inu pa chilichonse. Dziko likanakhala malo abwinoko popanda iwo. "
Sanathenso kudzitonthoza yekha chifukwa amangosilira: ntchito yake yamaphunziro idatsika kwambiri, ndipo tsopano panalibenso kaduka.
Pa nthawi yonse yomwe anali kusekondale, amayi ake anali kuyang'anira Philip. Ngati mnyamatayo analola kukayikira malangizo ake, ankalangidwa koopsa. M’kalasimo, iye anakhalabe wosadziŵika, koma anadzifotokozera yekha zimenezi mwa kupambana kwa anzake a m’kalasi.
Mavuto enieni adayamba pomwe Filipo adalowa ku koleji yapamwamba. Kumeneko anasiya kuonekera potsutsana ndi zochitika zambiri: panali ophunzira anzeru okwanira ku koleji. Kuonjezera apo, adasiyidwa yekha, popanda chitetezo cha amayi nthawi zonse. Ankakhala m’chipinda chogona ndi anyamata ena amene ankaganiza kuti ndi wodabwitsa. Sanathenso kudzitonthoza yekha ndi mfundo yakuti amangosilira: ntchito yake ya maphunziro inatsika kwambiri, ndipo tsopano panalibe kanthu kaduka. Zinapezeka kuti kwenikweni nzeru zake zili pansi pa avareji. Kudzidalira kwake kofooka kunali kugwa.
Zinapezeka kuti panali phompho lenileni pakati pa munthu amene amayi ake anamuphunzitsa kukhala ndi Filipo weniweni. Poyamba, anali wophunzira wabwino kwambiri, koma tsopano sankakhoza maphunziro angapo. Ophunzira enawo anamuseka.
Anakwiya: angayese bwanji awa "opanda" kumuseka? Koposa zonse, anakhumudwa ndi kunyozedwa kwa atsikana. Iye sanakule kukhala katswiri wokongola nkomwe, monga amayi ake adanena, koma, mosiyana, anali wocheperapo komanso wosakongola, ndi mphuno yaifupi ndi maso aang'ono.
Pambuyo pa zochitika zingapo, anakagonekedwa m’chipatala cha anthu amisala, kumene anam’peza ndi matenda a schizophrenia.
Pobwezera, Filipo anayamba kukonza zolakwika ndi anzake a m'kalasi, kulowa m'zipinda za atsikana, nthawi ina anayesa kupha mmodzi mwa ophunzirawo. Zitachitika zinthu zingapo zofanana ndi zimenezi, anakagonekedwa m’chipatala cha anthu odwala matenda amisala, kumene anamupeza ndi matenda a schizophrenia. Pa nthawi imeneyo, anali ndi maganizo onyenga kuti sanali katswiri, komanso anali ndi luso lapadera: mwachitsanzo, akhoza kupha munthu kumbali ina ya dziko ndi mphamvu ya maganizo. Anali wotsimikiza kuti ubongo wake unali ndi ma neurotransmitters apadera omwe palibe wina aliyense anali nawo.
Atakhala zaka zingapo m’chipatala cha anthu odwala matenda amisala, anayamba kudzinamizira kuti ndi wathanzi ndipo anamasulidwa. Koma Filipo analibe poti apite: atafika kuchipatala, amayi ake adakwiya, adachita chipongwe mu utsogoleri wa chipatala ndipo adamwalira ndi matenda a mtima.
Koma ngakhale pamene anali mumsewu, Filipo anapitirizabe kudziona kuti ndi woposa ena ndipo ankakhulupirira kuti ankangonamizira kuti alibe pokhala n’cholinga chobisa kuti anthu ena asamamukonde komanso kuti asazunzike. Iye ankadabe dziko lonseli lomwe linakana kuzindikira luso lake.
Philip ankayembekezera kuti pomalizira pake adzakhala munthu amene amayamikira luso lake.
Nthawi ina Filipo anapita ku sitima yapansi panthaka. Zovala zake zinali zauve, ananunkha zoipa: anali asanasambe kwa milungu yambiri. Chakumapeto kwa nsanjayo, Filipo anaona mtsikana wokongola kwambiri. Popeza ankaoneka wanzeru komanso wokoma mtima, ankayembekezera kuti pamapeto pake adzakhala munthu woyamikira luso lake. Anamuyandikira n’kumufunsa nthawi. Mtsikanayo anangomuyang’ana mwamsanga, anayamikira maonekedwe ake onyansa, ndipo mwamsanga anatembenuka.
Ndidamunyansa, adaganiza Filipo, ali ngati wina aliyense! Iye anakumbukira atsikana ena onse a ku koleji amene ankamuseka, koma kwenikweni anali osayenera ngakhale kukhala pafupi naye! Ndinakumbukira mawu a amayi anga akuti dziko likanakhala bwino popanda anthu.
Pamene sitimayo inkafika pasiteshoni, Philip anakankhira mtsikanayo m’njanji. Atamva kulira kwake komvetsa chisoni, sanamve chilichonse.