Zamkatimu
Pamene munthu wapafupi ndi ife adzipeza kuti ali mumkhalidwe wovuta: mmodzi wa iwo omwe amamukonda amasiya moyo wake, akudwala matenda aakulu kapena chisudzulo - mwadzidzidzi timakumana ndi zovuta kuti tipeze mawu oyenera. . Tikufuna kutonthoza, koma nthawi zambiri timakulitsa. Kodi nchiyani chimene sichinganenedwe kwa munthu wodwala?
Nthawi zambiri m'mikhalidwe yoteroyo, timasochera ndikubwereza zomwe anthu ena ambiri anganene kwa munthu wopanda ife: "Ndikumva chisoni," "ndi zowawa kumva izi." Yang'anani ndemanga mu malo ochezera a pa Intaneti pansi pa zolemba zomwe wolemba akufuna kuthandizira. Ambiri a iwo, mosakayikira, amalembedwa kuchokera pansi pamtima, koma amabwerezana ndipo, chifukwa chake, amamveka ngati mbiri yosweka.
Mawu omwe sangathandize munthu wovutika, ndipo nthawi zina amatha kukulitsa mkhalidwe wake
1. "Ndikudziwa momwe mukumvera"
Tinene zoona, sitingadziwe. Ngakhale titaganiza kuti tinakumana ndi zofanana, aliyense amakhala ndi nkhani yake m'njira yakeyake.
Pamaso pathu pangakhale munthu wokhala ndi mikhalidwe ina yamalingaliro, kawonedwe ka moyo ndi kuthekera kopirira kupsinjika, ndipo mkhalidwe wofananawo umazindikiridwa mosiyana ndi iye.
Inde, mutha kugawana zomwe mwakumana nazo, koma simuyenera kuzindikira zomwe mwakumana nazo ndi zomwe mnzanu akukumana nazo pano. Kupanda kutero, zimamveka ngati kudziumiriza zakukhosi ndi malingaliro ake komanso mwayi wolankhulanso za iwe mwini.
2. “Zinayenera kukhala, ndipo muyenera kungovomereza”
Pambuyo pa "chitonthozo" choterocho, munthu amafunsa funso: "N'chifukwa chiyani ndiyenera kudutsa gehena iyi?" Zingakuthandizeni ngati mukudziwa motsimikiza kuti mnzanuyo ndi wokhulupirira ndipo mawu anu amagwirizana ndi chithunzi chake cha dziko. Apo ayi, akhoza kukulitsa mkhalidwe wamkati wa munthu, yemwe, mwinamwake, panthawi ino akumva kutaya kwathunthu kwa tanthauzo la moyo.
3. "Ngati mukufuna chinachake, ndiimbireni"
Mawu wamba omwe timabwereza ndi zolinga zabwino kwambiri. Komabe, interlocutor amawerenga ngati chotchinga chamtundu womwe mumakhazikitsa kuti mukhale kutali ndi chisoni chake. Ganizirani ngati munthu wovutika kwambiri angakuyimbireni ndi pempho lapadera? Ngati sanafune kufunafuna chithandizo m'mbuyomu, mwayi wa izi umakhala zero.
M’malo mwake, pemphani kuchita zimene mnzanu akufuna. Chisoni chimakhala chotopetsa m'maganizo ndipo nthawi zambiri sichimasiya mphamvu ku ntchito zapakhomo. Pitani kwa mnzanu, perekani kuphika chinachake, kugula chinachake, kuyenda galu. Thandizo loterolo silikhala lokhazikika ndipo lidzakuthandizani kuposa kupereka mwaulemu koma kutali kuti mukuitanireni.
4. "Ichinso chidzapita"
Chitonthozo chabwino mukamawonera pulogalamu yotopetsa yapa TV yanthawi yayitali, koma osati panthawi yomwe mukung'ambika ndi zokumana nazo zovuta. Mawu oterowo kwa munthu amene ali ndi ululu amasokoneza malingaliro ake. Ndipo ngakhale kuti mawuwa paokha ndi oona, ndikofunika kuti munthu asafulumire, kukhala ndi chisoni komanso kumvetsetsa mawu awa, panthawi yomwe ali wokonzeka kwa iwo.
Kutsatira malamulo onsewa kumawonjezera mwayi wothandiza wokondedwa
Komabe, choyipa kwambiri chomwe mungachite ndikungonena kalikonse. Anthu amene anakumanapo ndi chisoni amavomereza kuti kukhala chete osayembekezeka kwa okondedwa awo kunakhala chiyeso chinanso kwa iwo. Mwachionekere, mmodzi wa iwo amene anachoka anamva chisoni kwambiri, iwo sanapeze mawu olondola. Komabe, ndi munthawi zovuta komanso zowawa za moyo momwe mawu athu amakhala othandizira kwambiri. Muziganizira anthu amene mumawakonda.
Za wolemba: Andrea Bonior ndi katswiri wazamisala yemwe amagwira ntchito pamankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso wolemba mabuku.