Kodi ndi bwino kukhala wabwino kwa aliyense?

Mukayang'ana malo ozungulira, mupezadi munthu yemwe angapatsidwe tanthauzo la "zabwino". Iye ndi munthu wosakangana, wachifundo, nthawi zonse waulemu komanso wochezeka, wokonzeka kuthandiza ndi kuthandizira nthawi iliyonse. Ndipo nthawi zambiri mumafuna kukhala yemweyo. Chifukwa chiyani?

Kuyambira tili ana, tili ndi makhalidwe ena amene amatithandiza kuzolowera moyo wa anthu. Chimodzi mwa zitsanzozi ndi "kukhala abwino." Zimathandiza kupeza chithandizo ndi kuzindikirika popanda khama lalikulu. Ana amaphunzira mwamsanga: mudzakhala wabwino, mudzalandira mphatso kuchokera kwa makolo anu, ndipo mphunzitsi adzakukondani kwambiri kuposa wovutitsa. M'kupita kwa nthawi, chitsanzo ichi chikhoza kukhala maziko a moyo wathu wonse, bizinesi ndi maubwenzi athu. Kodi izi zimabweretsa chiyani ndipo ndi mavuto ati omwe akuyembekezera munthu "wabwino"?

1. Mudzapereka zokonda zanu chifukwa cha ena.

Ulemu ndi kufuna kupeŵa mikangano kungachititse kuti panthaŵi ina tiyambe kudzimana zofuna zathu kaamba ka ena. Izi zimachitika chifukwa choopa kukanidwa (ndi abwenzi kusukulu, anzawo). Ndikofunikira kuti tizimva kuti zonse zili m'dongosolo ndi ife komanso kuti timakondedwa, chifukwa izi ndizomwe zimapereka chitetezo.

Chikhumbo chofuna kusangalatsa aliyense wotizungulira chimatipangitsa kuti tizisunga chizindikiro chathu nthawi zonse komanso kulikonse, tikhale abwino mu taxi, shopu, subway. Timangofuna kuchita chinachake kuti tisangalatse dalaivala, ndipo tsopano tikupereka kale malangizo ochuluka kuposa momwe tiyenera kuchitira. Ndipo timachita mosayembekezera kwa ife tokha. Kapena timayamba kusangalatsa wometa tsitsi ndi makambitsirano, m’malo mongopuma pampando. Kapena sitinenapo ndemanga kwa katswiri wopaka utoto yemwe amapaka vanishi mosagwirizana - iyi ndi salon yomwe timakonda, bwanji kudziyipitsa mbiri yanu?

Zotsatira zake, kuyang'ana kwathu kumasintha kuchoka mkati kupita kunja: m'malo mowongolera zothandizira kuti tidzigwiritse ntchito tokha, timathera mphamvu zathu zonse pa zizindikiro zakunja. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kwa ife zomwe amaganiza ndi kunena za ife, ndipo timachita chilichonse kuwonetsetsa kuti ayamikiridwa ndi kuvomerezedwa.

Ngakhale ubwino wathu sulinso ndi chidwi kwa ife: timadzivulaza tokha mwa kuchita zomwe sitikonda, kapena timakhala chete pamene zofuna zathu zikuphwanyidwa. Timadzipereka tokha chifukwa cha ena.

Nthawi zina ichi ndi chifukwa chake kusintha kwakukulu kwamalingaliro, pamene munthu wopanda mikangano ndi waulemu m'banja amakhala chilombo chenicheni. Kukhala wabwino ndi alendo ndikosavuta, koma kunyumba timachotsa chigoba ndikuchichotsa kwa okondedwa - timakuwa, kutukwana, kulanga ana. Kupatula apo, banja likutikonda kale ndipo "sapita kulikonse", simungathe kuyimirira pamwambo, kumasuka ndipo potsiriza mukhale nokha.

Aliyense ayenera kusiya makhalidwe amenewa - bwana wamkulu kapena kalaliki wamng'ono, mwana kapena kholo. Chifukwa ndi funso la kulinganiza kwa moyo wathu, zomwe ife tokha timapereka ndi kulandira. Ndipo ngati sitiyankha mwachifundo kwa omwe ali pafupi ndi ife omwe amatipatsa zambiri, moyo wathu ukhoza kupereka mpukutu: banja lidzagwa, mabwenzi adzatembenuka.

2. Mudzakhala okonda kuvomerezedwa ndi wina.

Mchitidwewu umapanga kudalira kowawa pakuvomerezedwa ndi wina. Kuyambira m'mawa mpaka usiku, tiyenera kumva kuyamika, kuzindikira talente kapena kukongola. Ndi njira iyi yokha yomwe timakhala ndi chidaliro, owuziridwa, titha kuchitapo kanthu. Zimagwira ntchito ngati dope yamagetsi. Timayamba kuzifuna kuti zitseke mkati mwake.

Chiwembu choterechi chimatsogolera ku lingaliro lapadera la chilichonse chomwe chimatichitikira. Chitsanzo choonekeratu ndicho munthu amene amalabadira mopweteka munthu akamanenedwa, ngakhale pamene akudzudzulidwa mogwira mtima. Mu chitsanzo chake, ndemanga iliyonse imadziwika pa zizindikiro ziwiri zokha: "Ndine wabwino" kapena "Ndine woipa." Chifukwa cha zimenezi, timasiya kusiyanitsa kumene kuli wakuda ndi kumene kuli koyera, kumene kuli choonadi ndi komwe kuli kutamanda. Zikukhala zovuta kuti anthu azilankhulana nafe - chifukwa mwa aliyense amene sachita chidwi ndi ife, timawona "mdani", ndipo ngati wina watidzudzula, pali chifukwa chimodzi chokha - amangochita nsanje.

3. Mudzawononga mphamvu zanu

Anzanu anakangana, ndipo mukufuna kuti mukhale bwino ndi onse awiri? Izo sizichitika. M'mawu a wolemba ndakatulo, "sizingatheke kukhala ndi iwo, ndi iwo, popanda kupereka iwo ndi iwo." Ngati mumayesetsa kukhala wabwino apo ndi apo, kapena nthawi zonse osalowerera ndale, posakhalitsa izi zidzabweretsa chisokonezo. Ndipo mwachidziŵikire mabwenzi onse aŵiriwo adzamva kukhala operekedwa, ndipo mudzataya onse.

Palinso vuto lina: mumayesetsa kukhala othandiza kwa ena, mumawachitira zambiri, moti panthawi ina mumayamba kufuna kuti mukhale ndi maganizo omwewo. Pali nkhawa yamkati, mkwiyo, mumayamba kuimba aliyense mlandu. Chizoloŵezichi chimagwira ntchito ngati chizoloŵezi china chilichonse: chimatsogolera ku chiwonongeko. Munthuyo adzitaya yekha.

Kumverera kwa zoyesayesa zowonongeka, nthawi, mphamvu sikukusiyani. Kupatula apo, mwachita khama kwambiri, koma palibe zopindula. Ndipo ndinu osowa ndalama, amphamvu komanso aumwini. Mukumva kusungulumwa, kukwiya, zikuwoneka kwa inu kuti palibe amene amakumvetsani. Ndipo nthawi ina mumasiya kumvetsetsa.

Inde, aliyense amafuna kuzunguliridwa ndi "anthu abwino". Koma munthu wabwino kwenikweni si amene nthaŵi zonse amatsatira chitsogozo cha ena ndi kugwirizana ndi maganizo a ena m’chilichonse. Uyu ndi munthu amene amadziwa kukhala woona mtima komanso wowona mtima, yemwe amatha kukhala yekha, yemwe ali wokonzeka kupereka, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo amateteza zofuna zawo, zikhulupiriro ndi makhalidwe awo, ndikusunga ulemu wawo.

Munthu wotero saopa kusonyeza mdima wake ndipo amavomereza mosavuta zolakwa za ena. Amadziwa kuzindikira bwino anthu, moyo, ndipo safuna chilichonse chobwezera chisamaliro chake kapena thandizo lake. Kudzidalira kumeneku kumamupangitsa kukhala wopambana pantchito ndi maubwenzi. Ndipotu, simufunika kuchita chilichonse chapadera kuti makolo, aphunzitsi, kapena anzanu akusukulu akukondeni. Ndife oyenerera kale chikondi, chifukwa aliyense wa ife ali kale munthu wabwino mwa iye yekha.