Zamkatimu
Kodi malingaliro olowerera ndi otani komanso momwe mungasamalire?
Psychology
Malingaliro amtunduwu samadziwikiratu ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi tanthauzo lolakwika.
Ngati wina atiwuza kuti "nthawi zambiri timakhala m'mitambo", ndizotheka kuti akunena za chinthu china chosangalatsa komanso ngakhale chosalakwa, popeza timagwirizanitsa mawuwa ndi "kusochera" pakati pamalingaliro achisangalalo ndi maloto akudzuka. Koma, zomwe "timapita m'mutu" sizabwino nthawi zonse, ndipo sizikhala pansi pathu nthawi zonse. Timalankhula za omwe amatchedwa “Zolingalira”: zithunzi, mawu kapena zomverera zomwe zimadzutsa malingaliro omwe amatisokoneza ife kuchokera pano.
Katswiri wa zamaganizidwe Sheila Estévez akufotokoza kuti malingaliro awa atha kukhala, poyamba, mwangozi, koma pakapita nthawi, ngati abwerezedwa, «nthawi zambiri amakhala malingaliro omwe amatilowerera, omwe amatha kupangitsa nkhawa ndi nkhawa, chifukwa cha mantha ukali,
kudziona ngati wolakwa, manyazi kapena zingapo mwa izi nthawi imodzi, kapena kusapeza bwino komweko ». Komanso, zindikirani kuti awa ndi malingaliro omwe, ngati amasungidwa mwamphamvu, "Yambitsani mphekesera", zomwe timatcha "kutsegula." "Kukhumudwaku kukupitilira, amakhala malingaliro owopsa chifukwa amawononga kudzidalira kwathu, chitetezo ndi kudzidalira," akufotokoza Estévez.
Kodi tonsefe tili ndi malingaliro olowerera?
Malingaliro olowerera ndiofala ndipo anthu ambiri adakhalapo nawo nthawi ina m'moyo wawo. Dr. Ángeles Esteban, wochokera ku Alcea Psicología y Psicoterapia akufotokoza kuti, komabe, "pali anthu omwe malingaliro awa amapezeka pafupipafupi kapena zomwe zimawachitikira ndizowopsa, kotero kuti zimayambitsa zovuta zazikulu pamoyo ndi chisangalalo». Komanso, adotolo amalankhula za zovuta zakuyenererana ndi malingaliro olakwika ngati abwino, chifukwa ngati lingaliro lomwe limabwera m'maganizo timakonda, "kukhala ndi chikhalidwe chosangalatsa cha munthuyo, sangakhale osasangalatsa, pokhapokha kukula kwake kapena pafupipafupi kufikira mopitirira muyeso. Kumbali yake, Sheila Estévez akukamba za momwe, ngati sangatisokoneze kwathunthu, malingaliro mwadzidzidzi atha kukhala ndi moyo wabwino: «Chitsanzo chomveka ndikuti tikakumana ndi munthu amene timamukonda ndipo timakumbukira awiri ndi atatu aliwonse; ndimalingaliro olowerera omwe amatipangitsa kumva bwino.
Maganizo amtunduwu atha kukambirana mitu yambiri: timakambirana za izi ngati zomwe zikubwera m'maganizo mwathu ndizochokera m'mbuyomu "zomwe zimativutitsa", itha kukhala lingaliro la kusuta kapena kudya chinthu chomwe sitiyenera, kapena kuda nkhawa zamtsogolo. «Mwambiri, nthawi zambiri amakhala malingaliro yolumikizidwa ndi zomwe zimatipangitsa kumva kuti sitikuchita monga momwe timafunira, kapena "tikukhulupirira" kuti ena akuyembekeza kuti tichite ", akutero Sheila Estévez.
Ngati sitikonza vutoli, izi zitha kudzetsa ena. Katswiri wamaganizidwe akufotokoza kuti titha kutengeka ndikumverera kosapitilira mtsogolo komanso kusapeza bwino, «wa malingaliro omwe amachoka pakukhala osokoneza kuti akhale owala ndikukhala oledzeretsa mpaka kukhala owopsa ”, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti munthu amene wagwidwa pakadali pano apeza zomwe zingawonjezere mavuto awo.
Momwe mungawongolere malingaliro olowerera
Ngati tikambirana za momwe tingapewere malingalirowa, Dr. Esteban ali ndi malangizo omveka bwino: apatseni kufunikira kwenikweni komwe ali nako, yang'anani pazomwe zilipo, pano komanso pano ndikugwira ntchito ndikufunika kuwongolera zochitika zomwe sitingathe kuzilamulira ».
Ngati tikufuna kupita mwatsatanetsatane, malingaliro a Sheila Estévez ndikugwiritsa ntchito machenjerero monga kusinkhasinkha. "Kusinkhasinkha mwakhama ndi luso lomwe limaphunzitsa kuthekera kochokera pamaganizidwe olakwika kapena odutsa asadakhalire, kuti 'tizitha kuwalamulira' ndikusankha nthawi yowapatsa malo pakadali pano kuti asatigonjetse", Fotokozani. ndipo akupitiriza kuti: “Kusinkhasinkha kwachangu kumalumikizidwa ndi pano komanso panoa, pazomwe zikuchitidwa ndi malingaliro onse omwe aikidwamo: kudula masamba kuchokera pachakudya ndikusamalira mitundu ndi kununkhiza, kusamba ndikumva kukhudza kwa siponji, pantchito ndikutsatira zolinga zomwe zakonzedwa tsiku ndi chidwi chake chonse… ».
Mwanjira imeneyi, tikhoza kukwaniritsa cholinga chomwe chidzatiloleze kuchotsa malingaliro ovutawa. "Mwanjira imeneyi titha kudzilamulira tokha popewa zolakwika zomwe zingachitike pakadali pano," adamaliza Estévez.