“Ndakwaniritsa udindo wanga monga bambo! “
Sindinaganizirepo nthawi yomwe chingwecho chimadulidwa. Kutsagana ndi mzamba wapadera, mphindi ino yakhala gawo lodziwikiratu kwa ine pakubadwa kwa ana anga aakazi. Ndinkaganiza kuti ndikukwaniritsa udindo wanga monga tate womwenso ndi wolekanitsa, kupanga wachitatu. Ndizojambula pang'ono, koma ndinamva choncho. Ndinadziuzanso kuti nthawi yakwana yakuti ana anga aakazi adzikhala paokha. Mbali ya "organic" ya chingwe sinandibwezere. Mwa kuidula, ndinali ndi malingaliro omasuka ndi "kusokoneza" aliyense! ”
Bertrand, bambo wa ana aakazi awiri
"Ndinapanga chikhumbo cha mwana wanga wamkazi pochidula. “
Mathilde anaberekera kumalo obadwirako ku Quebec. Timakhala m'gawo la Inuit ndipo mwamwambo wawo, mwambowu ndi wofunikira kwambiri. Nthaŵi yoyamba, bwenzi la Inuit linamuduladula. Mwana wanga wakhala kwa iye “angusiaq” (“mnyamata amene anampanga”). Annie anapereka zovala zambiri poyambirira. M’malo mwake, adzayenera kum’patsa nsomba yoyamba kuigwira. Kwa mwana wanga wamkazi, ndidachita. Nditadula, ndinamupempha kuti: "Mudzakhala bwino pazomwe mukuchita", monga momwe mwambo umanenera. Ndi mphindi yabata, pambuyo pa nkhanza za kubereka, timabwezeretsa zinthu. ”
Fabien, bambo wa mnyamata ndi mtsikana
"Zikuwoneka ngati waya wamkulu wafoni! “
"Kodi mukufuna kudula chingwe?" Funsolo linandidabwitsa. Sindimadziwa kuti titha kuchita, ndimaganiza kuti ndi osamalira omwe amasamalira. Ndikutha kudziwona ndekha, ndi lumo, ndinali ndi mantha kuti sindingapambane. Mzamba adandilondolera ndipo zomwe zidangochitika ndimkango. Sindimayembekezera kuti izi zitha mosavuta. Pambuyo pake, ndinaganiza zophiphiritsira… Kachiwiri, ndinali wodzidalira kwambiri, choncho ndinali ndi nthawi yoti ndione bwino. Chingwecho chinkawoneka ngati waya wokhuthala, wopindika wa matelefoni akale, zinali zoseketsa. ”
Julien, bambo wa ana aakazi awiri
Lingaliro la shrink:
« Kudula chingwe kwakhala chinthu chophiphiritsira, monga mwambo wolekanitsa. Bambo amadula mgwirizano “wakuthupi” pakati pa mwanayo ndi mayi ake. Zophiphiritsa chifukwa zimalola mwana kulowa m'dziko lathu lachitukuko, chifukwa chake kukumana ndi winayo, chifukwa salinso wogwirizana ndi munthu mmodzi. Ndikofunika kuti abambo amtsogolo aphunzire za mchitidwewu. Mwachitsanzo, kumvetsa kuti sitidzavulaza mayi kapena mwana n’kolimbikitsa. Koma zikukhudzanso kupatsa bambo aliyense chisankho. Musamufulumizitse pomuchitira zimenezi pomwepo, atabadwa. Ndi chisankho chomwe chiyenera kutengedwa kaye. Mu maumboni awa, tikhoza kumva momveka bwino miyeso yosiyana. Bertrand adamva kufunika kwa "zamatsenga": mfundo yolekanitsa. Fabien, kumbali yake, akufotokoza bwino mbali ya "zachiyanjano": kudula chingwe ndi chiyambi cha ubale ndi wina, pankhaniyi ndi Annie. Ndipo umboni wa Julien umanena za "organic" podula ulalo womwe umalumikiza khanda ndi amayi ake… ndipo zingakhale zopatsa chidwi chotani nanga! Kwa abambo awa, ndi nthawi yosaiwalika ... »
Stephan Valentin, dokotala mu psychology. Wolemba "La Reine, c'est moi!" ku eds. Pfefferkorn
M’madera ambiri azikhalidwe, thabwa la umbilical limaperekedwa kwa makolo. Ena amabzala, ena amaumitsa * ...
* Umbilical cord clamping ", mzamba memoir, Elodie Bodez, University of Lorraine.