Posachedwapa, ndinayamba kuona kuti anthu amene ndimakhala nawo nthawi zina samvetsa chifukwa chake amakhala. Ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimamva funso - palibe mfundo m'moyo, chochita? Popanda kuganiza kawiri, adaganiza zolemba nkhaniyi.
Kodi malingaliro akuti cholinga cha moyo watayika amachokera kuti?
"Palibe tanthauzo m'moyo, chochita?"Ngakhale mawu awa ndi owopsa bwanji, munthu aliyense amakhala mumkhalidwe wofananawo. Ndi iko komwe, kumvetsetsa kutha kwa munthu, kuzindikira kuti moyo ndi umodzi ndipo imfa ndiyo kutha kwake, kumasonkhezera malingaliro ponena za chifuno cha munthu ndi chifuno cha kukhalako. Koma nthawi zina zimachitika kuti chifukwa cha mavuto m’moyo, munthu amataya tanthauzo limene linamutsogolera m’mbuyomo, kapena kukhumudwa naye. Ndiyeno sadziwa mmene angakhalire ndi moyo.
Koma palinso dzina la chikhalidwe chotere - chopanda kanthu.
Nthawi zambiri kusaka koteroko kumakhala kovutirapo kwambiri mwa omwe nthawi zambiri amafooketsa ndi zovuta. Ndiye akuwoneka kuti akuyang'ana kulungamitsidwa kwa kuzunzika kwake, chifukwa ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti kukhala ndi zovuta ndi zowawa sikuli choncho, koma ndikofunikira padziko lonse lapansi. Koma kwa iwo omwe ali otanganidwa ndi zokonda zapadziko lapansi ndi ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku, funsoli silimawuka kwambiri. Ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo, omwe akwaniritsa kale cholinga chachikulu, zopindulitsa zofunika, amayamba kuyang'ana tanthauzo latsopano, kuganizira zapamwamba.
Viktor Frankl analankhulanso za zomwe ayenera kumvetsetsa, tanthauzo la moyo n'chiyani, munthu ayenera paokha, kumvetsera yekha. Palibe amene angamuyankhe. Ndipo lero, owerenga okondedwa, tidzayesa kulingalira njira zomwe tingakulitsire kuzindikira ndikuyandikira yankho lomwe lili lofunika kwa ife.
Kusamala ndi Kupeza Cholinga Chanu
Tanena kale kuti kusaka koteroko ndi kwa munthu payekha ndipo palibe amene angayankhe mafunso okhudza momwe mungapezere phindu la moyo wanu kwa inu. Choncho, masewerawa amafuna kukhala chete komanso malo omwe palibe amene angasokoneze. Zimitsani foni yanu ndikupempha okondedwa anu kuti asakusokonezeni. Yesetsani kukhala womasuka ndi woona mtima kwa inu nokha.
A. Njira Zisanu Zokuthandizani Kumvetsetsa Moyo Wanu
1. Kukumbukira
Tsekani maso anu ndikuyesera kukumbukira zochitika zazikulu pamoyo wanu. Ndikofunikira, titero, kuyang'ana mmbuyo ndikuganizira njira ya moyo wanu kuyambira paubwana. Lolani zithunzizo zibwere m'maganizo, osafunikira kudziletsa kapena kuyesa "chabwino". Yambani ndi mawu akuti:- "Ndinabadwira kuno" ndipo pitilizani chochitika chilichonse ndi mawu awa:- "ndiyeno", "ndiyeno". Pamapeto pake, sunthirani ku mphindi yamakono ya moyo wanu.
Ndipo pamene mukuona kuti nzokwanira, lembani zochitika zimene zachitika m’maganizo mwanu. Ndipo ziribe kanthu ngati zithunzizi zinali zokondweretsa pamaso panu, kapena ayi kwambiri - uwu ndi moyo wanu, zenizeni zomwe mudakumana nazo, zomwe zinasiya chizindikiro china pa inu ndi mapangidwe anu monga munthu. Zolemba zonsezi pambuyo pake zidzakuthandizani kuzindikira malingaliro anu pazochitika zilizonse, ndikumvetsetsa zomwe mukufuna kubwereza, ndi zomwe muyenera kupewa komanso osalola m'tsogolomu.
Chifukwa chake, mutenga udindo pa moyo wanu komanso mtundu wake m'manja mwanu. Mudzamvetsetsa komwe kuli kofunika kusuntha.
2.Zinthu
Chotsatira ndicho kupitiriza ntchito yoyamba, panthawiyi pokhapokha padzakhala koyenera kukumbukira zochitika zomwe zinakubweretserani chisangalalo ndi kukhutira. Kumene munali nokha ndikuchita zomwe mumakonda. Ngakhale mutakhala ndi zaka ziwiri, lembani chochitikachi. Chifukwa cha sitepe iyi, mudzakumbukira zochitika zazikulu zomwe zaiwalika kwa nthawi yayitali, mothandizidwa ndi zomwe zingatheke kutsegula zinthu zamkati.
Ndipo ngakhale tsopano ilibe kanthu mkati ndipo pali malingaliro opanda cholinga m'moyo, gawo ili lazolimbitsa thupi lidzakuthandizani kukukumbutsani kuti kukhutira kudakalipo. Ndipo ngati izo zinali zabwino, n'zotheka kukhala ndi moyo maganizo abwino kachiwiri. Pamene zithunzi zosangalatsa siziwuka, ndipo izi zimachitikanso, nkofunika kuti musataye mtima, chifukwa kusowa kwa zochitika zabwino kudzakhala chilimbikitso kuti potsiriza kusintha chinachake m'moyo. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kupeza chilimbikitso, chinthu chomwe chingakulimbikitseni kupita patsogolo. Yesani chirichonse, ngakhale chinachake chimene chikuwoneka chopanda chidwi kwa inu, mwachitsanzo: yoga, kulimbitsa thupi, etc. Chovuta kwambiri ndikugonjetsa osati chikhumbo chosintha chinachake m'moyo wanu, musawope kusintha!
Kumvetsetsa zomwe mukufuna, khalani ndi cholinga ndikukwaniritsa. Kudzitukumula ndikusuntha komwe mudalota komanso komwe mumafuna. Kuti mudziwe momwe mungakhazikitsire zolinga, mutha kuwerenga nkhani yomwe idasindikizidwa kale. Nawu ulalo: "Momwe mungakhalire zolinga moyenera kuti mukwaniritse bwino m'dera lililonse."
3.Kusamala
Nthawi inanso mukapeza nthawi yoyenera, yesani kuganizira nthawi imene munakhala wodekha komanso womasuka. Kukumbukira zinthu zotere, mudzamvetsetsa zomwe ziyenera kuchitidwa kuti muzitha kuchita bwino mkati. Ndipo izi zidzakuthandizani kubweretsa phindu lalikulu m'moyo wanu pakadali pano komanso kukuthandizani kusankha komwe mungayendere.
4.Kudziwa
Gawo lachinayi ndi lovuta kwambiri ndipo pangakhale kutsutsa kwakukulu kuti tichite. Dzipatseni nthawi, ndipo mukakhala okonzeka, ganizirani za nthawi zowawa zomwe munataya mtima kapena mumakhala ndi mantha. Kupatula apo, zochitika zonse zomwe zimatichitikira, ngakhale sitizikonda, zimakhala ndi zokumana nazo zazikulu. Tikuwoneka kuti tili ndi laibulale ya miyoyo yathu mkati, ndipo timalemba mabuku nthawi zonse: "Ine ndi makolo anga", "Ndili paubwenzi", "Kutayika kwa wokondedwa" ...
Ndipo pamene, mwachitsanzo, tinkakhala ndi kusiyana kwamtundu wina, ndiye m'tsogolomu timapeza buku la maubwenzi ndikuyang'ana mutu wa izo, koma kodi nthawi yotsiriza inali yotani? Ndinachita chiyani kuti ndifewetse? Kodi zinathandiza? Ndi zina zotero. Kuonjezera apo, ntchitoyi idzakuthandizani kuchotsa ululu pang'ono, ngati mutadzipatsa mwayi wozindikira, kumverera ndikusiya.
5.Chikondi
Ndipo sitepe yotsiriza ndiyo kukumbukira mikhalidwe ya moyo yokhudzana ndi chikondi. Ndipo zilibe kanthu kuti zidayenda bwino kapena ayi, chachikulu ndikuti zidali choncho. Kukonda makolo, abwenzi, galu, ngakhale malo ena ndi zinthu. Ziribe kanthu momwe moyo ungawonekere wopanda pake kwa inu, panali nthawi zonse zachikondi, zachifundo ndi chikhumbo chofuna kuzisamalira. Ndipo idzakhalanso chithandizo kwa inu.
Mutha kupeza mpumulo ndi chisangalalo ngati muwongolera osati moyo wanu wokha, komanso wa okondedwa anu. Zimawonjezera phindu tsiku lililonse lomwe mukukhala.
Mukatha kuchita ntchito yayikuluyi yodzizindikira nokha komanso moyo wanu, ndi nthawi yoti mupitilize ntchito ina.
B. «momwe mungapezere cholinga chanu»
Choyamba, konzani pepala ndikuonetsetsa kuti palibe aliyense komanso palibe chomwe chingakusokonezeni. Kenako yambani kulemba chilichonse chomwe chimabwera m'maganizo mukamadzifunsa kuti: - "Kodi cholinga changa cha moyo ndi chiyani?". Psychology yaumunthu ndiyoti mudzayamba kusanthula zonse zomwe mwalemba, kupeza zolakwika kapena kuzichepetsa. Palibe chifukwa, ndiroleni ndingolemba mayankho onse omwe amabwera m'maganizo. Ngakhale akuwoneka opusa.
Panthawi ina, mudzaona kuti mwapunthwa pa chinthu chofunika kwambiri. Mutha kulira, kapena kumva kuzizira pansi pa msana wanu, kunjenjemera m'manja mwanu, kapena kukwera kwachisangalalo kosayembekezereka. Ili likhala yankho lolondola. Khalani okonzeka chifukwa chakuti kufufuzako kumakhalanso payekha, zingatenge theka la ola kwa munthu mmodzi, ndi masiku angapo kwa wina.
Q. "Kodi mungakonde kuti zichitike chiyani padziko lino chifukwa cha inu?"
Mvetserani mosamalitsa ku mtima wanu, njira yomwe idzayankhe. Ngati sizikugwira ntchito, mutha kusintha mawu pang'ono.
Takhala tikufunsidwa kuyambira ubwana: "Ukufuna kukhala ndani?", ndipo tazolowera kuyankha, nthawi zina pofuna kusangalatsa makolo athu. Koma kupanga uku kumabweretsanso kwa inu nokha, ku zosowa zanu komanso dziko lonse lapansi.
D. Zaka Zitatu Zolimbitsa Thupi
Khalani momasuka, lowetsani mpweya ndikutulutsa mpweya pang'onopang'ono. Mukumva mbali iliyonse ya thupi lanu, ndinu omasuka? Ndiye ganizirani kuti mwatsala zaka zitatu kuti mukhale ndi moyo. Yesetsani kuti musagonje pa mantha ndi kulowa m'malingaliro a imfa. Sankhani momwe mukufuna kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu yonse poyankha moona mtima:
- Kodi mukufuna kukhala kuti zaka zitatu izi?
- Ndi ndani kwenikweni?
- Kodi mungakonde kuchita chiyani, kugwira ntchito kapena kuphunzira? Zoyenera kuchita?
Pambuyo pamalingaliro akupanga chithunzi chomveka bwino, yesani kuyerekeza ndi moyo wamakono. Kodi pali kusiyana kotani ndi kufanana kwake? Nchiyani chikukulepheretsani kukwaniritsa maloto anu? Mudzatha kumvetsetsa zomwe zikusowa mu moyo wamakono, ndi chiyani zosowa sizikukwaniritsidwa. Chifukwa chake, kusakhutira kumayamba, komwe kumatsogolera kufunafuna tsogolo la munthu.
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Ndizo zonse, owerenga okondedwa. Tsatirani zokhumba zanu, samalirani okondedwa anu, kukulitsa ndi kukwaniritsa zosowa zanu - ndiye kuti funso la kukhalapo kwanu silidzakhala lovuta kwambiri ndipo mudzamva kudzaza kwa moyo. Tikuwonaninso.