Pamene chilakolako cha mwana chimasanduka kutengeka

N'chifukwa chiyani mkazi akhoza kutengeka ndi mimba?

Masiku ano, njira zolerera zachititsa kuti anthu aziganiza molakwika za kulera. Mwana akachedwa kuchedwa, akazi amadziimba mlandu, zosalondola. Kutengeka mtima kumakhala a gehena wozungulira : Akamafuna mwana wosabwera, amamva chisoni kwambiri. Akufunika mwachangu adzitsimikizira okha kuti angakhale ndi pakati.

Kodi kutengeka maganizo kumeneku kungamasuliridwe bwanji?

Kusabereka kumabweretsa kupuma komwe kuyenera kukonzedwa mwazochita zilizonse mwa amayi awa. Pang'onopang'ono, moyo wawo wonse wazungulira chikhumbo ichi kwa mwanat ndipo nthawi zina moyo wogonana umachepetsedwa kukhala gawo loberekera. Azimayi amawerengera ndikufotokozera masiku omwe angathe kukhala ndi chonde, amapanduka ndikuchita nsanje ndi amayi ena omwe amatha kutenga mimba pambuyo pa miyezi iwiri yoyesera. Kusakaniza kwa malingaliro onsewa kungayambitse kusamvana m'banja.

Kodi ndi nkhani ya kusabereka kapena mkazi "wathanzi" angakhalenso ndi vuto lotere?

Sikuti ndi nkhani ya kusabereka. Tikukhala mu a zadzidzidzi gulu. Mimba, ndiye mwanayo, ali ngati chinthu chatsopano chogula chomwe chiyenera kupezedwa mwamsanga. Komabe, tiyenera kumvetsetsa kuti kubereka sikungathe kuwerengetsera zomwe timadziwa. Mtundu uwukutengeka mtima kumakhalapo kwambiri mwa maanja omwe akhala akuyesera kwa nthawi yayitali kukhala ndi mwana.

M’zaka zaunyamata, nthaŵi zina pamakhala atsikana amene amangoganiza kuti adzakhala ndi vuto lobereka. Panthawi imeneyi, amazindikira kuti akhoza kuvulazidwa, kupwetekedwa mtima ndi chochitika, kuferedwa, kusiyidwa kapena kufooka kwa maganizo. Sitikuganiza kuti zingati kukhala mayi kumabweretsanso chithunzi cha amayi athu omwe. Ndikofunikira kuunikanso ubale wake ndi amayi ake kuti akhale mayi panthawi yake.

Kodi achibale angathandize bwanji?

Kunena zoona, ayi. Achibale nthawi zambiri amakhala okwiyitsa, amati ziganizo zokonzedwa kale monga: “musaganizirenso za izi, zibwera”. Munthawi imeneyo, palibe amene angamvetse mmene amayiwa amamvera. Amadziona ngati osafunika, amadziona ngati mkazi komanso munthu. Ndi chiwawa kwambiri.

Nanga chotani ngati kutengeka uku kukuchitika mochulukirachulukira m'moyo komanso m'banjamo?

Njirayo ikhoza kukhala lankhula ndi wina kunja, ndale. Lankhulani uku mukumvetsetsa kuti, mumayendedwe akusiya izi, zinthu zikhala bwino. Cholinga chake ndikutha kuyambiranso mbiri yake ndikuyika mawu pazomwe zachitika. Ngakhale zitatenga miyezi ingapo, mayendedwe olankhulawa ndi opindulitsa. Amayi awa bwerani mumtendere ndi iwo eni.

Nsanje, mkwiyo, mikangano ... momwe mungalimbanire ndi malingaliro anu? Kodi muli ndi malangizo oti mupereke?

Tsoka ilo ayi, malingaliro awa omwe amakhala mwa ife ali mosadzifunira. Sosaite imakukakamizani kuti muzilamulira thupi lanu, ndipo, pamene izi sizingatheke, sikoyenera kunena zowawa, "ndizoletsedwa" mwanjira ina. Ndipotu, zimakhala ngati ndinu phiri lophulika, ndipo chiphalaphala chiphulika, koma phirili silingaphulika.