Si chinsinsi kuti timatha kuwongolera momwe zinthu zilili komanso zochitika pamoyo wathu. Titha kuyankha “chokwiyitsa” chilichonse kaya ndi chikondi (kumvetsetsa, kuyamikira, kuvomereza, kuyamikira), kapena mantha (kuipidwa, mkwiyo, chidani, nsanje, ndi zina zotero).
Kuyankha kwanu pazochitika zosiyanasiyana za moyo sikungokhudza kukula kwanu ndi chitukuko, komanso zomwe mumakopa m'moyo wanu. Pokhala ndi mantha, mumapanga ndikukumana ndi zochitika zosafunikira zomwe zimachitika mobwerezabwereza m'moyo.
Dziko lakunja (zochitika zomwe zimakuchitikirani) ndi galasi la zomwe muli, chikhalidwe chanu chamkati. Kukulitsa ndi kukhala mu chikhalidwe cha chisangalalo, kuthokoza, chikondi ndi kuvomereza.
Komabe, ndizosatheka kugawanitsa chilichonse kukhala "chakuda" ndi "choyera". Nthawi zina munthu amakopeka ndi zovuta za moyo osati chifukwa cha maganizo oipa, koma chifukwa cha moyo (wapamwamba) amasankha chochitika ichi ngati phunziro.
Kufuna kuwongolera zochitika zonse za moyo wanu kuti mupewe zovuta si njira yabwino yothetsera. Njira imeneyi yazikidwa pa kudzikonda ndi mantha. Ngati muyesa kupeza njira yamatsenga yachisangalalo ndi kulamulira moyo wanu, mwamsanga mudzafika ku malingaliro otsatirawa: "Ndikufuna ndalama zambiri, galimoto, nyumba, ndikufuna kukondedwa, kulemekezedwa, kuzindikiridwa. Ndikufuna kukhala wopambana mu izi ndi izo, ndipo ndithudi, pasakhale zosokoneza pamoyo wanga. Pankhaniyi, mudzangowonjezera kudzikonda kwanu ndipo, choyipa kwambiri, kusiya kukula.
Njira yotulukira ndiyosavuta komanso yovuta nthawi imodzi, ndipo imakhala mu Chilichonse chomwe chingachitike, kumbukirani kuti zidzakuthandizani kukula. Kumbukirani kuti palibe chimene chimachitika popanda chifukwa. Chochitika chilichonse ndi mwayi watsopano wodzimasula nokha ku zonyenga, lolani mantha akuchokereni ndikudzaza mtima wanu ndi chikondi.
Landirani zomwe mwakumana nazo ndipo yesetsani kuyankha. Moyo uli kutali kuti ukhale wopambana, katundu, ndi zina zotero ... uli pa zomwe iwe uli. Chimwemwe makamaka chimadalira mmene timakhalira ndi kugwirizana kolimba ndi chikondi chathu chamkati ndi chimwemwe, makamaka m’nthaŵi zovuta m’moyo. Chodabwitsa n’chakuti, kumverera kwachikondi kumeneku sikumakhudzana ndi kuchuluka kwa ndalama zomwe muli nazo, kuonda kapena kutchuka kwanu.
Nthawi zonse mukakumana ndi zovuta, ziwoneni ngati mwayi woti mukhale munthu wabwino kwambiri, kuti muyandikire momwe muyenera kukhala. Kuti mutenge kuchuluka kwa zomwe zikuchitika, kuti muyankhe ndi chikondi, mphamvu ndi kutsimikiza ndizofunikira. Mukaphunzira kuchita izi, mudzawona momwe mumagonjetsera zovuta mwachangu, ndikupewa kuzunzika kosafunikira.
Khalani mphindi iliyonse ya moyo ndi chikondi mu moyo wanu, kaya ndi chisangalalo kapena chisoni. Osawopa zovuta zamtsogolo, phunzirani, kulirani ndi chidziwitso. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri...m'malo mwa mantha m'malo mwa chikondi.