Tonse timadziwa kufunikira kolumikizana ndi mwana wathu wamkati nthawi ndi nthawi: gawo lathu laposachedwa, lamoyo, lopanga. Komabe, wodziwa uyu akuchiritsa pokhapokha atasamalira mosamala mabala awo akale, katswiri wa zamaganizo Victoria Poggio ndi wotsimikiza.
Mu psychology yothandiza, "inner child" nthawi zambiri imatengedwa ngati gawo lachibwana la umunthu ndi zochitika zake zonse, nthawi zambiri zowawa kwambiri, zomwe zimatchedwa "primitive", njira zodzitetezera, ndi zofuna, zokhumba ndi zochitika zomwe zinachokera ku ubwana. , ndi chikondi chamasewera komanso chiyambi chodziwika bwino cha kulenga. Komabe, gawo la ana athu nthawi zambiri limatsekedwa, kufinyidwa mkati mwa zoletsa zamkati, zonse "zosaloledwa" zomwe taphunzira kuyambira ali achichepere.
Zoonadi, zoletsa zambiri zinali ndi ntchito yofunika, mwachitsanzo, kuteteza mwanayo, kumuphunzitsa makhalidwe oyenera pakati pa anthu, ndi zina zotero. Koma ngati pali zoletsa zambiri, ndipo kuphwanya kumafuna chilango, ngati mwanayo amamva kuti amamukonda kokha womvera ndi wabwino, ndiye kuti, ngati khalidwelo linali logwirizana mwachindunji ndi maganizo a makolo, izi zingachititse kuti iye mosadziwa anadziletsa kukhala ndi zilakolako ndi kufotokoza maganizo ake.
Munthu wamkulu yemwe ali ndi chidziwitso cha ubwana wotere samamva ndipo samamvetsetsa zokhumba zake, nthawi zonse amadziika yekha ndi zofuna zake pamalo otsiriza, sadziwa momwe angasangalalire ndi zinthu zazing'ono ndikukhala "pano ndi pano".
Pamene wofuna chithandizo ali wokonzeka kupita, kukhudzana ndi gawo lawo lachibwana kungakhale kuchiritsa komanso kwanzeru.
Podziwa bwino mwana wamkati, kumupatsa (kale kuchokera pa udindo wa munthu wamkulu) chithandizo ndi chikondi chomwe pazifukwa zina zomwe tinalibe paubwana, tikhoza kuchiritsa "mabala" omwe tinatengera kuyambira ubwana ndi kulandira zothandizira zomwe zinatsekedwa: mwachidziwitso, luso, malingaliro owala, atsopano, kutha kupirira zopinga ...
Komabe, munthu ayenera kusuntha mosamala komanso pang'onopang'ono m'munda uno, popeza m'mbuyomo pangakhale zovuta, zoopsa zomwe taphunzira kukhala nazo, zomwe zingakhale zolekanitsidwa ndi "Ine" yathu, ngati kuti sizinachitike kwa ife. (kudzipatula, kapena kupatukana ndi imodzi mwa njira zodzitetezera za psyche). Ndizofunikanso kuti ntchito yotereyi ikhale limodzi ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, makamaka ngati mukuganiza kuti muli ndi vuto lopweteka laubwana, lomwe simungakhale okonzeka kukhudza.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake nthawi zambiri sindimapatsa makasitomala ntchito ndi mwana wamkati kumayambiriro kwa chithandizo. Izi zimafuna kukonzekera kwina, kukhazikika, gwero lamkati, zomwe ndizofunikira kupeza musanayambe ulendo wopita ku ubwana wanu. Komabe, pamene kasitomala ali wokonzeka kugwira ntchito imeneyi, kukhudzana ndi gawo lake lachibwana kungakhale kuchiritsa ndi kuchenjera.