Kukula kwaukadaulo kumakhudza moyo wakugonana, kupereka mwayi womwe sunaganizidwe kale. Mwachitsanzo, kutumizana mauthenga ndi zithunzi za chikhalidwe wapamtima. Pali ngakhale dzina losiyana la chodabwitsa ichi - kutumizirana mameseji. Ndi chiyani chomwe chimawalimbikitsa amayi kuchita izi ndipo zolinga za abambo ndi zotani?
Kutumizirana mameseji ndi chinthu chapadziko lonse: onse a Jeff Bezos (wamalonda, mutu wa Amazon. - Pafupifupi. ed.), Rihanna, ndi achinyamata akuchita nawo, ngakhale pang'ono kuposa momwe wina angaganizire, ngati mukukhulupirira mitu yankhani mu media. Ndipo palibe yankho losavuta ku funso chifukwa chake timachitira izi.
Komabe, izi sizikutanthauza kuti funso lenilenilo siliyenera kufunsidwa. Pakafukufuku waposachedwapa, katswiri wa zachikhalidwe cha anthu Morgan Johnstonbach wa ku yunivesite ya Arizona anafunsa achinyamata omwe anafunsidwa - ophunzira a 1000 ochokera ku makoleji asanu ndi awiri - zomwe poyamba zimawapangitsa kuti atumize mauthenga okhudzana ndi kugonana, ndipo adadabwa ngati zolimbikitsa za amuna ndi akazi zimasiyana. Anatha kuzindikira zifukwa zazikulu ziwiri zomwe zimalimbikitsa abwenzi kuti atumize zithunzi zawo za theka-maliseche: kuyankha pempho la wolandira ndi chikhumbo chofuna kudzidalira.
Chifukwa chofala - kukhala ndi wolandira - chinali chofanana kwa amayi (73%) ndi amuna (67%). Kuphatikiza apo, 40% ya omwe adayankha amuna ndi akazi adavomereza kutumiza zithunzi zotere kuti akwaniritse pempho la mnzake. Mawu omaliza adadabwitsa wofufuzayo: "Zikuwoneka kuti azimayi amafunsanso anzawo izi, ndipo amakumana nawo theka."
Komabe, amayi ali ndi mwayi wa 4 kuposa amuna kutumiza zithunzi zawo kwa iwo kuti asataye chidwi ndikuyamba kuyang'ana zithunzi za akazi ena. Umenewu ndi umboni wakuti anthu akadali ndi makhalidwe aŵiri m’chitaganya, katswiri wa zachikhalidwe cha anthu akutsimikiza kuti: “Ndinaphunzira mabuku ambiri okhudzana ndi maubwenzi ndi zochitika zapamtima, ndipo ndinayembekezera kuti padzakhala chitsenderezo chowonjezereka kwa akazi pankhaniyi: iwo amamva. kukakamizidwa kutumiza mauthenga oterowo” .
Koma, monganso nkhani zina zokhudzana ndi kugonana m'njira ina, ubale wa amayi omwe amatumizirana zolaula ndizovuta kwambiri ndipo sizikugwirizana ndi ndondomeko ya "adafunsa - ndinatumiza". Johnstonbach adapeza kuti amayi ali ndi mwayi wopitilira 4 kuposa amuna kutumiza mauthenga otere kuti adzidalire okha, komanso nthawi za 2 nthawi zambiri kuti awonjezere kudzidalira. Kuonjezera apo, ochizira kugonana amawona kuti akazi amatembenuzidwa pozindikira kuti amafunidwa.
Sosaite imaika amuna malire ku umuna, ndipo samalingalira kukhala kotheka kufotokoza maganizo awo mwanjira imeneyi.
“Kusinthana kwa mauthenga oterowo kumapanga mpata umene mkazi angasonyeze mosabisa za kugonana kwake ndi kufufuza thupi lake,” katswiri wa zachikhalidwe cha anthu akufotokoza motero. Kotero, mwinamwake masewerawa ndi ofunika kandulo, ngakhale kuti mitengoyo ili pamwamba pano: nthawi zonse pali chiopsezo kuti zithunzi zoterezi zidzawoneka ndi omwe maso awo sanapangidwe. Pali milandu yambiri yotereyi, ndipo, monga lamulo, ndi amayi omwe amakhala ozunzidwa.
Ndiko kuti, kumbali ina, potumiza mauthenga oterowo, akazi amakhaladi odzidalira kwambiri mwa iwo okha, komano, nthawi zambiri amakhulupirira kuti ayenera kungochita. Anna, mtsikana wa zaka 23, anati: - Kwenikweni, ndichifukwa chake adakhala woyamba. Koma, kumbali ina, kuchuluka kwa chidwi kwa iye, ndithudi, kunali kokondweretsa kwa ine.
Akazi dziwani kuti popempha kutumiza «maliseche» zithunzi, amuna nthawi zambiri samvetsa zimene mlingo wa kukhulupirirana chofunika pa izi. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, amuna nthawi zambiri amadabwa kumva pempho lofananalo. Kotero, Max wazaka 22 akuvomereza kuti sanatumize atsikana zithunzi zake mu mawonekedwe amaliseche ndipo sakuona kuti n'koyenera kuchita izi.
"Pa msika wa zibwenzi, amuna ndi akazi ali ndi "katundu" wosiyana. Mnyamata akhoza kudzitamandira chifukwa cha ndalama zake kapena kuchita zinthu zachimuna kwambiri - amakhulupirira kuti izi zimawonjezera mwayi wathu ndipo zimatipangitsa kukhala okongola kwambiri pamaso pa atsikana. Atsikana ndi osiyana."
Kumbali imodzi, amuna ali ndi chiwonjezeko chodziwikiratu - sakhala pansi pa zipsinjo zotere monga akazi. Kumbali ina, zikuwoneka kuti chisangalalo cha kutumizirana mameseji otumizirana mameseji nawonso chilipo kwa iwo pang'ono. Chifukwa chiyani, ngakhale pambuyo potumiza zithunzi zapamtima, amuna samamva kudzidalira kofanana ndi kwa akazi? Johnstonbach asaka yankho la funsoli mtsogolomu.
"Mwina ndi chifukwa chakuti chitaganya chimaika malire amuna ku umuna ndipo saganiza kuti n'zotheka kufotokoza maganizo awo mwanjira imeneyo," akutero. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, nthawi ina mukadzafuna kutumiza munthu chithunzi chanu chamaliseche, chepetsani pang'onopang'ono ndipo ganizirani chifukwa chake mukuchitira izi.