Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti mfundo yopita kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo ndikupeza ndondomeko yeniyeni, monga pokambirana ndi dokotala. Izi siziri choncho, akufotokoza adokotala Alena Gerst. Ntchito ya katswiri wodziwa bwino, koposa zonse, kumvetsera mosamala ndikufunsa mafunso oyenera.
Malangizo ndi opanda pake. Iwo ndi muyeso wanthawi yochepa chabe, ngati chithandizo choyamba: gwiritsani ntchito bandeji wosabala pabala lomwe limafunikira chithandizo chachikulu.
Akatswiri odziwa zamaganizo amazindikira vutoli, koma pewani kupereka uphungu. Aliyense amene akuphunzira ntchitoyi ayenera kuphunzira luso lokhala chete. Ndizovuta - kwa katswiri yekha komanso kasitomala. Komabe, kutha kudziwa zambiri momwe ndingathere ndi chida chofunikira kwambiri mu psychotherapy. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti wothandizira wanu ndi womvetsera mwachidwi, osati mlangizi.
Izi sizikutanthauza kuti amangokuyang’anani n’kukupatsani mpata wolankhula. Katswiri aliyense wodziwa zambiri amamvetsera mwatcheru kuti adziwe zizindikiro zina kuti adziwe komwe akukambitsirana. Ndipo zonse zimatengera mitu itatu.
1. Mukufuna chiyani kwenikweni
Palibe amene amatidziwa bwino kuposa ife eni. Ichi ndichifukwa chake upangiri nthawi zambiri umathandizira kutsika pansi. Ndipotu, mayankho akhala akudziwika kale, koma nthawi zina amagona mozama kwambiri, obisika pansi pa ziyembekezo za anthu ena, ziyembekezo ndi maloto.
Kunena zoona, ndi anthu ochepa chabe amene amachita chidwi ndi zimene timafuna. Timawononga kwambiri mphamvu ndi mphamvu zathu pofuna kukhutiritsa zilakolako ndi zosowa za ena. Izi zimawonekera muzinthu zazikulu ndi zazing'ono. Momwe timathera kumapeto kwa sabata, zomwe timadya chakudya chamasana, ntchito yomwe timasankha, ndi ndani komanso nthawi yokwatirana, kaya tili ndi ana kapena ayi.
Munjira zambiri, wochiritsayo amafunsa chinthu chimodzi: zomwe tikufunadi. Yankho la funso ili likhoza kutsogolera kuzinthu zosayembekezereka: chinachake chidzawopsya, chinachake chidzakondweretsa. Koma chachikulu ndikuti timafika tokha, popanda kuthamangitsidwa kuchokera kunja. Kupatula apo, tanthauzo lagona ndendende kukhala wekhanso ndikukhala ndi malamulo anuanu.
2. Mukufuna kusintha chiyani?
Sikuti nthawi zonse timazindikira kuti tikufuna kusintha kwambiri, koma izi sizovuta kuziganizira m'mawu athu. Koma pamene zokhumba zathu zanenedwa kwa ife, kaŵirikaŵiri timachita ngati kuti sitinaganizirepo zimenezo.
Wothandizira amamvetsera mawu aliwonse. Monga lamulo, chikhumbo cha kusintha chimafotokozedwa m'mawu amantha: "Mwina ndikhoza (la) ...", "Ndikudabwa zomwe zingachitike ngati ...", "Nthawi zonse ndimaganiza kuti zingakhale zabwino ...".
Ngati mulowa mu tanthauzo lakuya la mauthengawa, nthawi zambiri zimakhala kuti maloto osakwaniritsidwa amabisika kumbuyo kwawo. Kulowerera mu zilakolako zobisika, wochiritsa mwadala amatikankhira ife kukumana ndi subconscious mantha. Kungakhale kuopa kulephera, kuopa kuti kwachedwa kwambiri kuyesa chinthu chatsopano, kuopa kuti sitidzakhala ndi luso, chithumwa, kapena ndalama zomwe tingafune kuti tikwaniritse cholinga chathu.
Timapeza zifukwa masauzande, nthawi zina zosakhulupilika kotheratu, chifukwa chomwe sitingathe kutenga ngakhale kagawo kakang'ono ku maloto athu. Chofunikira cha psychotherapy ndikuti timamvetsetsa zomwe zimatilepheretsa kusintha ndipo tikufuna kusintha.
3. Mumadziona bwanji?
Anthu ambiri sadziwa n’komwe mmene amadzichitira zinthu zoipa. Lingaliro lathu lolakwika la "I" lathu limapangidwa pang'onopang'ono, ndipo pakapita nthawi timayamba kukhulupirira kuti lingaliro lathu la uXNUMXbuXNUMXbmwini ndilowona.
Wothandizira amamvetsera mawu odzipenda okha. Musadabwe ngati agwira malingaliro anu oyipa. Chikhulupiriro cha kusakwanira kwathu chimadutsa mu chidziwitso mozama kwambiri kotero kuti sitizindikira nkomwe momwe timadziikira tokha.
Imodzi mwa ntchito zazikulu za psychotherapy ndikuthandizira kuchotsa malingaliro otere. N'zotheka: ngakhale titaganiza kuti sitiri abwino, wothandizira amaganiza mosiyana. Amatulutsa zikhulupiriro zabodza kuti tikhale ndi maganizo abwino komanso owona kwa ife tokha.
Wothandizira amatsogolera zokambirana, koma sizikutanthauza kuti ayenera kupereka malangizo. Tikakumana naye, timadzidziwa tokha. Ndipo pamapeto pake timamvetsetsa zomwe ziyenera kuchitika. Sami. Koma mothandizidwa ndi psychotherapy.
Za wolemba: Alena Gerst ndi psychotherapist, psychologist wachipatala, komanso wothandiza anthu.