Mnzake wina anavomereza kuti ankakondana ndi anyamata awiri nthawi imodzi. Ngakhale mng'ono wake akuyang'ana kale atsikana, ndipo ali ndi zaka 14-16 mumamvetsa kuti palibe amene amakukondani. Ndi zabwinobwino? Katswiriyo akufotokoza.
Simungathe kugwa m'chikondi mwa dongosolo. Simungathe kutengeka ndi wina chifukwa choti aliyense amachita. Choncho, palibe cholakwika ndi kusakonda aliyense. Nthawi yomweyo, mutha kusintha pang'ono mawonekedwe ndikuwona anthu bwino.
Kodi nthawi zambiri mumatchera khutu ku chiyani mukamalankhula ndi munthu? Maonekedwe, kalembedwe? Momwe amalankhulira ndi nthabwala? Kumveka kwa mawu, khalidwe, maonekedwe a nkhope? Ndibwino kuti muone mwa ena makhalidwe, zizolowezi, maluso omwe amakusangalatsani, odabwitsa komanso amakusangalatsani.
Phunzirani kuona zabwino mwa anthu
Kukhoza kumva chisoni ndi luso, zomwe zasungidwa mwa ife kuyambira nthawi zakale: makolo athu sakanakhala ndi moyo ngati sakanapeza chinthu chokongola mwa wina ndi mzake. Ndipo luso lililonse lingakulitsidwe. Choncho phunzirani kuona zabwino mwa anthu.
Kodi n'zotheka kupeza chinachake chozizira mwa munthu yemwe aliyense amaganiza kuti si wabwino? Inde, mungathe, koma chifukwa cha izi muyenera kumvetsetsa bwino zomwe mumayamikira kwambiri mwa anthu. Mwina chinthu chomwe chimapangitsa munthu kukhala wodabwitsa ndi chomwe mungakonde.
Kodi ndizotheka kusazindikira chilichonse chosangalatsa mwa munthu? Inde, makamaka ngati simukuyesera. Koma ndikukulangizani: ingovomerezani kuti pali chinthu chamtengo wapatali mwa munthu amene alibe chifundo kwa inu, zomwe simukuziwona. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mawa mudzayendera limodzi ku tsogolo labwino. Koma m'munda wa masomphenya anu padzakhala munthu "ayi" wocheperapo komanso munthu wina wokondweretsa.
Nazi zomwe simuyenera kuchita:
Chitani manyazi kuti simukondana ndi aliyense
Awa ndi malingaliro anu, ndinu mbuye wawo yekha komanso wolamulira. Palibe amene ayenera kusamala momwe mukumvera komanso kwa amene muli nawo kapena mulibe.
Sonyezani chikondi ndi chidwi
Zoonadi, dziko lonse lapansi ndi zisudzo, ndipo ndife ochita zisudzo pang'ono momwemo, koma m'moyo ndi zovulaza kudzinyenga nokha ndi ubongo wanu. Ngati mukukwatiwa ndi munthu amene simukumukonda, imani kaye ndi kumvetsera nokha. Ngati inunso mukumva chidwi, yang'anani mozama za mnzanuyo. Ngati sichoncho, tumizani mwaulemu kudera la anzanu.
Kunyenga kuti munthu wina amene mumadziwana naye amakukondani
Poyambitsa nkhani zoterezi, mukugwiritsa ntchito munthu wosalakwa kaamba ka zolinga zanu zadyera. Inu musamachite zimenezo. Ngati mukufunadi kunama, ndi bwino kusankha munthu amene kulibe. Komanso yankho lotero, koma osachepera simukuvulaza aliyense koma inu nokha.
Pezani kampani yokonda
Kuti mumvetsere chisoni munthu wina, mumafunika kucheza pang’ono ndi anthu. Ngati simulankhula ndi aliyense kusukulu, ndipo nthawi yomweyo mumathamangira kunyumba mukaweruka kusukulu ndikukhala m’chipinda chanu mpaka m’mawa wotsatira, n’zokayikitsa kuti simungapeze munthu amene mumamukonda.
Ganizirani zomwe zingakusangalatseni kuti mutenge nawo mbali: bwalo latsopano kapena kalabu, gawo, mayendedwe, kukwera maulendo (kokha ndikukulangizani kwambiri kuti musankhe popanda intaneti). Kudzera pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kapena fandom, simudziwana bwino ndi munthu ndipo mumaphonya mosavuta zinthu zabwino zomwe mungakonde.
Ndipo chinyengo china: ndikosavuta kuzindikira ndikuwunika munthu ngati amakonda zomwezo ngati inu. Chifukwa chake yesani kupeza kampani yomwe imagwirizana ndi zomwe mumakonda. Kotero mudzadzipeza nokha m'malo anu omwe, momwe ena amakukondani mofanana ndi inu.
Mwa njira, "monga" ndi chiyani? Mumadziwa bwanji kuti mumakonda munthu? Lembani mndandanda wa zizindikiro 10 zomwe zingatheke, mwachitsanzo:
mumafuna nthawi zonse kukhala limodzi
mumakonda chinthu chomwecho
muli ndi zoti mukalankhule
mumakonda kugwirana wina ndi mzake...
Tsopano ganizirani mfundo iliyonse. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zonse mumafuna kukhala pamodzi. Koma ngakhale anthu apamtima nthawi zina amafunika kupumula. Zimachitika kuti mutatha kuyenda kozizira kapena kupita kumafilimu ndi munthu amene mumamukonda, mukufuna kutseka mwamsanga m'chipinda chanu ndikukhala nokha.
Kapena: muyenera kukonda zomwezo. Koma izi siziri zofunikira! Abambo amakonda hockey ndi njinga zamoto, amayi amakonda ndakatulo zaku France ndi ma buns okoma. Ndipo komabe iwo ali pamodzi.
Ndiye kodi kumverana chisoni mwapadera kumatanthauza chiyani? Ndilibe yankho lokonzeka. Ndipo palibe amene watero. Koma pali chiyembekezo chakuti mudzapeza yankho lanu.