Njira 3 zosungira ndikuwonjezera chisangalalo

Moyo wathu, ngakhale nthawi yamavuto ndi zovuta, umadzazidwa osati ndi zokumana nazo zachisoni, zosasangalatsa, komanso chisangalalo. Aliyense akhoza kukumbukira momwe mu nthawizo pamene kunalibe nthawi yoseka, nthabwala yokhazikika bwino mwadzidzidzi inachititsa kumwetulira kapena kumverera kuti muli okondwa, ziribe kanthu.

Kumbukirani pakali pano chochitika chilichonse chosangalatsa m'moyo wanu ndikusanthula:

• Munamva bwanji pamenepo? Munkafuna kuchita chiyani?
• Kodi chisangalalo chinayankha bwanji m'thupi mwanu?
• Munaona bwanji nthawi imeneyo?
• Kodi mwakhala mukusangalala kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji? Ngati sichoncho, n’chiyani chinamuchitikira?

N’zosatheka kubisa chimwemwe chokha, koma timatha kusunga “chisangalalo” chake m’chikumbukiro chathu, m’malingaliro athu. Ndipo phunzirani kumizidwa mukumverera uku pamene tikuzifuna kwambiri.

Kodi mungadziunjikire bwanji chisangalalo ichi mwa inu nokha?

1. Dzilowetseni mu chisangalalo kwathunthu

Yesetsani kugonjera kukumverera uku, nthawi zonse kumakhala ngati kamphindi, koma mphindi yoyenera ya moyo wanu. Ndipo ganizirani zimene zingakulepheretseni kusangalala ndi chimwemwe panthaŵi imene idzakuchezerani.

Zitha kukhala:

• maganizo ndi zikhulupiriro — “Ngati musangalala kwambiri, mudzalira”, “Kodi mungasangalale bwanji munthu akamva zoipa”, “Si mwambo m’banja mwathu kusonyeza chisangalalo poyera”;
• kudziona kuti ndife ofunika pa mmene munthu akumvera komanso zimene wakwanitsa kuchita — “Bwanji mukondwere? Ndinatani? Zachabechabe, kotero kuti aliyense angathe”;
• mantha amphamvu zomverera;
• mantha a chimwemwe ndendende ndi chochitika kuti kumverera uku akutsatiridwa ndi chilango.

Kumbukirani kuti malingaliro, zikhulupiriro ndi malingaliro awa sizofanana ndi inu ndi umunthu wanu. Ili ndi gawo chabe la inu, osasangalala kwambiri, lopangidwa motere chifukwa cha zovuta za moyo.

2. Osagawana chimwemwe chanu

Kunena zowona, musachite izi nthawi yomweyo, kutengera zomwe mwachita poyamba. Kumbukirani: mwina zidachitika kuti mudayitana mwachangu abwenzi ndi mabwenzi, ndikugawana chimwemwe chanu ndipo posakhalitsa mudapeza kuti zikuwoneka kuti zasowa. N’chifukwa chiyani zili choncho?

Choyamba, zomwe oyankhulawo angachite sizingakhale zomwe mumayembekezera. Chisangalalo chanu chidzazimiririka pansi pa chitsenderezo cha kutsika mtengo, kunyozedwa kapena kusayanjanitsika.

Kachiwiri, kubweretsa kutengeka kulikonse kumachepetsa mphamvu yake. Kumbukirani malangizo apamwamba a akatswiri a zamaganizo: ngati muli achisoni, lankhulani ndi wina, ndipo mudzakhala bwino. Njira yomweyo imagwira ntchito mosangalala: timatchula kumverera kwathu ndikuchepetsa "mphamvu" yake.

Chifukwa chake, ndikupangira mwamphamvu: khalani nokha ndi chisangalalo chanu! Khalani mu malingaliro okongola awa, opatsa moyo, osawawaza mosaganizira. Mwina simunamupeze mosavuta.

Ndipo ngati mukufunabe kugawana zakukhosi kwanu ndi wina, pangani chisankho chanu pang'onopang'ono. Gawani chisangalalo ndi munthu ameneyo, kuchokera pakulankhulana ndi yemwe sichidzatha, koma chidzawonjezeka.

3. Tengani chisangalalo chanu

Kukhazikika muzochitika zosangalatsa, perekani ufulu ku thupi ndi mawu. Fotokozerani zakukhosi kwanu mukuyenda, kuvina kochitika ndi mawu. Pitirizani mpaka mutazindikira kuti mwakwaniritsa chosowa chanu.

Ndiyeno khalani patebulo, tenga cholembera, pepala ndi kulemba zimene zikubwera m’maganizo mwanu pakali pano. Mwina idzakhala ndakatulo yokongola kwambiri padziko lapansi? Kuphatikiza apo, ngati muli ndi luso laukadaulo, mutha kuwonetsa chisangalalo. Gwiritsani ntchito mitundu yowala, omasuka kupanga zikwapu, splashes ...

Kodi nchiyani chimapereka chisonyezero cha kulenga cha chisangalalo?

• Kudutsa kutengeka osati kupyolera mu chidziwitso, komanso kupyolera mu thupi, timakhala ndi moyo wamphamvu, ndipo izi zimatithandiza kubwezeretsa mphamvu zake kwa nthawi yaitali.
• Zolemba ndi zojambula zomwe mumapanga zimakhala "chizindikiro chamoyo" cha chisangalalo chathu, chodzaza ndi kuwala ndi mphamvu. Yesani kuyang'ana ntchito zanu patatha masiku angapo, ndipo mudzamwetulira, chifukwa kukumbukira nthawi yomweyo kubwezerani zochitika izi zachisangalalo kwa inu. Zili ndi inu momwe mungaziyendetsere.
• Pamasiku amvula, ndi ntchito zotere zomwe zimakhala ndi mphindi za moyo wanu zomwe zimatha kukutulutsani pamavuto komanso kupsinjika kwanthawi yayitali. Kuyang'ana chithunzi cha chisangalalo mu chithunzi kapena malemba, mumamvetsa kuti chirichonse m'moyo chimakhala champhamvu ndipo, mwinamwake, chirichonse chidzakhala bwino!

Ngati mulibe mwayi wojambula, kuyimba, ndi kuvina panthawi yosangalatsa, mutha kupeza njira ina: tcherani khutu ku fano lachilengedwe lomwe likugwirizana ndi malingaliro anu - mwachitsanzo, mtengo, duwa, a. stream - kapena chithunzi muzojambula za ojambula.

Kusunga chisangalalo chanu, musintha dziko!