Mutha kubisa zakukhosi kwanu osazindikira ngakhale pogwiritsa ntchito zosefera zolumikizirana, zomwe zimatha kubwera ndi mawu, mawonekedwe a thupi, ndi zochita. Pamene mnzako wapamtima akufunsa kuti, “Chachitika n’chiyani?” - ndipo mumamwetulira mokoma ndikuti: "Palibe" - mutha kudzitsekera nokha ku malingaliro anu enieni. Chifukwa chake, potseka chitseko cha dziko lanu lamkati, simungathe kukhala ndi moyo, kuzindikira zomwe mumakonda ndikupanga zisankho zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukhala ndi moyo mogwirizana ndi inu nokha.
Osadzimenya nokha ngati mugwiritsa ntchito zosefera ngati njira yamalingaliro. Mwina umu ndi mmene mumachitira njira yodzitetezera. Zosefera zitha kukhala zodzitchinjiriza zofunika pakuvulala kapena kuyankha pazovuta zomwe mukukumana nazo. Kuyatsa ndi kuyambitsa kuwonetsetsa kwathunthu kwa malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu pomwe simunakonzekere izi m'maganizo kungayambitsenso zokumana nazo zosasangalatsa kapena zowawa. Ngati simunachirebe kupsinjika komwe mudakumana nako, zitha kukhala zotsutsana ndi machiritso omwe muyenera kukhala ndi moyo wamkati wamkati.
Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kukhala 100% wathanzi m'maganizo kapena kusangalala tsiku lililonse kuti mukhale moyo wabwinobwino wamkati ndi kunja. Zosefera nthawi zambiri zimatha kusokoneza malingaliro anu enieni ndikusokoneza ubale wanu ndi inu nokha komanso ena. Zosefera zachidziwitso kapena zosazindikira zimanama momwe mumalankhulira zakukhosi kwanu. Mumasankha zosefera izi pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana zomveka, kuphatikiza kuopa kusakhala bwino, kumveka bwino, kapena kungovulala. Koma pamapeto pake, zosefera zimakhudza kulumikizana ndi ena komanso ndi iwe mwini. Nawa masefa awiri omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri, kuyimitsa komwe kungakuthandizeni kutsegula ndikumva bwino.
Kukhala pamwamba
Mukafunsa mafunso omwe simukufuna mayankho ake, mumayamba kuganiza mozama. "Kodi kumeneko kukuzizira?" kapena “Kodi munathera bwanji tchuthi chanu?”. Mafunso ngati awa ndi ogwirizira wamba. Ngati mukufuna kukambirana zabizinesi kapena kucheza ndi anzanu, mafunsowa sangakhale ovulaza. Kumbali inayi, ganizirani kufunsa funso lanzeru komanso laumwini lomwe lingakhalebe gawo la akatswiri. Anthu angakhale omasuka, okondweretsedwa, ndi kuloŵerera m’kukambitsirana akafunsidwa mmene mwana wawo wamkazi alili, mmene mkazi wawo aliri, mwachitsanzo. Umu ndi mmene mumasonyezera chidwi chenicheni pa amene anthuwa alidi, umunthu wawo ndi mbali zosiyanasiyana za moyo. Ndipo inu nokha musataye mphamvu pa nkhani zopanda pake za kuzizira kapena tchuthi.
Kumbukirani momwe panthawi yomwe palibe chonena chilichonse, timayamba kulankhula za nyengo? Mutuwu usakhale wofunika kwambiri pazokambirana, pokhapokha ngati mukukamba za kusintha kwakukulu kwa nyengo kapena mvula yamvula pamalo omwe mwabwerako posachedwa. Koma m’maubwenzi aumwini ndi apamtima, kulankhulana mosabisa mawu kungakhale kovulaza. Amawonetsa kuti pali kukana kulandira kapena kupereka chidziwitso ndi mphamvu mozama. Inde, nthawi zina mitu iyi ikhoza kukhala "kutentha" musanayambe kukambirana mozama komanso payekha, koma dzifunseni funso: kodi nchiyani chomwe chimayambitsa kusamvana uku?
Bwererani
Zosefera zina kapena machitidwe osazindikira omwe anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito ndikubwerera. Mutha kubwereranso m'malo ambiri: kuchokera kumaloto anu, kuchokera ku kulumikizana kwamalingaliro, kapena kulumikizana mwakuya ndi mikangano yomwe ingachitike. Apa fyulutayo imapanga chishango motsutsana ndi chinthu chongolingalira, chikhale choyipa chongoyerekeza kapena chabwino. Kunena zoona, simudziwa mmene zinthu zidzakhalire mpaka mutalowamo. Mukabwerera m'mbuyo, mumadzitalikitsa kuchokera kuzochitika za moyo, gawo lina lomwe lidzakufikitseni kumalo otsatira, kwa munthu wina yemwe mungakumane naye ndikuphunzirapo. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, chochitika chopanda ungwirochi chimakhudza moyo wanu wamkati.
Mukachotsa anthu pamalo anu enieni, mutha kukhala omasuka. Koma mutha kupanga malo anu otetezeka (kapena malo otonthoza) kudutsa malire omwe angakulolezeni kukhala ndi moyo mokwanira. Pobwerera mmbuyo kwathunthu, mukunyalanyaza kapena kuyesa kutseka malingaliro ndi zochitika zatsopano zomwe ziyenera kukhala m'moyo wanu. Ndipo mudzakumana ndi anthu omwewa komanso zokumana nazo kakhumi musanavomereze.
Kulankhulana kwamkati ndi kriya yoga kukana zosefera izi. Mutha kuyankhula mozama kwa inu nokha komanso kwa anthu ena, ndipo zochitika izi zimakuthandizani, osati mwanjira ina. Monga machitidwe onse a yoga, amakulitsa chidziwitso cha momwe mumakhalira moyo wanu wakunja ndi wamkati.
Mchitidwe umene umakulitsa kulankhulana kwanu ndi inu nokha ndi ena
Sankhani munthu amene mumamukhulupirira kuti ayesetse kukulitsa kuyankhulana kwanu. Yesetsani kumuuza munthu uyu mutu wina kapena malingaliro anu omwe amakusangalatsani, muuzeni komwe mukufuna kutsogolera mphamvu kapena komwe mukuganiza kuti mphamvuyi ikupita. Muuzeni mnzanuyo kuti akumvetsereni mwakachetechete kwa mphindi 10-15 ndiyeno nenani mawu ochepa pamutu womwe mwamuululira kumene. Kenako sinthanani maudindo.
Khalani omasuka ndi oona mtima kwa inu nokha ndi dziko lakunja ndikuchita njira ngati mukumva zolimba komanso zotchinga mkati.