5 zizolowezi kusiya pakali pano

Kusiya zakale ndi kukhazikitsa ndi kusunga malire anu ndi maluso atatu ofunikira pamoyo omwe omwe adakulira m'mabanja osakondedwa nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi vuto. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, iwo anayamba kukhala ndi khalidwe lodetsa nkhawa. Nthawi zambiri amamanga «Khoma Lalikulu la China», lomwe limawathandiza kupewa mikangano, okonda kusasintha chilichonse, kuti asatengere njira yothetsera vutoli. Kapena amawopa kuika malire oyenera chifukwa choopa kusiyidwa ndipo, motero, amamatira ku malonjezo ndi maubwenzi omwe ndi nthawi yosiya.

Ndiye zizolowezi izi ndi zotani?

1. Kuyesera kukondweretsa ena

Ana amantha kaŵirikaŵiri amakula kukhala achikulire oda nkhaŵa amene amayesa kusunga mtendere ndi bata zivute zitani. Amayesa kukondweretsa aliyense, osati kusonyeza kusakhutira, chifukwa zikuwoneka kwa iwo kuti kuyesa kulikonse kulengeza zofuna zawo kudzayambitsa mikangano kapena kupuma. Ngati chinachake chalakwika, amadziimba mlandu, choncho amayerekezera kuti palibe chimene chachitika. Koma iyi ndi njira yotayika, imakulepheretsani kupita patsogolo ndikukupangitsani kukhala wovutitsidwa ndi onyenga.

Kuyesera nthawi zonse kukondweretsa munthu amene amakukhumudwitsani kumakhalanso koyipa - mumangodzipangitsa kukhala pachiwopsezo. Mfundo zofanana ndi zimenezi zimagwiranso ntchito m’mabwenzi athu. Kuti muthetse mkanganowo, muyenera kukambirana momasuka, osati kugwedeza mbendera yoyera, ndikuyembekeza kuti zonse zidzatheka.

2. Kufunitsitsa kupirira kunyozedwa

Ana amene anakulira m’mabanja amene kutukwana nthaŵi zonse kunali kofala, osati kuti amalolera mwachidwi mawu okhumudwitsa, nthaŵi zambiri samawazindikira. Amakhala osakhudzidwa ndi chithandizo choterocho, makamaka ngati sakudziŵabe mmene zokumana nazo zaubwana zasinthira umunthu wawo.

Kudzudzula kulikonse kokhudza umunthu wa munthu (“Nthawi zonse…” kapena “Simu…”), mawu achipongwe kapena achipongwe (opusa, opusa, aulesi, mabuleki, ogwedera), zonena zomuvulaza, ndi chipongwe. Kunyalanyaza kwachete - kukana kuyankha ngati simunamve, kapena kuchita mwachipongwe kapena kunyoza mawu anu - ndi njira ina yachipongwe.

Kuti musiyanitse chipongwe ndi kudzudzula kolimbikitsa, tcherani khutu ku zolimbikitsa za wokamba nkhani: kodi akufuna kuthandiza kapena kuvulaza? Kamvekedwe ka mawuwa ndi ofunikanso. Kumbukirani, anthu amene amakhumudwitsa kaŵirikaŵiri amanena kuti akungofuna kudzudzula kolimbikitsa. Koma ngati pambuyo pa ndemanga zawo mukumva kuti mulibe kanthu kapena mukuvutika maganizo, ndiye kuti cholinga chawo chinali chosiyana. Ndipo muyenera kukhala owona mtima pamalingaliro anu.

3. Kuyesera kusintha ena

Ngati mukuganiza kuti mnzanu kapena mnzanu ayenera kusintha kuti ubale wanu ukhale wangwiro, ganizirani: mwinamwake munthu uyu ali wokondwa ndi chirichonse ndipo sakufuna kusintha chirichonse? Simungathe kusintha aliyense. Tikhoza kusintha tokha. Ndipo ngati mnzanu sali woyenera kwa inu, khalani oona mtima nokha ndikuvomereza kuti ubalewu sungathe kukhala ndi tsogolo.

4. Kunong'oneza bondo chifukwa chotaya nthawi

Tonsefe timakhala ndi mantha otaya mtima, koma ena makamaka amakhala ndi nkhawa zamtunduwu. Nthawi zonse tikamaganiza zothetsa chibwenzi kapena ayi, timakumbukira kuchuluka kwa ndalama, zochitika, nthawi ndi mphamvu zomwe tayika. Mwachitsanzo: “Takhala m’banja kwa zaka 10, ndipo ngati nditachoka, zidzapezeka kuti zaka 10 zawonongeka.”

Zomwezo zimapitanso kwa maubwenzi okondana kapena maubwenzi, ntchito. Zoonadi, “ndalama” zanu sizingabwezedwe, koma malingaliro oterowo amakulepheretsani kusankha pakusintha kwakukulu ndi kofunikira.

5. Kukhulupirira mopambanitsa kudzudzula kopambanitsa kwa wina (ndi kwa inu mwini).

Zomwe timamva paubwana wathu (kutamanda kapena kutsutsidwa kosatha) zimakhala maziko a malingaliro athu ozama ponena za ife eni. Mwana amene wakondedwa mokwanira amadziyamikira ndipo salekerera zoyesayesa zomnyozetsa kapena zachipongwe.

Mwana wosadzisungika wokhala ndi mkhalidwe wodetsa nkhaŵa, amene kaŵirikaŵiri anafunikira kumvetsera ndemanga zonyoza za kuthekera kwake, “amatengera” malingaliro ameneŵa ponena za iye mwini, amakhala wodziimba mlandu. Munthu wotero amaona zofooka zake kukhala chifukwa cha zolephera zonse m'moyo: "Sindinalembedwe chifukwa ndine wotayika", "Sindinaitanidwe chifukwa ndine wotopa", "Ubale unatha chifukwa palibe chochita. ndikondeni.”

Yesani kuzindikira kudzudzula kulikonse, kwa wina kapena kwanu. Ndipo simuyenera kumudalira mopanda malire. Ganizirani za mphamvu zanu, kutsutsana ndi "mawu amkati" omwe amakutsutsani - sichinthu choposa mauna a mawu omwe "munkawatenga" muubwana. Musalole kuti anthu amene mumacheza nawo akuchitireni chipongwe.

Kumbukirani kuti pozindikira njira zanu zobisika zodziwikiratu, mutenga sitepe yoyamba pakusintha kofunikira.