Mawu 5 onyenga omwe amakupangitsani misala

Zibakera, magazi amathamangira kumasaya, misozi imatuluka m'maso, zimakhala zovuta kupuma ... Chinachitika ndi chiyani? Kupatula apo, mawuwo, chifukwa cha zomwe zonsezi zikuchitika kwa ife, zinali zowoneka ngati zosalakwa, ngakhale zaubwenzi? Ndipo timadziimba mlandu kwambiri chifukwa sitingathe kufotokoza zomwe timachita. Zikuwoneka kwa ife kuti tilibe ufulu ku zochitika zoterezi.

Koma ngati izi zibwerezedwa, ndiye kuti tikuchita ndi munthu wonyenga. Ndipo nthawi zambiri wonyenga woteroyo amakhala psychopath - munthu amene khalidwe lake limadziwika ndi nzeru, bata, nkhanza komanso ludzu la mphamvu pa anthu.

Mukamva mawu akuti "psychopath", mwina mumakumbukira Hannibal Lecter kapena Ted Bundy. Ted Bundy ndi wakupha anthu ambiri ku America, kuba komanso necrophile m'ma 1970s. Chiwerengero chenicheni cha omwe adaphedwa sichikudziwika. Atatsala pang’ono kuphedwa, anavomereza kuti anapha anthu 30, koma chiwerengero chenicheni cha anthu amene anamupha chikhoza kukhala chochuluka kwambiri. Kawiri kuweruzidwa kuti aphedwe. Mu 1989, chigamulocho chinaperekedwa.

Koma ambiri a psychopaths samachita zachiwawa ndipo sali m'ndende, koma pakati pathu. Ndizothekanso kwambiri kuti wowonera wamba amawapeza okonda kwambiri komanso okoma.

Psychopaths makamaka ndi anthu odya anzawo. Amagwiritsa ntchito chithumwa kuti apeze zomwe akufuna kwa ena. Palibe kuchotserapo. Iwo mofananamo amadyera mwankhanza achibale, abwenzi, okondedwa, ogwira nawo ntchito. Gwiritsani ntchito luso lawo pankhani yachipembedzo ndi ndale. Amasintha umunthu wawo kuti ukhale momwe amaganizira kuti mungakonde. Ndipo zimagwira ntchito. Zitha kukhala kuti mumapeza mnzanu wonyenga wa psychopath ndi wachifundo komanso womvera komanso mumamukonda kwambiri - bola ngati sakusowa chilichonse kuchokera kwa inu. Ndipo pakafunika, khalidwe lake lidzayamba kukuchititsani misala mwamsanga.

Nawa ena mwa mawu omwe mumamva kuchokera kwa munthu wonyenga akuyesera kusokoneza ufulu wanu. Ngati wina anena mmodzi kapena awiri mwa iwo, izi sizikutanthauza kuti iye ndi psychopath. Koma mawu oterowo ayenera kuwonedwa ngati mpata wopenda mosamalitsa zimene zikuchitika muukwati wanu.

1. “Mumalemekeza kwambiri chilichonse”

Inde, pali anthu omwe amawona matanthauzo obisika kwambiri pazochitika zilizonse. Pali njira imodzi yokha yodziwira ngati kupusitsa kwabisika m'mawu awa - kuwunika m'mbuyo ngati mantha anu anali olondola.

Onyenga amachita zinthu mwadala zomwe zimakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu okhumudwa. Mwachitsanzo, kukopana ndi munthu wakale pa TV pamaso pa aliyense. Mukawafunsa za nkhaniyi, anganene kuti mumaona kuti nkhaniyo ndi yofunika kwambiri. Patatha mwezi umodzi, zidapezeka kuti adakunyengezani ndi munthu yemweyo. Cholinga cha manipulator ndikukupangitsani kukayikira chidziwitso chanu. Amakupatsirani malingaliro osiyanasiyana ndikukupangitsani kukhala ndi nkhawa, kuti pambuyo pake adzakudzudzuleni chifukwa cha nkhawa iyi.

2. "Ndimadana ndi sewero"

Ndipo komabe posachedwapa mudzazindikira kuti pali sewero lambiri pozungulira iwo kuposa aliyense amene mumamudziwa. Osokoneza amayamba kukuikani pamwamba pa wina aliyense, kukutamandani kukhala kosavuta kwanu. Koma sizitenga nthawi yayitali chifukwa amatopa ndi chilichonse. Iwo ndi abodza pathological, siriyo scammers ndi ozunzidwa kosatha. Ndipo posakhalitsa mikhalidwe yonseyi imayamba kuwonekera ndikukupangitsani chisokonezo chowopsa.

Nthawi zonse mukanena za nkhawa zanu kapena kusakhutira kwanu, onyengawo anganene kuti iyi ndi sewero lomwe amadana nalo kuti mumve chisoni chifukwa chochita zoyipa zawo. Ndipo safuna kusintha khalidwe lawo.

3. "Ndinu omvera kwambiri"

Manipulators «kubweretsa» ena kutengeka - inde, ndi chimene iwo amachita! Atakuvumbitsani mathithi a matamando ndi matamando, posakhalitsa amasiya kutchera khutu kwa inu kuti awone momwe mukuchitira. Ndipo pamene muchitapo kanthu, iwo amakuimbani mlandu wakukhala wamanyazi mopambanitsa kapena woumirira. Adzakunyozani, kukunyozani ndi kukudzudzulani (kawirikawiri ngati nthabwala, kunyoza), kukankhira malire anu mpaka mutakwiya.

Kenako adzakubwezerani mkwiyo wawo kuti muwoneke ngati wamisala. Manipulators amatha kupangitsa munthu kukhala wopanda chitetezo komanso wosatetezeka - chifukwa cha izi amangofunika nthawi.

4. "Simukundimvetsa"

Zoonadi, zolakwa ndi kusamvana kumachitika m’mabanja athanzi. Koma onyenga amakonza dala zoputa dala. Ndipo mukachitapo kanthu, amapotoza chilichonse ndikukutsutsani (!) kuti mwalakwitsa. Nthawi zambiri amakana ngakhale kuti sananene chilichonse.

Izi zimatchedwa «gaslighting» - pamene iwo amanena kapena kuchita chinachake mwadala, ndiye kunamizira ena kusamvetsetsa (kapena kukana kotheratu kuti zimene ananena kapena kuchita zinachitika konse). Ndipotu, munamvetsa bwino zomwe ananena. Iwo akungofuna kukupangitsani inu kufunsa misala yanu.

5. "Iwe wapenga / wansanje / waledzera / m'chikondi ndi ine"

Kulemba zilembo kumayamba pomwe chilichonse chikutsika. Malinga ndi malingaliro a wonyenga, onse omwe anali okondana nawo, ogwira nawo ntchito, ndi abwenzi awo ndi amisala, ansanje, amisala, oledzera, kapena amakondana nawo. Zitha kukhala zosokoneza akayamba kuyitana anthu omwewo omwe adawadzudzula kale pamaso panu. Kenako amakuponyerani mudengu lomwelo "lopenga", kupitiliza kuzungulira kosatha kwa malingaliro ndi kutsika kwamtengo komwe munthu aliyense watsoka yemwe amalowa m'njira yawo amagweramo.

Njira yokhayo yotulutsira zinthu zowononga izi ndikuletsa kulumikizana konse. Palibe mauthenga, mafoni, maimelo ndi maubwenzi pama social network. Apo ayi, mungakhale otsimikiza kuti adzachita zonse zomwe zingatheke komanso zosatheka kukupangitsani misala.

Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti ngati wonyenga akuyesera kukupangitsani kukayikira chidziwitso chanu, ndiye kuti chikumubweretsera mavuto. Onyenga amayesa kuwononga m'maganizo aliyense amene angawpseze chinyengo chawo cha moyo wabwinobwino padziko lapansi. Chifukwa chake akayamba kusewera "masewera amalingaliro" ndi inu, ndikukuthokozani mwachisawawa kuti muzindikire ngati pali vuto ndi iwo.

Za Katswiri: Jackson McKenzie ndiye woyambitsa nawo Psychopath Free, gulu lapaintaneti lomwe limathandizira opulumuka kuthana ndi psychopaths ndi manipulators.