Kuseka ndi chizindikiro chapadziko lonse lapansi chomveka bwino kwa anthu amayiko osiyanasiyana, zikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe. Zimasintha malinga ndi omwe tikulankhula nawo pano. Choncho, tingathe pafupifupi mosakayikira, kokha ndi phokoso la mawu, kudziwa mgwirizano pakati pa anthu oseka, ngakhale titawawona kwa nthawi yoyamba.
Zikuoneka kuti bwenzi kudziwika osati m'mavuto, komanso pamene ife nthabwala naye. Ndipo ambiri a ife tingathe kudziwa molondola ngati anthu aŵiri amadziŵana bwino mwa kungomvetsera pamene akuseka.
Kuti muwone ngati kuseka ndi kosiyana pakati pa abwenzi ndi alendo ndi momwe kusiyana kumeneku kumamvekera ndi anthu a mayiko ndi zikhalidwe zina, gulu lapadziko lonse la akatswiri a zamaganizo linachita kafukufuku wamkulu.1. Ophunzirawo anapemphedwa kukambitsirana nkhani zosiyanasiyana, ndipo zokambirana zawo zonse zinajambulidwa. Achinyamata ena anali mabwenzi apamtima, pamene ena anaonana kwa nthaŵi yoyamba. Kenako ofufuzawo anadula zidutswa za mawu omvera pamene olankhula nawowo ankaseka nthawi imodzi.
Ndi anzathu, timaseka mwachibadwa komanso mwachisawawa, popanda kulamulira kapena kupondereza mawu athu.
Zidutswa zimenezi zinamvedwa ndi anthu 966 okhala m’maiko 24 osiyanasiyana m’makontinenti asanu. Iwo ankafunika kudziwa ngati anthu amene ankasekawo ankadziwana komanso kuti ankagwirizana bwanji.
Ngakhale kusiyana kwazikhalidwe, pafupifupi, onse omwe adafunsidwa adatsimikiza ngati anthu akuseka amadziwana (61% yamilandu). Nthawi yomweyo, atsikana aakazi anali osavuta kuzindikira (amaganiziridwa mu 80% yamilandu).
“Tikamacheza ndi anzathu, kuseka kwathu kumamveka mwapadera. - akuti mmodzi wa olemba a phunziroli, katswiri wodziwa zamaganizo wochokera ku yunivesite ya California (USA) Grek Brant (Greg Bryant). - Aliyense «chuckle» kumatenga zochepa, ndi timbre ndi buku la mawu amasiyana mwachizolowezi - iwo kuonjezera. Izi ndi zapadziko lonse lapansi - pambuyo pake, kulondola kwamalingaliro m'maiko osiyanasiyana sikunasiyana kwambiri. Zimakhala kuti ndi anzathu timaseka mwachibadwa komanso mwachisawawa, popanda kulamulira kapena kupondereza mawu athu.
Kutha kudziwa momwe ubale uliri ndi zizindikiro monga kuseka kwasintha pakusintha kwathu. Kutha, mwa zizindikiro zosalunjika, kudziwa mwamsanga ubale pakati pa anthu omwe sitikuwadziwa kungakhale kothandiza pazochitika zosiyanasiyana.
1 G. Bryant ndi al. "Kuzindikira kugwirizana mu colaughter m'magulu 24", Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 2016, vol. 113, №17.