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Dzulo lokhalo, adamunyamula m'manja mwake ndikudzaza maluwa, ndipo adasilira mawu aliwonse omwe adalankhula. Ndipo lero akulimbana kuti nthawi yani yotsuka mbale pambuyo pa chakudya. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Susan Degges-White akugawana njira zisanu zothanirana ndi kutopa m’banja.
Kodi munayamba mwakondanapo poyamba? Tinayang’ana pa munthuyo ndipo tinazindikira kuti uyu ndiye yekhayo, kwa moyo wonse. Panthawi ngati imeneyi, anthu amayamba kukhulupirira nthano "anakhala mosangalala mpaka kalekale."
Tsoka ilo, chikondi chokonda kwambiri sichingakhalepo mpaka kalekale. Ndipo ngati simugwiritsa ntchito maubwenzi, pakapita nthawi okondedwawo amangolakalaka komanso kukhumudwa chifukwa cha ziyembekezo zosakwaniritsidwa.
1. Yesani kuchita mtundu wina wa "ntchito" tsiku lililonse
Mutha kudzuka mphindi khumi molawirira ndikumwa tiyi kapena khofi wokonzeka pofika mnzako akadzuka. Kapena mutha kuyala bedi lanu m'mawa uliwonse m'malo mongoganiza kuti ndi nthawi ya ndani yoyeretsa chipinda chogona. Ngati muli ndi chiweto, mutha kuyenda m'mawa ndi chiweto chanu.
Sankhani chinthu chosavuta kuti muchite tsiku lililonse, apo ayi pakapita nthawi mudzayamba kukwiyitsidwa ndikufunsa kuti mnzanuyo amasilira khama lanu nthawi zonse.
2.Pangani miyambo ndi miyambo yanu yapadera
Miyambo ndi gawo la chikhalidwe chapadera cha banja chomwe chili chofunikira kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino kwa nthawi yayitali. Ikhoza kukhala kapu ya khofi kapena nkhomaliro ya Loweruka. Ngakhale ntchito zachizoloŵezi zosamalira mwana kapena chiweto zingasinthidwe kukhala mwambo. Kutenga galu wanu kokayenda m’paki madzulo aliwonse, kusamba mwana wanu, ndi kumuuza nkhani asanagone kungakhale miyambo yosangalatsa osati mikangano.
3. Thokozani wokondedwa wanu kamodzi pa sabata pazomwe amachita.
Ngakhale mutakhala ndi nthawi yovuta pachibwenzi, musaiwale kuuza wokondedwa wanu kuti amakukondani ndipo mumamukonda. Kunena mokweza matamando ndi kuzindikira, simumangokondweretsa mnzanuyo, komanso mumadzithandiza kuti mukhale ndi maganizo abwino.
Ubongo unapangidwa m’njira yoti umakumbukira bwino zochitika ndi ndemanga zoipa. Zimatengera ziganizo zisanu zabwino kapena zochitika kuti zithetse zotsatira za chimodzi choipa.
Kukangana ndi kunena zambiri kwa wina ndi mzake? Ganizilani zinthu zabwino zimene mnzanu wacita ndi kunena posachedwapa. Dzikumbutseni makhalidwe omwe mumawakonda kwambiri mwa wokondedwa wanu. Tsopano nenani zonse mokweza.
4. Yesetsani kusangalatsa ndi kusangalatsa wokondedwa wanu tsiku lililonse
Simukuyenera kukhala woyimilira wanthabwala kapena woyimba violin kuti muchite izi. Muyenera kudziwa zomwe wokondedwa wanu amakonda ndikupeza zoseketsa. Kusinthana nthabwala ndi zithunzi zoseketsa ndi wokondedwa wanu tsiku lonse. Ndipo madzulo mukhoza kuyang'ana sewero lanthabwala kapena zosangalatsa limodzi, kupita ku konsati kapena kanema.
Yesetsani kugawana zomwe zili zosangalatsa kwa iye, osati kwa inu nokha. Ngati mumakhudzidwa ndi zithunzi ndi amphaka, ndipo wokondedwa wanu kuyambira ali mwana sangathe kuyima amphaka, simuyenera kumugonjetsa ndi zithunzi za ziweto izi. Ngati mnzanuyo amakonda kucheza madzulo akusewera chess pa intaneti, musaumirire kuwonera limodzi mipikisano yotsetsereka.
5. Kulankhulana ndiye chinsinsi cha ubale wabwino
Pakutanganidwa kwa tsiku ndi tsiku, yesani kupeza mphindi zochepa patsiku kuti mukhale nokha. Kambiranani zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wanu, kuseka nthabwala. Pali zovuta m'maubwenzi, izi ndizabwinobwino. Kumbukirani kuti maubwenzi ayenera kukonzedwa, ndiyeno pali mwayi wokhala pamodzi mosangalala mpaka kalekale.
Za Katswiri: Susan Degges-White ndi pulofesa wa psychology ku Northern Illinois University.