Zamkatimu
- 1. Pambuyo pakutha, mumafuna kumvetsetsa bwino momwe ubalewo umayendera.
- 2. Ngati mukufuna thandizo, mumapita kuchipatala.
- 3. Simutsata maubwenzi angapo olephera.
- 4. Mumavutika mukatha kutha ndipo mwina mumadziimba mlandu.
- 5. Mutha kupepesa moona mtima.
- 6. Simutsatira moyo wa wakale wanu ndi kulimbikira maniacal.
- 7. Munawerenga nkhaniyi
Pali zambiri zolembedwa ndi zokambidwa za narcissists lero kuti ena a ife timadabwa ngati iwo eni akhoza kuphatikizidwa m'gululi, makamaka ngati pali mbiri ya maubwenzi oopsa ndikuchoka kwa iwo. Zinthu zikavuta m’banja, nthawi zambiri timasokonezeka moti sitimvetsanso kuti ndife ndani. Nazi zizindikiro zingapo zomwe zingakuthandizeni kutsimikizira kuti simuli wosuta.
Kodi narcissist amakhala mwa aliyense wa ife? Kumlingo wakutiwakuti, ndipo m’moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, inde. Ndipo izi sizoyipa: kudzidalira komanso kudzidalira kwambiri sikunayambe kusokoneza aliyense. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, munthu ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la umunthu wa narcissistic amadzikonzera okha ndipo sangathe kulingalira momwe ena akumvera.
Pambuyo pakusudzulana movutikira, ndikosavuta kuyamba kudzikayikira pa chilichonse, kuphatikiza narcissism. Kodi zinalidi za ife? Nanga bwanji ngati tingoganizira kwambiri za ife eni n’kusiya kumva mnzanuyo? Nazi zizindikiro zisanu ndi ziwiri zomwe, posweka, zidzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa kuti simuli narcissist ndipo izi sizinali chifukwa cha kutha.
1. Pambuyo pakutha, mumafuna kumvetsetsa bwino momwe ubalewo umayendera.
Pambuyo pakutha, mumayesa kudziwa zomwe zidachitika komanso chifukwa chake, kuti mumvetsetse momwe zomwe zidayambira bwino zidatha moyipa kwambiri. Mumakonda kuwerenga mabuku komanso kulankhula ndi akatswiri. Kuphatikiza apo, mukufuna kudziwa chifukwa chake mukumva zowawa komanso zowawa pakali pano. Narcissus, kumbali ina, alibe chidwi chofuna kufufuza zonsezi - amadziwa kuti adachita zonse bwino, ndipo vuto linali mwa mnzanuyo.
2. Ngati mukufuna thandizo, mumapita kuchipatala.
Ukakhumudwa, umafuna chithandizo, ndipo anthu olankhula narcissists satero. Ngati narcissist akuyamba kupita ku psychotherapy, ndiye ndendende mpaka atazindikira kuti wothandizirayo ndi "osati" wabwino mokwanira, wanzeru, womvetsetsa. Kapena mpaka atamva kuti katswiri watsala pang'ono kumuululira.
3. Simutsata maubwenzi angapo olephera.
Mwachidziwikire, muli ndi chidziwitso chosiyana pambuyo panu. Mwakhalapo pachibwenzi pomwe china chake chalakwika. Kwa narcissists, zochitika zomwezo zimabwerezedwa mu ubale uliwonse. Popeza sangathe kukondana ndipo nthawi zonse amafunikira kudzitsimikizira komanso kukondedwa, sangathe kumanga maubwenzi apamtima. Kwa nthawi ndithu, amasefukira, akunamizira kuti ndi odekha komanso achikondi, koma nthawi zambiri amasanduka nthunzi asanaulule.
4. Mumavutika mukatha kutha ndipo mwina mumadziimba mlandu.
Nkhawa yochulukirachulukira, zowoneka bwino, mantha komanso ngakhale kukhumudwa - kupatukana kovutirapo kwa ambiri aife sikudziwika. Zimatenga nthawi kuti zitheke. Mwinamwake, mukuwopa kuthamangira kwinakwake ndi mnzanu wakale - ngakhale pamalo otseguka a malo ochezera a pa Intaneti. Kutchulidwa kulikonse kwa iye kumakukhumudwitsani.
Panthawi imodzimodziyo, mukuyesera kuganiziranso za khalidwe lanu ndi udindo wanu mu chiyanjano, kumvetsetsa zomwe munachita zolakwika komanso ngati zingatheke kuchita mosiyana kuti mupulumutse mgwirizano. Nthawi izi ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti zisamakulepheretseni kupanga maubwenzi atsopano.
Komano, Narcissists amakumana ndi chimodzi mwa malingaliro awiri atatha kusweka: chisangalalo ngati iwo eni adasiya bwenzi atakumana ndi munthu "bwino", kapena kukwiya ngati adasiyana nawo. Ngati kudzikonda kwake kupwetekedwa, narcissist akhoza kutengeka ndi lingaliro la kubwezera, kotero mutatha kupatukana, muyenera kukhala kutali ndi iye.
5. Mutha kupepesa moona mtima.
Ngakhale munthu wa narcissist atapempha chikhululukiro, samatengeka ndi chisoni, koma ndi mtundu wina wa kudzikonda. Koma abwenzi a narcissists ayenera kupepesa nthawi zonse - chifukwa cha ichi, china, chachitatu, ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale kuchita izo pofuna kusunga mtendere m'banja.
6. Simutsatira moyo wa wakale wanu ndi kulimbikira maniacal.
Nthawi yoyamba titatha kupatukana, ambiri aife timayang'ana m'moyo wa mnzathu wakale, koma kwa anthu onyoza, "nthawi yoyamba" iyi sitha. Ndipo sikuti munthu wamatsenga amakondabe munthuyu (mwinamwake, sakudziwa kukonda konse), ndi njira yake yodzitsimikizira yekha.
Ndikofunikira kuti wonyamulirayo awonetsetse kuti atha kubweza mnzake ngati atafuna. Nthaŵi zina kuyesa kuchita zimenezi kumapitirira kwa zaka zambiri. Chifukwa chokhacho chokhalira ndi munthu wotero ndi chakuti muli ndi ana ofanana naye.
7. Munawerenga nkhaniyi
Mwachiwonekere, koma komabe: munthu wamatsenga sangawerenge zofalitsa za narcissism - chifukwa chakuti amakonda zonse za iye mwini, ndipo palibe chifukwa chodzichitira yekha. Chifukwa chake, mwina, ngati mwawerenga nkhaniyi mpaka kumapeto, mayesowo adadutsa bwino.