Kodi munamvapo kuchokera kwa ena kuti mukuchita mopambanitsa ndi chinachake? Inde inde. Ndipo izi ndi zachilendo: ndizosatheka kudzudzula mopanda mantha. Mavuto amayamba pamene zochitazo zimakhala zakuthwa kwambiri, zachiwawa kwambiri. Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kuchita mosiyana?
Monga mukudziwira, okhawo amene sachita kanthu salakwitsa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti tikakhala pachiwopsezo, timayamba kulengeza mokweza kwambiri, m'pamenenso timamva kudzudzula mu adilesi yathu.
Simungathe kuletsa kutuluka kwa malingaliro, koma mukhoza kuphunzira kuwazindikira mosiyana. Musalole ndemanga zichedwetse chitukuko ndi kupita ku zolinga. Kuti muchite izi, sikoyenera kukulitsa chipolopolo ndikukhala wakhungu.
Musanatengerepo kanthu pa inu nokha, ganizirani izi.
1. Kodi mukudziwa omwe akukutsutsani?
Anthu omwe amakudzudzulani kapena kukukhumudwitsani - mumadziwa chiyani za iwo? Kudzudzula koopsa nthawi zambiri kumaloledwa ndi anthu osadziwika pamasamba ochezera. Anthu oterowo obisala kumbuyo kwa ma avatara achilendo sayenera kuganiziridwa nkomwe.
Palibe amene amatsutsa kuti ufulu wolankhula ndi wofunika. Aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi ufulu wopereka maganizo ake. Ndipo ndemanga zolimbikitsa zosadziwika zili ndi ufulu wokhalapo. Koma jakisoni ndi mwano wosadziwika zimasiya anthu amantha okha. Kodi ndi bwino kulola anthu oterowo kukukhumudwitsani?
2. Kodi anthu amenewa ndi ofunika kwa inu?
Nthawi zambiri timakhumudwa ndi mawu, malingaliro, ndi zochita za anthu omwe si ofunika kwa ife komanso mwa iwo okha. Amayi a mwana wina pabwalo lamasewera. Bwenzi lomwe poyamba linakukhazikitsani ndipo ndithudi sangakhalenso bwenzi. Mnzake wosapiririka wa dipatimenti yotsatira. Bwana pakampani yomwe mwatsala pang'ono kuchoka. The poizoni wakale simukukonzekera chibwenzi kachiwiri.
Aliyense wa anthuwa akhoza kukupwetekani, koma ndikofunika kuti mubwerere mmbuyo ndikuyang'anitsitsa momwe zinthu zilili. Anthu awa sali ofunikira kwa inu - ndiye kodi ndikofunikira kuyankha ndemanga zawo? Koma bwanji ngati wosulizayo ndi wofunika kwa inu? Osathamangira kuchitapo kanthu - yesani kumvetsera mwatcheru malingaliro a munthu wina.
3. Kodi ndi koyenera kuti tifike pamlingo wawo?
Ku mlingo wa iwo amene amakuweruzani potengera maonekedwe, jenda, kachitidwe, zaka, iwo amene amadalira kusiyana kwanu kwa iwo? Ayi ndithu. Zonse zomwe zili pamwambazi sizinthu zawo. Ngati amamatira ku zinthu zoterozo, ndiye kuti kwenikweni, alibe chonena.
4. Zimene amanena ndi kuchita nthawi zonse zimakhala zokhudza iwo eni.
Mmene munthu amalankhulira ndi khalidwe lawo ndi mmene munthu alili. Ndi ndemanga za caustic, zolemba zapoizoni, zosayenera, amakuuzani mbiri ya moyo wawo, amagawana zomwe iwo ali, zomwe amakhulupirira, masewera okhudza maganizo omwe amasewera, momwe amaonera moyo wawo.
Poizoni amene amapopera ndi mankhwala awoawo. Ndikwabwino kudzikumbutsa izi, mwinanso zothandiza kuposa kuyesa kuzipewa kwathunthu.
5. Osathamangira kuganiza
Tikakhumudwa kapena kukwiya, timaganiza kuti tikudziwa bwino lomwe zimene munthuyo ankatanthauza. Mwina ndi: ankafuna kukupwetekani. Kapena mwina tikulakwitsa. Yesani kuchita modekha, kusiya interlocutor ufulu maganizo awo, koma musatenge chilichonse payekha.
6. Ganizirani mmene angakuthandizireni.
Ngakhale malingaliro olakwika omwe amaperekedwa m'njira yosavomerezeka angakuthandizeni kuphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwa zanu, kuphunzira chinachake ndikukula, makamaka pankhani ya ntchito. Bwererani ku ndemanga yachidani pamene maganizo atha ndipo muwone ngati angakhale othandiza kwa inu.
7. Musalole otsutsa anu akuchepetseni.
Choopsa chachikulu chomwe timatengera zonse pafupi ndi mtima ndikuti chifukwa cha izi timakhala ndi chitetezo, ndipo izi zimalepheretsa kwambiri moyo, kutilepheretsa kupita patsogolo, kupanga ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi watsopano. Musalole kuti otsutsa akutsogolereni mumsampha umenewu. Osakhala wozunzidwa.
Musalole ena kulamulira moyo wanu. Ngati muchita chinthu choyenera, otsutsa adzawonekera, koma adzapambana ngati muwalola.