Amayi azikhalapo, amayi azidyetsa, kuvala, kugona, amayi… Katswiri wa zamaganizo Inga Green akukamba za zomwe adakumana nazo pa ubwana wake ali wamng'ono komanso wokhwima.
Ana anga aamuna amasiyana zaka 17. Ndili ndi zaka 38, mwana womaliza ali ndi miyezi inayi. Uwu ndi umayi wachikulire, ndipo tsiku lililonse ndimadziyerekezera mosadziwa nthawi ndi nthawi.
Ndiye ndinayenera kukhala mu nthawi kulikonse ndi kusataya nkhope. Kwatiwani ndipo mukhale ndi mwana posachedwa. Mukabereka, simungathe kumulera, chifukwa muyenera kumaliza maphunziro anu. Ndili kuyunivesite, ndimakumbukira kwakanthawi chifukwa chosowa tulo, ndipo kunyumba achibale anga ali pa ntchito limodzi ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna m’magulu atatu. Muyenera kukhala mayi wabwino, wophunzira, mkazi ndi alendo.
Dipuloma imasintha mofulumira buluu, nthawi zonse manyazi. Ndimakumbukira mmene ndinkatsuka mapoto onse m’nyumba ya apongozi anga tsiku limodzi kuti aone mmene ndinalili waukhondo. Sindikukumbukira kuti mwana wanga anali wotani panthawiyo, koma ndimakumbukira mwatsatanetsatane mapaniwa. Lawani mwachangu momwe mungathere kuti mumalize diploma. Sinthani mwachangu ku chakudya chanthawi zonse kuti mupite kuntchito. Usiku, amagwedeza mutu ku phokoso lomveka la mpope wa m'mawere kuti apitirize kuyamwitsa. Ndinayesetsa kwambiri ndikuvutika ndi manyazi kuti sindinali wokwanira, chifukwa aliyense amati umayi ndi chimwemwe, ndipo umayi wanga ndi woyimitsa.
Tsopano ndamvetsetsa kuti ndagwera m'mavuto otsutsana ndi amayi ndi amayi onse. Mu chikhalidwe chathu, iwo (ife, ine) timafunika kukhala ndi chimwemwe kuchokera ku kudzimana. Kuchita zosatheka, kutumikira aliyense pafupi, kukhala wabwino nthawi zonse. Nthawizonse. Nyumba za akavalo.
Chowonadi ndi chakuti sikutheka kumva bwino muzochita zachizolowezi, muyenera kutengera. Yesetsani kuti otsutsa osawoneka sakudziwa kalikonse. Kwa zaka zambiri ndazindikira zimenezi. Ngati ndikanatumiza kalata kwa mwana wanga wazaka makumi awiri zakubadwa, ikanati: “Palibe amene angafe ngati uyamba kudzisamalira. Nthawi iliyonse mukathamangira kutsuka ndi kupukuta, vulani "ambiri" mu malaya oyera pakhosi panu. Ulibe ngongole iliyonse, ndizongoganiza."
Kukhala mayi wamkulu kumatanthauza kusathamangira kulikonse komanso kusauza aliyense. Tengani mwanayo m'manja mwanu ndikumusilira. Pamodzi ndi mwamuna wake, imbani nyimbo kwa iye, kupusitsa mozungulira. Bwerani ndi mayina osiyanasiyana odekha komanso oseketsa. Poyenda, lankhulani ndi woyenda pansi pamaso pa odutsa. M’malo mokhumudwitsidwa, khalani ndi chifundo chachikulu ndi chiyamikiro kaamba ka mwanayo kaamba ka ntchito imene amagwira.
Kukhala khanda sikophweka, ndipo tsopano ndili ndi chidziŵitso chokwanira kuti ndimvetse zimenezi. Ndili naye, ndipo alibe ngongole kwa ine. Zimakhala zokonda basi. Ndipo limodzi ndi kuleza mtima ndi kumvetsetsa zosoŵa za khanda, kuzindikira ndi kulemekeza kwambiri mwana wanga wamwamuna wamkulu kumadza kwa ine. Iye alibe mlandu chifukwa chazovuta kwa ine ndi iye. Ndikulemba lemba ili, ndipo pafupi ndi ine, mwana wanga wamwamuna womaliza akupuma pang'onopang'ono m'maloto. Ndinachita zonse.