Zizindikiro 8 kuti ndi nthawi yoti mupite patsogolo

Timathera nthawi yambiri tikunamizira kukhala olimba kuti tisunge momwe zinthu zilili. Ndi bwino kusiya kugogoda pazitseko zotsekedwa. Timaopa zachabechabe, koma tiyenera kukumbukira kuti watsopanoyo angalowe m’moyo pokhapokha mutapanga mpata. Malingana ndi Lucia Giovannini, zizindikiro za 8zi zimati muyenera kusintha chinachake m'moyo wanu.

1. …mumadzivutitsa nokha.

Zoyembekeza mokokomeza zimakuchotsani kumayendedwe enieni a moyo, zimakupangitsani kuiwala zamasiku ano ndi kuganiza kuti mudzakhala osangalala m'tsogolo. Pamene padzakhala maubwenzi atsopano, ntchito, kunyumba ndi zina zotero. Zoyembekeza zimafinya pakati pa zam'mbuyo ndi zam'tsogolo ndipo sizikulolani kuti musangalale ndi zomwe zikuchitika.

Kodi mungamve bwanji zamatsenga amasiku ano ngati ubongo uli wotanganidwa ndi mabala akale komanso nkhawa zamtsogolo? M’malo mwake, yesani kuyang’ana pa kukongola kwa moyo wanu tsopano.

2. …ena amayembekezera zochuluka kuchokera kwa inu.

Musadzisinthe nokha chifukwa cha ena. Ndi bwino kusiya kulankhulana ndi munthu wina, kukhalabe wekha, kusiyana ndi kuzolowera zofuna za ena. Nkosavuta kutonthoza mtima wosweka kusiyana ndi kuphatikiza umunthu wosweka. Tikakhala m’chikondi, timakonda kudzinyenga tokha chifukwa cha munthu wina. Kodi izi zimabweretsa chiyani? Kodi zimenezi zimatisangalatsa? Kubweretsa mgwirizano ku maubwenzi? Khalani nokha ndipo simudzakhala nokha.

3. …wina ali ndi zotsatira zoyipa pamalingaliro anu

Aliyense amakonda kudzizungulira ndi anthu abwino. Ngati wina wapafupi ndi inu ali ndi chisonkhezero choipa pa inu chifukwa mawu awo amatsutsana ndi zochita zawo, lekani kulankhulana kumeneku. Ndi bwino kukhala wekha kusiyana ndi "kukhala ndi aliyense." Mabwenzi enieni, monga chikondi chenicheni, sadzasiya moyo wanu.

4. …umalimbikira kufunafuna chikondi

Simungapangitse anthu kukukondani, koma mutha kudzipangira nokha ndikukhala woyenera kukondedwa. Osafunsa anthu kuti akhalebe m'moyo wanu ngati akufuna kuchoka. Chikondi ndi ufulu, osati kudalira ndi kukakamiza. Mapeto ake satanthauza kutha kwa dziko. Munthu akasiya moyo wanu, akukuphunzitsani chinthu chofunika kwambiri. Ganizirani izi m'maubwenzi otsatirawa, ndipo zonse zikhala momwe ziyenera kukhalira.

5. …mumadzipeputsa

Nthawi zambiri anthu omwe mumawakonda samadziwa kufunika kwanu, kuwasamalira ndikuwononga mphamvu zomwe sizingabwerere.

Choncho ndi nthawi yoti musiye munthu amene sakuyamikani mokwanira. Zingakhale zovuta kwa ife kuti tichite izi, koma mutathetsa chibwenzi, mwinamwake mudzafunsa funso chifukwa chake simunachitepo izi kale.

6. …mumapereka chimwemwe chanu

Maubwenzi amakhudza kusinthana kwa chikondi, osati kusamalana. Ngati mupereka zochuluka kuposa zimene mumalandira, posachedwapa mudzadzimva kukhala woluza. Osataya chimwemwe chanu chifukwa cha wina. Izi sizidzabweretsa zabwino, wokondedwa kapena okondedwa sangayamikire nsembeyo.

7. …mantha amakulepheretsani kusintha moyo wanu

Tsoka ilo, anthu nthawi zambiri amakwaniritsa maloto awo, chifukwa tsiku lililonse amavomereza pang'ono, zomwe pamapeto pake sizimabweretsa zotsatira zomwe akufuna. Nthawi zina timachita zimenezi pofuna ndalama, kudzimva kuti ndife otetezeka, ndipo nthawi zina n’cholinga choti tizikondedwa. Timaimba mlandu ena chifukwa cholephera maloto athu. Timadzitcha tokha ozunzidwa ndi zochitika.

Makhalidwe amenewa akutanthauza imfa yapang'onopang'ono ndi yowawa ya moyo wanu. Limbani mtima kutsatira mtima wanu, khalani pachiwopsezo, sinthani zomwe simukonda. Njirayi sidzakhala yophweka, koma mukafika pamwamba, mudzadzithokoza nokha. Mukaganizira pang'ono za kuluza, m'pamenenso mungapambane.

8. …mumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi zakale

Zakale ndi zakale ndipo sizingasinthidwe. Chinsinsi cha chisangalalo ndi ufulu sikubwezera kwa omwe adawapweteka kale. Dalirani tsoka ndipo musaiwale maphunziro omwe mudalandira kuchokera kwa anthu awa. Mutu wotsiriza ndi wofunika kwambiri kuposa woyamba. Dzimasuleni nokha ku maunyolo akale ndikutsegula moyo wanu kuzinthu zatsopano komanso zodabwitsa!