Zaka makumi anayi zapitazo tinagwidwa ndi chipembedzo chandalama. “Kupambana bwino”, “kupambana”, mitundu yamtengo wapatali… Kodi zidapangitsa anthu kukhala osangalala? Ndipo n’chifukwa chiyani anthu lerolino amapita kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo kuti apeze mabwenzi enieni ndi chikondi chenicheni?
Posachedwapa, nthawi zambiri, monga psychotherapist, ndafunsidwa kuti ndithandize kukumana ndi mnzanga. Wofuna chithandizo ali ndi banja, ana, komabe, kufunikira kwa ubwenzi wauzimu, kuwona mtima ndi kuphweka kwa umunthu kumamveka kwambiri.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery adanena kuti pali chinthu chimodzi chokha padziko lapansi - kulankhulana kwa anthu. Munthu amafunikira munthu amene mungalankhule naye mosangalala kwa maola ambiri, amene ali otetezeka ndi ofunda. M'malingaliro anga, ndi ubale uwu wa miyoyo womwe umatipanga kukhala anthu.
Kukopa moyo
Mu miyambo yachisilamu, chodabwitsa ichi chokopa chikufotokozedwa ndi mfundo yakuti pali malo omwe miyoyo imakhalapo asanalowe m'thupi la munthu. Ndipo ngati mizimu inali pafupi mu nyumba ya amonkeyi, ndiye kuti m'moyo wapadziko lapansi adzakumanadi, adzazindikirana wina ndi mnzake ndi kukopa kosawoneka komwe munthu amalakalaka kwambiri.
Zachikondi zakale
Msinkhu wa zodandaula zotere ndi zazikulu kwambiri: kuchokera kwa omwe ali ndi zaka zoposa 40 mpaka omwe ali ndi zaka 18. Onse amagwirizanitsidwa ndi mphuno ... chifukwa cha chikondi cha USSR. Zikutanthauza chiyani?
Mafilimu "Ndikuyenda mozungulira Moscow" ndi Georgy Danelia ndi "Courier" ndi Karen Shakhnazarov amaonedwa kuti ndi chizindikiro cha chikondi cha USSR.
Amalemekeza ubwenzi kaamba ka ubwenzi, monga phindu lapadera, losagwetsedwa ku phindu lanzeru pamene dzanja lisamba m’manja.
Ena mwa makasitomala anga, osapeza kapena kukhumudwa muubwenzi ndi ena, amasankha akatswiri afilosofi, olemba zaka mazana apitawa monga mabwenzi. Ali okha ndi mabuku, amamva ngati iwo eni. Amapeza komweko kogwirizana ndi malingaliro awo ndi zithunzi.
Palinso zopempha zambiri za chikondi. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika motere: poyamba munthu amaphunzira kwa nthawi yaitali, kwambiri ndi mwakhama, ndiye amamanga ntchito, bizinesi mogwirizana ndi mfundo za pragmatism maganizo ndi thupi. Koma palibe chisangalalo. Gulu la chisangalalo limagwirizana mofooka ndi zinthu zakuthupi, koma ndi chitetezo ndi chitonthozo, inde.
Ubwenzi, chikondi, chifundo, kuwolowa manja, chifundo pamwamba pa zinthu zakuthupi palibe
Ndimakumbutsidwa za msonkhano ndi munthu wabizinesi amene wapindula kwambiri pa ntchito yake. Ndinalowa mu ofesi yaikulu yoyera yochititsa khungu, yokhala ndi telesikopu yaikulu pafupi ndi zenera. Anakhala pa sofa yoyera yopakidwa pakhungu la antelope. Wabizinesiyo analankhula mowawa za kusungulumwa, kusakhulupirika, kusakhalapo panopa chikondi. Pomwe mkazi wakaleyo adanena kuti atalephera kuchita bwino, adamumiza m'bafa ...
Makhalidwe atsopano ndi makhalidwe akale
M’kayendetsedwe kanzeru kulinga ku cholinga chofotokozedwa mosamalitsa, mikhalidwe yamaganizo ija imene munthu angakonde nayo, kupanga mabwenzi, kusirira zinthu zosavuta zimene zimatenthetsa moyo m’dziko lozizira sizimakula.
Mu Western pragmatism yamalingaliro ndi thupi mulibe malo a mzimu, lingaliro la mtima, monga momwe katswiri wa zamaganizo a Jungian Henri Corbin adanena, ponena za mabuku a anzeru a Sufi azaka za XNUMX-XNUMX. Lingaliro la mtima limatilumikiza ife ndi moyo wa dziko lapansi. Moyo wadziko lapansi umatidzaza ndi Kuwala ndi vinyo wophiphiritsa uja yemwe Omar Khayyam analemba.
M'malingaliro anga, chodabwitsa cha "makhalidwe atsopano" monga chodabwitsa cha m'zaka za zana la XNUMX chimafunanso kudzaza kuperewera kwa pragmatism.
Logic imadziwa bwino zomwe zingatsogolere munthu kuchokera ku mfundo A kupita kumalo B, koma mu kayendetsedwe kameneka mulibe malo amalingaliro a mtima, moyo wamtima. Amafunabe kutitsimikizira kuti chinthu chachikulu m’moyo ndicho kuphunzira bwino kuti tidzapeze ndalama zambiri m’tsogolo. Koma palibe amene amanena kuti kaŵirikaŵiri ndalama zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pogula mankhwala osokoneza bongo amene amadzaza ndi kuzizira kwamaganizo, kupanda pake ndi zowawa za kugwiritsidwa mwala.
Kulimbana ndi kuvomereza ufulu wofanana ndi ufulu wa anthu omwe kale anali kusalidwa ndi sitepe yopita patsogolo. Koma mu sewero lililonse pali ngozi yotaya mwana ndi madzi.
Mwina ndi bwino kutenga sitima ya m'tsogolo zinthu zachikhalidwe za "makhalidwe akale" monga ubwenzi, chikondi, chifundo, khalidwe ndi udindo.
"Tili ndi udindo kwa iwo omwe tawaweta", mosasamala kanthu za mtundu wa khungu, malingaliro, chipembedzo. Dziko la Ena liyenera kukhala gawo ladziko lonse la miyambo yachikhalidwe popanda kukana kapena kutsutsa chimodzi kapena china. Njira yokhayo yoyenera munthu ndiyo Njira yachidziwitso ndi chikondi.
Simunganene bwino kuposa mtumwi Paulo kuti: “Chikondi chipirira, n’chachifundo, chikondi sichidukidwa, chikondi sichidzikuza, sichidzikuza; 5sichipsa mtima, sichitsata za mwini yekha, sichikwiya, sichilingirira zoipa; 6sichikondwera ndi chinyengo, koma chikondwera ndi choonadi; 7chimakwirira chirichonse, chikhulupirira chirichonse, chiyembekeza chirichonse, chipirira chirichonse.