Nthawi zina zimaoneka kwa ife kuti tikhoza kukwaniritsa cholinga chathu pokhapokha ngati tipita kwa icho ndi chisangalalo chonse ndi kukakamizidwa. Mtundu uwu ndi wobadwa mwa amuna, akutero psychologist-acmeologist, mphunzitsi wamkazi Ekaterina Smirnova. Ndipo ife, akazi, tili ndi zida zina, nthawi zina zogwira mtima kwambiri.
Kuti mukwaniritse zolinga zomwe zakhazikitsidwa, tsatirani mwadala cholinga chomwe mukufuna, gwiritsani ntchito mwadongosolo, khalani mtsogoleri wolimba - amayi ambiri amasankha njira yotereyi mu bizinesi ndi moyo. Koma kodi nthawi zonse zimapindulitsa mkazi mwiniwakeyo?
“Nthaŵi ina, ngakhale ndisanaloŵe m’maganizo, ndinagwira ntchito pakampani yapaintaneti, kugulitsa zodzoladzola ndi mafuta onunkhiritsa, ndipo ndinapeza zotulukapo,” akukumbukira motero katswiri wa zamaganizo Ekaterina Smirnova. - Tsiku langa lonse linakonzedwa ndi mphindi: m'mawa ndinadzipangira zolinga, ndipo madzulo ndinafotokozera mwachidule zotsatira, msonkhano uliwonse unkayendetsedwa ndipo umayenera kubweretsa zotsatira zenizeni. Patapita nthaŵi, ndinakhala wogulitsa bwino koposa m’gululo, kenaka ndinalankhula ndi akazi obala zipatso 160 m’kampanimo ndi kugawana nawo zimene ndinakumana nazo.
Koma dongosolo loterolo linatenga chuma changa chonse. Zinali zamphamvu kwambiri. Inde, iyi ndi sukulu yabwino, koma nthawi ina mumazindikira kuti mwasanduka cog mumakina akulu. Ndipo amangokufinyani ngati mandimu. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, mavuto anayamba m’banja langa, ndinali ndi matenda. Ndipo ine ndinadziuza ndekha kuti, “Ima! Zokwanira!" Ndipo anasintha machenjerero.
Mphamvu ya chikhalidwe chachikazi
Ekaterina akuvomereza kuti anachita mogwirizana ndi aligorivimu mwamuna. Izi zinali zothandiza kwa abwana, koma osati kwa iyemwini kapena okondedwa ake. Anayamba kufunafuna njira zina ndi zida kuti akwaniritse zolinga zomwe zingabweretse chisangalalo, kupereka mphamvu kwa iye ndi banja lake, kumulemeretsa.
"Titha kukwaniritsa chilichonse chomwe tikufuna, koma mwanjira ina. Ndimakonda kulota ndikupangitsa maloto kukhala ngati mkazi. Zikatere, ndimadzimva ngati wamatsenga.
Kodi "chikazi" chimatanthauza chiyani? Ekaterina akufotokoza kuti: “Apa ndi pamene timaphunzira kukhala mkazi amene samangogwirizana ndi iye yekha, komanso mogwirizana ndi banja lake. - Mkazi woteroyo ali ndi chikhulupiriro mu mphamvu ya Chilengedwe, Mulungu, Amayi Wamkulu (aliyense ali ndi chinachake chake). Iye ali ndi kugwirizana ndi chikhalidwe chake chachikazi, iye amakhulupirira mwachidziwitso chachilengedwe chotukuka kwambiri ndipo amamva momwe angapangire maloto kuti akwaniritsidwe.
Malingaliro ake, mkazi amadziwa kusintha, ngati akugwira chowongolera chakutali ndi mabatani m'manja mwake, kusankha njira yake kwa membala aliyense wapakhomo kapena mnzake. Kapena amaima pachitofu chachikulu ndipo amadziwa nthawi yomwe angawonjezere moto kwa wachibale wake, ndi kuchepetsa wina. Mkazi wanzeru wotero amasonkhanitsa mphamvu, kudzaza yekha choyamba, ndiyeno amagawira zinthu zamkati kumalo oyenera ndi malangizo.
Kuti mukwaniritse zolinga zanu, simufunikanso kukwera kavalo wothamanga ndi saber wosavula kapena kukwera bulldozer, kusesa zopinga.
Pakali pano, mwanayo amafunikira chisamaliro, ndipo tsopano ndi bwino kudyetsa mwamuna wake ndikumugoneka popanda kufunsa mafunso ambiri, koma pitani kwa bwenzi lake ndikukambirana kuchokera pansi pamtima. Koma mawa mwamunayo adzakhala wopumula ndi wosangalala.
Kugawa mphamvu ndi kulimbikitsa okondedwa ndi ntchito yaikulu ya mkazi, mphunzitsi amatsimikiza. Ndipo amatha kuchita izi mosasamala, mwachilengedwe kukakamiza chilichonse kuti chizizungulira ntchito yake ndi maloto ake. Chilichonse chimathetsedwa chokha, chifukwa cha ntchito izi "malo akusintha", anthu oyenerera amapezeka omwe adzakhala aphunzitsi athu kapena kutithandiza kukwaniritsa zolinga zathu.
"Mkazi akamachita chilichonse mwachikondi, amadziwa ndi mtima wake momwe angachitire bwino, momwe angakwaniritsire maloto ake ndi mphamvu zake komanso anthu ofunda omwe amawakonda. Kuti mukwaniritse zolinga zanu, simufunikanso kukwera kavalo wothamanga ndi lupanga losolola kapena kukwera bulldozer, kusesa zopinga panjira, monga momwe amayi ambiri omwe amakonda njira za amuna amachitira.
Zida zofewa zazimayi zili ngati makalata a VIP, kupereka zidziwitso zofunika ku Chilengedwe mwachangu komanso modalirika. Mkazi amene wadziwa luso limeneli amangodziwa ndi kuchita. Monga Vasilisa wokongola, akugwedeza manja ake. Ndipo ichi si fanizo, koma zomverera zenizeni zomwe akazi, kamodzi mukuyenda, adakumana nazo.
Zida Za Amayi Wanzeru
Chimodzi mwa zida zachikazi zofewa izi zimatchedwa "Mphindi zisanu ndi ziwiri katatu". Mfundo ya ntchito yake ndi kudutsa magawo asanu ndi awiri kuchokera pakuvomera ntchito mpaka kuyithetsa. “Tinene kuti ndili ndi maloto: Ndikufuna kuti banja langa lisamukire ku nyumba ina yabwinoko. Ndimamuuza mwamuna wanga za nkhaniyi. Kodi iye ayamba kuchita chiyani? Mu 99% ya milandu timakumana ndi kukana. "Nafenso tikumva bwino kuno!", Kapena "Tsopano sitingakwanitse!", Kapena "Tsopano sizili choncho - ndimaliza ntchitoyi ...".
Mkazi wamba adzakhumudwa kapena adzatsimikizira mwaukali mlandu wake. Mkazi wanzeru amadziwa kuti ali ndi nthawi zina zisanu ndi chimodzi za mphindi zitatu. Adzatha kumukumbutsanso za maloto ake, koma mwanjira ina.
Mkaziyo adzakwaniritsa kuti pofika nthawi yachisanu ndi chiwiri mwamunayo adzalingalira lingaliro ili osati losangalatsa, komanso lake.
Kachiwiri, adzayika kalozera wa nyumba zatsopano pamalo owoneka bwino, akukangana mokweza kuti kwawala bwanji komanso kuti mwamuna wake adzakhala ndi ofesi yakeyake, ndipo aliyense wa ana ali ndi chipinda chake. Sizingatheke kuti panthawiyi mwamunayo avomereze, koma adzadikira kachitatu. Pokambirana ndi amayi ake kapena apongozi ake, adzagawana lingaliro. "Chabwino ... muyenera kuganiza za izo," mwamuna adzatero.
Ndipo kotero pang'onopang'ono, mobwerezabwereza, ndi kutenga nawo mbali kwa zinthu zosiyanasiyana, mabuku, abwenzi, maulendo okacheza ku nyumba yaikulu, kukambirana pamodzi, adzakwaniritsa kuti pofika nthawi yachisanu ndi chiwiri mwamunayo adzalingalira lingaliro ili osati losangalatsa, komanso. zake. "Ndakhala ndikulankhula za izi kwa nthawi yayitali, sichoncho, wokondedwa?" "Zowona, wokondedwa, lingaliro labwino!" Ndipo aliyense ali wokondwa, chifukwa chisankhocho chinapangidwa ndi chikondi.
“Aliyense wa ife, monga wocheka, amakongoletsa m’mphepete mwa diamondi moyo wake wonse. Tikuphunzira kukhala opanga, ophatikizana, okhudzana ndi jenda lathu lachikazi ndi mphamvu zake, kuti timve ngati amatsenga enieni omwe amapanga kukongola, kutentha ndi chikondi, "akutero Ekaterina Smirnova. Ndiye mwina muyenera kuyesa?